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Why is surrogacy considered controversial?
Hi everybody. How are you all? I am starting this thread as means for people to share their opinion regarding surrogacy. I don’t get it that we are in the 21st century and surrogacy is still considered controversial in so many society. Taking a broad view of surrogacy I found that most people still consider it unethical and immoral and most of these people don’t know what it is like to go through infertility. I stand with surrogacy and consider it a beautiful process. What are your views?
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Welcome to the forum . Yes surrogacy is treated as a controversial subject. I also had many complications during my first marriage.I had 3 miscarriages.At 43 years i'm married to an other person now.At this age it is not a good idea to be pregnant.So i have decided to go for surrogacy.I contacted a clinic regarding surrogacy in Ukraine too.The clinic will help us to have our baby.They will find a good surrogate mom for us. I think you should also go for surrogacy. Good luck.
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It is a beautiful process. There is no doubt about that. People made it offensive. I've been talking before. There is a clinic that offered my friend a surrogacy procedure. They told them that they are looking to their surrogate. After a while, they stop replying to her. She is totally broken after that. It can't be worse than that. Those people make it offensive. We should really be careful of them. They are really worse. The process has no problem. It's great. Everyone loves it. The people had such experiences says that it's bad.
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Hey. I totally agree with you. But at least people have started talking about it now. Previously, even talking about surrogacy was a taboo. It helped me in my hard time and gave me the biggest gift I could ask for. I too stand with surrogacy. This post was needed. We need to spread awareness about this and how it is helping people.
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According to me it is not a good thing. I'm sharing my journey of Surrogacy with you. I'm basically from Japan we are settled in Japan from past few years.We are happily married.I'm totally infertile now as i had hysterectomy cancer and as i result i am infertile now. But my husband was there with me every time. Than we searched about surrogacy and found it best solution for us. As Japan has banned surrogacy so we moved to Europe to find our dream come true.Than we moved to Ukraine as we heard there are many good clinics regarding surrogacy in Ukraine.In Ukraine we found a clinic and consulted them.They helped us to find a good surrogate mom.Now she is pregnant with our twin daughters.We are very excited about having two daughters.We are so thankful to the clinic.The surrogates mom are kind they let us have our dream come true. Share your stories too
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Hello Angelica. How are you doing? I hope you're okay. This is a brilliant post. You're correct. Surrogacy has such a negative connotation. It's really unfair. People don't understand how difficult it is to be infertile. The long hard months of TTC. Especially, when there's no result. It gets really tough. It's honestly so horrible. I'm glad you've found a solution. Good luck, I hope things go smoothly from here. Lots of baby dust your way.
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Hi Angelica, How are you? I am glad you talked about such a sensitive issue. I am also in favor of surrogacy. i am an infertile. My husband and i chose surrogacy over adoption and IVF. We decided to contact Lotus clinic for the treatment. We contacted them via email and asked about the procedure details. But they didn't reply us back after sending several emails. It seems like they are not interested in giving the info. Their communication service is really pathetic.
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This is a great awareness post. Thank you, Angelica, for starting this post. I stand with surrogacy and find it a beautiful blessing. Most people don't go for surrogacy just because they're afraid of the reaction of people around them. This really is very wrong. Infertile people also deserve to have children like the ones who can conceive naturally. Those people who have babies naturally find surrogacy as unethical and unnatural. Well, yes they're very lucky but that doesn't mean they should bash others. Not all people do it. And no harsh feelings for anyone but it's this that this thing disturbs me a lot. How are people like me supposed to have children when we are unable to conceive naturally? Yes, adoption is an option but having a biological baby wins over adopting a baby. I wish people realize the importance of surrogacy. It should be legalized in every country. Best wishes!
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Hey, Angelica, I hope you are well. Surrogacy is still a controversial issue and that surprises me. My child is from surrogacy which I had a year ago. Initially, I was also nervous because I was unsure about it. I guess one of the major reasons why so many people are hesitant about the procedure is because of the lack of awareness. Traditional media keeps on trying their level best to portray a negative image. They constantly quote one or two bad experiences from the past. However, online so many success stories are being shared on the daily basis. Sadly, these go unreported by the media. I think if you are opting for surrogacy you have to be well-researched. If you properly research you will have a clear picture of which clinics are doing it well and which are not. Choosing a good clinic is really important and shouldn't be taken lightly. This will determine how good your experience would be. My experience only went amazing because of my choice of the clinic. I too stand with surrogacy because after disappointments it was the one which helped me become a mother.
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Yes! that's the poor and closed minded concept now. Even, I also had few questions about it. But, now next month I'm heading to a center in Ukraine for my surrogacy process! People just need unbiased awareness about it. It's completely normal. They should understand... :)
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Surrogacy is an unnatural process. But indeed it is a blessing. Many people have no other option except surrogacy. I have faced infertility for many yeasr. I have faced it for almost 10 years. I wanted to be a mother but I was not that much lucky. In the end, I decided to go for surrogacy. I went to a clinic in Europe. The clinic provided me with a healthy surrogate. I am a mother now.
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Surrogacy is an unnatural procedure. My friend has confronted infertility for some years. She has confronted it for right around 7 years. Her husband was also infertile. She wanted to be a mother yet She was not that much fortunate. At last, I chose to go for surrogacy. She went to a clinic Lotus. From its appearance it was amazing but it was a shock for her when she visited the clinic. They were not taking their clients serious and secondly they were so ignorant. She then went to a clinic in Europe suggested by her doctor.
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Hey dear. This is such a nice thread. Surrogacy is really amazing. It has helped alot of people. It has helped me. It's so good to see that people share a similar opinion. I love it and I would recommend it to all. I wish everyone good luck. take care.
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Hello dear. Hope you are doing well. I agree with you. Surrogacy is indeed very controversial topic. Some view it as unethical. The reason is they haven't gone through the pain of infertility. Mostly old people are against surrogacy. The reason is they have a different thinking than young generation.
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Hi. Hope you are fine? I always support surrogacy. Mostly those people are against surrogacy who conceive naturally. they don't feel the pain of an infertile couple. ladies don't listen to others. It's your life. Take your own decisions. Good luck.
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Thanks for sharing your view about surrogacy. Surrogacy is a blessing indeed for people like us who cannot conceive naturally. I am an infertile person. I have two children because of blessings of surrogacy. I also don't understand why some people didn't support surrogacy. Surrogacy completed many families. So it should be supported. I also stand with surrogacy. Stay blessed
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Angelica, this is true. There is still a stigma associated with surrogacy in this century. Because what I think is, the parent who pursues I make it doubtful or don't say true to their children Then later in their lives the history repeats itself. `So it is immoral that the parents who perused it must eliminate the stigma first from their families. They must be vocal and open about how the treatment has filled their lives. Moreover, it is just like any other treatment to get healthy. Ann Also, the eggs and sperms are of the IP's in most cases, however, in case of donor sperm or donor eggs, the child is genetically related to one of the parents. So, it is not bad at all. Let's start with our own family to eliminate the stigma associated with surrogacy. I am also pursuing surrogacy. It became the last resort to me because when else failed, it came to rescue!!
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Dear Sofia. I am with you in this. Infertility is something that is not rare these days. I see every other woman complaining about it. Sulking about it. Medicine has made many advancements. And one of them is alternative fertility methods. If we don't make use of it who else will? Infertility is something that breaks a woman. She loses her loved ones throughout the illness. And there are no people by her side. If surrogacy prevents all of this from happening then why not go for it. We all deserve happiness. And if surrogacy is giving us that happiness, why not gain the most from it. I stand by you. And support surrogacy. keep up the good work.
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Hey Angelica. I totally support the concept of surrogacy either. It is a blessing for infertile people and an act of humanity for people to help people merely resulting in good socialism. I think it is a good concept and works pretty fine too with little to zero failures. I hope you get my point here. I am also infertile and I got my child through surrogacy, my parents did not find it an ethical practice but I had no other option and I wanted it so bad. This had to be done. I pacified my parents somehow. I hope you now know my views. It's controversial because of the generation gap. It'll be okay in a few years.
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You are so right. Thank you for posting this. There need to be such posts on these forums. I wonder the same. There are so many success stories on Youtube. They prove that it actually is successful. It can provide hope to infertile couples. For some couples, it is the only way to have kids. Yet, there are people who have opposite views. They find surrogacy controversial. They think it is not natural. Those who opt for it do not consider its naturalism. They only care about having babies. I would always recommend surrogacy to others. It has given me two daughters.
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Hey, Angelica, I hope you're good. It is true that people are controversial about surrogacy. However, the process is wonderful. I myself have opted for it. The clinic's success rate if high your experience will go good. My experience is going good mainly due to this reason. The doctors are professional and experienced. I really liked the way they deal with things. They have proper checks through which surrogate is chosen. She has to pass the medical test. This ensures that she has no disease. This way both the child and the surrogate mother remain safe. Also, the clinic is so efficient and systematic. They make sure no error is made. I hope it is a success.
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I DON'T GET IT! Why would they call it controversial? or unethical? Are these people out of their minds? Are they going through the pain we go through? It's easy to declare something one or another. But only those who've been there can tell the real story. I've been barren for years. Did conceive, but had a miscarriage. I started believing that I'm the most unlucky woman on Earth. If it weren't for surrogacy, I had started to believe that I have no shot at becoming a mother. So those who haven't been there, have no right to call it anything. I totally support it. I got my happiness back because of it. And hundreds of other women did too. I stand for surrogacy!
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Yeah. I never think that too. Why are you worried. I hope everything will be alright soon. They should be considered it on Govt level. They must take good care of this. We all are with this treatment. It's really great.
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Hi Angelica. I think it is mostly people who have their own children that think so. I do not see why a couple going through so much physical and emotional pain should be judged. Only for wanting to have a child of their own. It is an amazing procedure, which makes it possible for infertile couples to have their own children. I have a friend who had been battling infertility for so long. Recently she got to hold her own daughter through a surrogate. Seeing her struggle, I believe there is nothing immoral or unethical with surrogacy.
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Hello, Angelica, I trust you're great. The reality of the matter is that individuals are questionable about surrogacy. Be that as it may, the procedure is magnificent. I myself have picked it. The centre's prosperity rate if high your experience will go great. My experience is going great for the most part because of this reason. The specialists are proficient and experienced. I extremely preferred the manner in which they manage things. They have legitimate checks through which surrogate is picked. She needs to breeze through the medicinal test. This guarantees she has no malady. Along these lines both the tyke and the surrogate mother stay safe. Additionally, the centre in Ukraine is so effective and deliberate. They ensure no mistake is made. I trust it is a win.
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hey Angelica,Hope you are doing well.I am happy that you started this post.This topic needs to be addressed and talked upon.Why is it our first reaction to any new thing is negative.Consider it to be science or any other thing.We are hostile towards it.This is what i have found people doing in the case of surrogacy.Recently I have found that we as a society have become more inconsiderate.Nit everybody is normal and can have child when they want.Infertile people too want their child,I believe surrogacy gives them this opportunity and i think we should support surrogacy.,
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Hey there, how are you? I hope you are doing fine. Yes, you are right. Infertility is sure sick disease and has destroyed so many dreams. I would like to advise you to go for surrogacy. Surrogacy is a real blessing for those who are infertile. Thanks and good luck.
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Everyone must have a broad view. I am serious. I never had one. After that, I found a great clinic. My friend recommended me that clinic. They really helped me a lot. It was a great experience for me. After that day, my vision is changed. It's good now.
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I agree with you. Surrogacy is a great fertility treatment nowadays. Surrogacy is a blessing in disguise for those people who cannot able to conceive naturally. I don't understand why people still think that surrogacy is immoral. Why they don't think that like fertile people, infertile also have a wish of having children and they deserve. Surrogacy is the last hope for them. My sister becomes a mother because of the blessing of surrogacy. I hope people should think that no one wants to be infertile It just happens to the people. Stay blessed.
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You are totally right. It's a beautiful process. And it's there for our benefit only. What's the downside to it? Neither of the parties is being forced into it. I think the bans from it in several countries should be removed. I hate to see people suffering due to problems that are out of their control. No one chooses to be infertile. I stand with surrogacy as well. Thank you for writing this post. Hopefully, many others will agree to this as well!
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Hi there. How are you doing? Hope you are doing fine. We are doing good. I read your post. I totally agree with you. Like What the hell is wrong with people? It is 2018. You still can't wrap your head around the whole thing that infertility exists? Why can't you see others happy? Why can't you be positive and support and impact every other person in a positive way? These people are already going through a tough time. Let them live happy. I hope my words resonate with you. I hope people help others heal instead of hurting each other. Take care. God bless.
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Hi there. How are you doing? Hope you are doing fine. We are doing good. I read your post. I totally agree with you. Like What the hell is wrong with people? It is 2018. You still can't wrap your head around the whole thing that infertility exists? Why can't you see others happy? Why can't you be positive and support and impact every other person in a positive way? These people are already going through a tough time. Let them live happy. I hope my words resonate with you. I hope people help others heal instead of hurting each other. Take care. God bless.
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Hi dear, I hope you are doing fine. I completely agree with you. Surrogacy is indeed a great blessing for all those going through infertility. But the problem is that we have a lack of information regarding its needs and benefits. Some people still consider it as illegal and they are usually the ones who are fertile. Though I am fertile, I support surrogacy.
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Hi Angelica, i think that is a really good decision. Surrogacy is a really good option to choose during infertility. There are clinics which can help her out. These clinics take their work very seriously, rather than waste your time. I would advise you to contact them, and discuss your situation.
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Hey angelica. You're right. Surrogacy is an amazing procedure. Medieval thinking will get people nowhere. They don't know what pain women go through. Being a mother is all a girl wants. I hope society gets better someday.
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This might be possible because of lack of awareness. I have seen, however, a drastic change and people now have a more positive attitude towards it. Surrogacy has helped many people fight through infertility therefore, people should be thankful towards. It is also because of certain clinics and areas that have given it the bad name. However, there are other clinics who are operating professionally and are abiding by the rules. The one I am visiting has a policy and rule regulations that they follow. This makes the treatment much more valid. Good luck to all those who are planning to or have opted for surrogacy.
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Surrogacy is a blessing for so many of us. The issue is not with the procedure. It is the lack of laws and regulations that is an issue. Just like any other industry, medical tourism needs to have strict laws and rules. If properly regulated it would be very beneficial for everyone. It is the lack of regulations which create a fear among people. I will be going for it myself because it is an amazing treatment for infertility.
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I totally agree with you. It is indeed an idea that has revolved around. However, I believe surrogacy is an amazing process. I myself have opted for it. It was the only option left for me to have a kid that was genetically linked to us. It is really important to visit the right doctor and the clinic for the process. Once, I understood that things got a lot better. The clinic I am visiting is operating at a high success rate. The doctors are also experienced. The clinic also knew how to deal with the legalities which was an amazing thing. I wanted to visit someone who could help me with the paperwork as well. I hope things go well for you. Sending baby dust your way. Just stay positive and strong. If you need any help let me know.
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Hey Angelica! I m doing great, thanks for asking. I know many people think that that is immoral. But it's because they don't have enough knowledge of such treatments. Many people don't even know the whole process. So it's important to spread awareness about them so people can really understand them. I have also started my treatment and things are looking quite positive for me right now. The clinic I have opted for is also quite affordable. The success rate is very high as well so I don't have anything to worry about. I also stand with surrogacy and will recommend this to anyone who's looking for help. Good luck! Stay blessed. Take care. Bye!
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@karencriss I really agree with you on this. People dont really have enough knowledge of this treatment. They just listen to it from a third person perspective and make an assumption about it. However, I believe that is very wrong. You should ask the one who experienced it first hand. I am in the end days of the process and things are going really amazing for us. I am glad I decided to opt for the process. I believe if a good clinic is chosen things do go well.
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Hi, Angelica. I hope you're doing alright. This is such an important topic. I'm glad you raised it! You're absolutely right, surrogacy should not be considered as something wrong. It's a perfectly fine procedure, especially the one done in Europe because they are not exploiting anyone. Surrogates do it voluntarily, and if they're getting paid, then they deserve it. So, there's nothing wrong in it.
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You're absolutely correct. Surrogacy should not be frowned upon. It's very important to talk about this. We cannot hold it in a negative light all the time. You're doing the right thing. Good luck on your journey! I hope you go for it without thinking too much about it.

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