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Question Surrogacy
I have a general question regarding surrogacy. Like when we'll have a baby from a surrogate mom who will hold the baby for the first time. Us or the surrogate mom. Its very hard to give birth to a baby.I know the pain of delivering a baby. These type of several questions strike my mind many times. I guess surrogacy is the only solution to my problem. A friend has now suggested me to search for some international clinics that do not reside in our country. You should also visit a surrogacy related clinic. I have recently found one situated in Ukraine. They have quite a costless package with all the facilities. I have had many treatments from many experts but they never turn out to work out for me the way I hope them to. I have tried IUI and IVF but they failed for me many many times. People have now told me about surrogacy and I am really thinking about going for it. I just need some guidelines as surrogacy is illegal in the state where I live and I am very scared. I just need to complete my life and my family before it is too late for me even to try. I think you should give it a try too because in my view it is quite a suitable procedure for women of our age I have pregnancy issue and complications from the past 10 years and I still am childless as I have always been. There must be some way to carry out everything legally, right?
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Surrogacy is very simple don't worry about these questions. Everything will be fine. I think i should also share my experience about surrogacy for someone seeking for it. I was infertile due to cancer and i was unable to have a baby. Later we found about surrogacy.We moved from Japan to Europe for surrogacy. With the help of internet in Europe we came to know about a good clinic there. We than moved to Ukraine.We finally went through surrogacy.Soon we will have to beautiful daughters via Surrogacy. Surrogacy is very good you people should also research about it i guess.
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It is costly you are correct. The point what do you want. What is more important to you? I think the answer is pretty obvious. I guess you should stop thinking about this now. If you have the money. Just please use it without thinking. If you don't have it. Then that is a separate issue. we can give something to it. Well, I don't think you have to worry this much. Of course, the international clinics surely help you. Still, if you can't afford it. Go for adoption. Aren't you thinking about it? Adoption is great. I guess you should take that instead. It could be very helpful for you.
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hey there. how are you now? I hope your fine. I'm seriously sorry for your condition. I can feel you. infertility is hard I know. let me guide you. my sister is under surrogacy procedure in Ukraine. that's a good clinic so far. professional work. all the process is done in a legal way. accommodation and food are provided too. you can search it up. keep me updated. much health to you. take care.
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Hi Sofia, How are You? It is sad to know about you. Yes, your worries are very right. When we are going to do something new many questions strike our mind. Some strangers are also there. They should be called as leg-pullers. Instead, of giving right suggestion they always tried to misguide. That's why we became scared of things. Surrogates are such a blessing. They carry our baby in their womb, have C-section etc. They bear all the pain for us. But after delivery child is handed over to the IPs. In Ukraine there is a surrogacy clinic BioTexCom. There is a very friendly environment. they have their owned surrogates mother's too. you must visit this link BiotexCom.com. It will be helpful for you to forget your queries. All the best dear.
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Hey. I am sorry for you. Really 10 years is such a long time. But I am happy that you are considering surrogacy for yourself. I am happy for you so much. Indeed surrogacy is an amazing process for a woman like us. A woman always wants her own baby. It is a successful procedure that other treatments. I think you should probably go for it as soon as possible. I am also a mother of a baby. I got him through surrogacy. It really went well for me. I went to a clinic in Europe. First, it was an affordable clinic. Second, Surrogacy is legal there. I hope this would help you.
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Hello. I am sad for you. Truly 10 years is so long. In any case, I am glad that you are thinking about surrogacy for yourself. I am upbeat for you to such an extent. To be sure surrogacy is an astonishing procedure for a ladylike us. A lady dependably needs her own child. It is an effective method than different procedures. I figure you ought to most likely take the plunge as quickly as time permits. I am likewise a mother of an infant. I got him through surrogacy. I have faced infertility for 10 years. The reason was unknown. It truly went well for me. I went to a facility in Europe. To start with, it was a moderate facility. Second, Surrogacy is lawful there. I trust this would encourage you.
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Sorry for your failure on IVF and IUI. Hope you would find some positivity in surrogacy soon. Well to answer your question. Let's just start with the thing named surrogate who would be carrying your baby. You would have the biological link with the baby and you are the intended parents, You could hold the baby first. But you must have a friendly relationship with the surrogate. As she would be responsible to carry your baby. And this is not an easy job. This is just a relationship with one mother to another. Hope you have found some good clinic with great results. I would love to hear up your progress soon. Good luck.
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Hey, there I hope you're doing fine. Your concerns are very much every starters concern. When I had my child through surrogacy I made the surrogate hold the baby so it really is up to you. I wanted her to hold the baby because she carried it for 9 months and it was at least her right to see it for the first time. Most of the surrogates don't have any sort of attachment to the baby reason why after one glimpse they are hand over the baby to you. However, I didn't want to be too overprotective about the baby, therefore, was completely calm throughout the labor. Apart from that in my suggestion, you should definitely opt for the procedure. Surrogacy has the tendency to change your life.
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Hi there! how are you doing? I hope you are doing fine. We are doing great. I read your post. Surrogacy is a wonderful process. I think the answer to your question would be discussed in your first meeting with the surrogate mother. This is some sort of thing both couples can talk about. Yes, Biotex Com in Kiev, Ukraine is a wonderful clinic. Their plans are really low cost as compared to other clinics. The atmosphere of the facility is very nice. I think you should go visit them. I hope you become a mother soon. Take care. God bless.
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Hey there Sofia. How are you doing? I hope its all okay. I am really sorry that you have to go for surrogacy. Surrogacy is a blessing though. I think you should go to Ukraine. very well know for it. I had my surrogacy there too. Take care. good luck.
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Hello Sofia! What's going on with you? I hope everything will be okay with you. I felt glad that you are going for surrogacy treatment. Surrogacy is such a great blessing of science. I think you should go to Europe for the treatment. I have read many positive reviews about the clinics there. My sister-in-law also had surrogacy from there. I'm sure it will work for you too. Best wishes and love for you!
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Oh, that is not even a thing to worry about. My friend, surrogacy is quite a smooth journey. Through all those nine months you develop a beautiful relationship with the surrogate and your baby. It really does not mtter who holds the baby first. The baby is still gonna be yours. We had an amazing time in Ukraine while our surrogacy. Our surrogate was a nice lady. She was not only our surrogate. She was more than that. She was a friend and a tour guide as well. She made our stay comfortable and memorable. She made everything so easy for us. I wish you enjoy your time too. Love and luck to you. Baby dust on your way. Stay blessd.
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Hello there! How are you all? Hope you guys are doing great. It is not really that worrisome. Important thing is that you ge a baby. You'll be there when the baby delivers. If you you wanna be the first to hold your baby, ask your surrogate in advance. If she is willing to give you the baby, she'll surely let you you hold the baby first. It is all a matter of mutual understanding. And whatever happens, you'll take the baby home. The baby will be yours forever. Isn't it great? What else can you ask for? I wish you good luck. Stay blessed. Happy parenting.
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I agree with you as surrogacy is expensive. Well, it is dependent on your choice. Which thing is most important to you? I'm sure you'll get your reply by yourself. Dear, don't think so much if you are really interested in it. If you don't have enough money than it's up to you. You don't need to worry about the success as surrogacy is without any doubt very successful. In some countries, surrogacy is prohibited. While in some countries surrogacy is expensive. But some clinics in Ukraine are offering surrogacy in economic packages. They are very good in their way of dealing with the patients. But some clinics in Ukraine are looting people too. They offer them treatment at even half prices. But after receiving payments, it's rare for people to get a reply from them. So, be careful of them. Lotus and Adonis clinics are prominent among them.
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Hey there, I hope you are okay. I’m glad that you decided to go for surrogacy. Surrogacy is a great blessing of science. Many clinics in Europe are offering surrogacy treatment. Success rates of surrogacy are very high. I also had successful surrogacy experience from there. Take care and best of luck!
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There is no need to be scared. You just need to be wise. Look up for clinics in Europe. Ukraine particularly. I have been there on a research project. I have found some really good clinics there. Though I have gathered quite some negative comments too. There are this clinic names Lotus. They are known to have a noncooperative staff. So if you don't wanna get caught between confusing events and no one to guide. Avoid going to that clinic. Otherwise, you can look up for other reliable clinics. You will get proper instructions. All the legal procedures will be followed. They will inform you about when will be the baby delivered. When will you be able to carry the baby? Everything will be explained.
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Hey Sofia. How are you doing? Hope so you are doing fine. Well going through infertility is the worst thing for women. Also in the post, it is thought to be a curse for a couple. But nowadays it is curable due to science. Indeed surrogacy is a wonder for the infertile couple. You raised a good question. But the main thought is an infertile couple going to have happiness. They are going to have a special place in the world. So we all should encourage this process.
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Hello Sofia, I think you’d be okay. It’s great that you are going for surrogacy. Surrogacy is a great blessing of science. I would like to recommend you some prominent clinics for the treatment. Many clinics in Europe are providing great assistance in this regard. I’m sure that you’ll be successful in the end. Baby dust at your doorsteps!
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Don't worry dear. There is a good clinic in Europe. They are best in dealing with surrogacy. All your worries will be finished. Once you meet the surrogate mother at that clinic. My sister had her surrogacy from theirs. After her baby, she had very good terms with the surrogate mother. Till then I wish you a very good luck.
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Hey Sofia. It is okay to ask these question. They would bother any mother. But you have to understand that they should not matter as long as you have your baby. Surrogacy is an amazing procedure. I mean these women go through 9 months to give birth to someone else's child. There is a clinic in Ukraine. Known as the Biotexcom. You should consult them for your surrogate mother. They are the best with dealing in surrogacy. I hope you find the best solution to your problem. I am quite sure that you will be successful at the end of the procedure. Just stay positive. And keep in contact with the surrogate mother. The doctors will guide you through the rest.
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Hi sofia. I see you are interested in surrogacy. All your concerns and questions should be dealt with by the clinic you choose and if you are not satisfied do not continue with them. there are many scammers out there trying to scam you. There is one adonis clinic who are totally unprofessional. avoid them please.
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Hey Sofia, hope you are doing well. As far as I know it depends upon the clinics policy. But in mostly cases they dont let the surrogate mother to hold the child. Though it seems unethical on some level. But maybe it is necessary for both the surrogate and intended parents to keep the situation straight. Otherwise an emotional dilemma might be created. I also want to go for surrogacy. I understand the complexity. It is very difficult to carry the baby for months and loose them right away, But I personally will prefer to dont complicate things by arousing the surrogate's motherhood feelings. Please pray for me. I wanted to start my process asap. But the clinic I relied on is not worthy. Lotus clinic has the worst staff i ever encountered. So I have to switch clinic now and start from scratch.
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Hi there. ten years is such a long time. I am sorry that you had to go through such a tough time. At the same time, I am so happy for you. Congratulations on finally deciding to go for surrogacy. Your worries and questions are something I heard my friend discuss when she was considering surrogacy. Let me tell you at the moment, it did not really matter whether she or the surrogate held the baby. But since she was the mother, she was the first one to hold the baby. And it was an amazing site. I really hope you get to do the same very soon. Surrogacy is the right option for so many. Stay strong and everything will work out. Keep us updated. Love and best wishes.
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Hi there! how are you doing? I hope you are doing fine. We are doing great. I read your post. Surrogacy is a wonderful process. I think the answer to your question would be discussed in your first meeting with the surrogate mother. This is some sort of thing both couples can talk about. Yes, Biotex Com in Kiev, Ukraine is a wonderful clinic. Their plans are really low cost as compared to other clinics. The atmosphere of the facility is very nice. I think you should go visit them. I hope you become a mother soon. Take care. God bless.
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Hello! Hope you are doing well. It is good to know that you are thinking about the surrogacy. It is the best way of getting a baby. Do not worry about the process. It is the safest way of getting a baby. If it is banned in your country, you can go abroad for it. There are many best clinics in Ukraine or it. They will provide you with a surrogate mother. Their success rate of the surrogacy is really high. So I will recommend you to do not waste your more time. Just go for it and complete your family. Through it, you can get a child biologically connected to you. So my all best wishes with you. Stay blessed. Take care of yourself.
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Hey there, Sofia! I hope you're feeling better now. I'm very sorry to know about your infertility. Accepting the bitter truth and moving forward in life is for the best. I'm glad to know that you're going for a surrogacy process. It is literally the best invention in today's world. Surrogacy is the best alternative for people who can't conceive a baby. It has been proving to be successful throughout the world with astonishing success rates. Ukraine is the perfect country to have a surrogacy process done. Anyway, don't worry about anything, dear. You'll be with the surrogate in the labor room and you'll definitely be the first one to hold the baby. The baby has your genes, it's going to be your child. Also, the clinic is responsible for handling the things legally, you won't face any complications. Make sure of these things before the process begins. Best of luck!
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Hi, How are you? I am really sorry to know about your infertility. Surrogacy is legal in Ukraine. Many infertile couples goto Ukraine for surrogacy. They returned with their child. Many people are happy to choose surrogacy. Stay strong. Be positive. Have your surrogacy process start. Good luck
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I think it really depends on you. Also, the process is more than this. Surrogacy is really about fighting the struggles. I know soo many people who have been able to conceive after a very long with the help of the procedure. It is really amazing to see that progress. However, for the procedure just make sure to research properly. A clinic that is expereinced and knows how to deal with the process will carry it out smoothly. Never be hesitant to ask questions. Always ask the doctors and the managers about things that are bothering you. The question that you just posted I would suggest asking the clinic this. These questions if are important to you then should be answered. I believe a clinic with good staff members wouldn't have an issue with such questions. Good luck to you. I hope your process goes well.
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Hi. I'm glad you made this post. It's a good thing that you are doing your research about this before going for it. It is the most important step. Going for surrogacy privately is the most absurd thing I have heard of. It is a sensitive process. It has a lot of risks. You don't want to take those. Imagine suffering for so many years, and ending up with a disappointment. The wise thing to do here is looking for a good and reliable clinic. I know of one. They handle your matters legally. They take care of most of the stuff. You won't have to worry about a lot of things. It saves time, money and doesn't affect your peace of mind. You should look into it. Good luck.
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I think you're new to this, hence these questions. It's okay to ask questions. I personally don't think holding the baby for the first time is a problem. These are questions one thinks when they are a little stressed. You should relax about it, okay? Everything happens according to your needs. You can always talk to about these problems with the clinic. I know it seems like a big step for you. It will be fine for you. It will be a very important decision. All your legal queries will be answered, too. Good luck to you, honey! I really hope things work out for you. You can do this! Keep us updated on how it goes.

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