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Some advice
Hello, everyone. How have you all been? It's been a while since I last posted. I hope all of you are doing good. I was actually really busy. Parenthood is exciting but also really hectic. It's almost like I barely sleep these days! Hold that thought, while I ask for some advice. As you all know, I recently gave birth to a beautiful baby daughter. As recently as eight months ago. So, I've been thinking about going for a second. I had a lot of success for my first one thanks to IVF. I will most probably need to rely on assisted conception, again. However, do you guys think it's a good idea to go for a second baby as early as eight months, in? P.S, my husband thinks we should wait for a few months.
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Hi, I'm doing great. I hope you're okay, too. You should sleep more! I know it's really hard to manage everything. Especially, when it's your first time. But, at least you're blessed with this experience! I think it's all about you. If you feel comfortable, and you think you can manage. Then, you really should go for it. I think it would make sense going for it, this early. Then, you can have both your kids growing up at the same time. I would definitely prefer that. It's your decision to make though. Good luck to you. You can do it!
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Hello, Madison! It's great to have you back! Yeah, it has been a while, now. You're thinking about going for a second? How cute! Good luck to you. I definitely agree with what Maline has to say. I think it's a great idea!
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You should go for it. Parenthood is supposed to be hectic. Plus, I think your daughter would love to have a sibling growing up. I think it makes sense. I can only offer you advice. In the end, it is your decision to make. If you keep waiting to be ready, you won't ever be. Something always comes up. I think it's nice that you have this dilemma. I'm still trying for my first. Good luck to you. I hope whatever you do, is in the best interest of you! I hope this helps you. Sending lots of baby dust for you. Lots of love to the young one!
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This was really nice of you, all! I needed some advice. I wasn't expecting such an overwhelming response. I'm humbled, really. Thank you so much, guys! I have decided to go for it. My husband needed a bit of convincing. I managed to do it, haha. Yes, you guys are right, Anna, my daughter, should grow up with a sibling. I grew up with three, and it was a fun household. I think I'm going to go for it right away. I'll schedule an appointment with the clinic that I went to. So that I have a better idea about what to do. We think IVF is a straightforward choice. However, my friend told me that IUIs are cheaper, and quite effective as well. Let's see how the test results come out.
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Great idea, Madison! Keep us updated, please. I would love to follow your journey. I also have an appointment planned. We could be TTC buddies! Lots of baby dust for you. Good luck to you!
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Hi, Mindy. How are you holding up? How did your appointment go? I had a really good time! It's great to see such people working at that clinic! They helped me out so much. I'm quite indecisive, myself. I was torn, whether to go for such treatments. They made me feel so much at home! I underwent the IVF procedure. They cleared me for pregnancy. I'm quite excited, actually! I hope to hear some good news, now! The two-week wait is so hard! I hope I get the BFP. I'm not sure I can wait as long again!
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Firstly, congratulations on your first IVF cycle working out. I am sure that must be so exciting for you. I hope you and the baby are doing well. If you think you are ready to opt for it the second time then you can g forward with it. However, your child is very young at that time and does require your attention. Whereas IVF will require you take medication and shots that could make you very tired and you would also be required to do rest. Therefore, my suggestion to you would be to think about all of these before you take any decision. You could start the process of signing yourself up. This will take some bit of time as well. Maybe by the time you have your IVF treatment started the baby will grow up as well. Good luck to you. I hope whatever decision you decide to opt for it is the best for you. Sending baby dust your way. Do keep us updated.
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Thank you so much, Anna. This is a different perspective. It helps me think about what I want to do! I did not think this through. This is why I like this forum. People are always willing to help each other out! I will make sure to update on how it goes.
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First of all congratulations on your successful IVF. You are lucky to have a baby from IVF. And parenthood is really amazing and for the woman like us who can't have a baby naturally for them, it is the blessing. You should go for a proper health checkup before going for another round of IVF. Proper health checkup is very necessary as it will have an impact on the baby as well. If the doctors allow you to go for IVF then you should probably go for it. I hope your this cycle will also go well. Good luck with your next IVF cycle.
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I'm so glad things went smoothly, Madison. That's a good start. You should stay positive and hopeful. IVF is a very good option to pursue. I've met a lot of women who've managed to conceive thanks to IVF. It seems to keep on gaining more popularity. Along with popularity, it's also becoming more effective. That's great to see. I absolutely agree with you, the two-week wait is so tough. It just does not seem to end! I got a BFN after my first one. That was a nightmare, I had zero motivation to go again. Here's to hoping you have different fortunes and get a BFP. May the New Year bring you a BFP! Good luck and keep us updated!
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Hi Madison! How are you? It's been a long time girl. I am glad that you still took time out for us. And yes Congratulations on your beautiful princess. If you think you are ready for doing it again and your body is strong enough, then nothing will stop you from making it work. You can wait for some months and then try, but if you are not willing to, then there's no problem of trying it again. They will grow together with a very little difference which will help you when you are admitting them into school. I hope things go well for you. Give my love to your beautiful daughter. Take good care of yourself. My blessings are with you. Good luck! Goodbye!
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Hi Madison! I hope you are doing fine. It feels so good to see that we are like a family here. No matter what, we try to take the time out for each other. I am so happy that you are a mother now. Isn't it a wonderful thing? Nothing in this world feels better than holding your baby. I took a one year gap between my both cycles. So it's better to get enough rest so your body is able to handle it. Otherwise it really depends on you. If you think you are ready, then just go for it. I hope you it works out for you. Good luck! Stay blessed. Bye!
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Hi Madison! How are you? I am great, thanks for asking. We never forget anyone here, that's the beauty of our forum. It feels so good that the members here treat each other like family. In my opinion, it's too early to go for a second treatment. You have one baby right now, have fun with her and make some good memories. A second baby will also put a lot of pressure on your pocket. So make sure you are keeping an eye on all those things. Congratulations on your baby girl. Give that princess love from my side. Stay blessed. Take care. Bye!
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I'm very happy for you! I wish your beautiful daughter good health! It seems to me that you need to listen to the opinion of your spouse. With babies, it’s always not easy. Therefore, it seems to me that you should wait 1-2 years. Through this period, your daughter will grow up and it will be easier for you. Of course, if you have a nanny, then you can think about conceiving a second child. However, it seems to me that without a nanny it will be very difficult for you to cope with two babies.
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Hi Madison! I am doing great, thanks for asking. I hope you are doing well. Welcome back to the forum. Oh yes, you are right, Parenting is a full day job. You can't escape it. You have to be attentive all the time. Your baby needs all your attention. Try to give yourself more time to enjoy the time with your first baby. When the second baby will come, you won't be able to enjoy it much. But register yourself now, because it will take some time for your turn to come. Good luck. Stay strong. TakeCare. Byeee!
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Hi Madison! I am great. How are you? Well, my little boy is making it hard for me to give anything else my time. In the starting months of his birth, i was not even able to sleep. The baby requires all your attention. So if you are ttc make sure you are ready to do that. If you don't give the baby all your attention, you will miss so many great things and you will also not get a chance to teach him anything. It's fine if you go for the baby now. As it will take some time and even after the transfer it's going to take so many months. So you are good to go. Stay strong love. Love you for sharing this with us. Goodbye!
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Hi Madison! How are you? So you are thinking about another baby. Well if you think you can handle two babies at once, then go for it. Otherwise, you can wait and try for it later. It's never too late. So you don't have to worry about that. Your husband is right, you should wait some more months because the older your first baby, the easier it will be for you to conceive the next baby. Because then that baby won't require your full attention. And it's hard to deal with two newborn babies at once. Good luck. See you. Take good care of yourself. Bye!
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Hi! Madison, raising a child is not that easy. If it was an easy job, then everyone would be an expert since the first day. But no it takes time to learn how to deal with different things of a baby. It's not something you can learn in a day or two. It will take time. Also, I agree with your husband. It will be much better for you if you wait for some more months. Because then your first baby will be old enough for you to focus on your second baby. It still depends on you. Hope this helps. God bless you. Look after yourself. Byebye!

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