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Problems with the kidneys, give birth or not?
My friend has kidney problems because of the infection. The doctor told her that the kidneys can refuse during delivery, is it true? Do you think it's worth it to become pregnant or not?
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Hello)))))) I will be glad to answer your question. In my opinion, this is very dangerous! If your kidneys fail at 7 months of pregnancy, your child will be able to be born with a caesarean section. But, what will happen to you? Can they save you? How will you live on without the help of the kidneys? How will you be able to help your child with ordinary household problems, if you really need this help. I think you should think about surrogate motherhood. Or go to a few more clinics and consult another doctor. Because every doctor can have his own opinion. And if you want to give birth to a child yourself, then you should consult with different doctors. But, in general it is very dangerous (think about your future child), he needs a healthy and happy mother! And can a doctor hang you to give birth to a child with such a pathology? Even if you get pregnant, will the doctor send you to a forced abortion?

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It feels risky. Think well before going on the process.Giving birth to a child is not more important than your own life. Even after giving birth you can't give him the pleasure of being with you. Better try to enjoy your own life instead of taking risk.You consult your doctor twice too. Good luck:) God bless you:)
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It seems really dangerous. She should definitely ask for a second opinion. And make sure if she can be treated. Maybe it's a disease that has a cure and she can conceive after a while. Too risky to get pregnant in such a condition. Not fair for the future baby or the rest of her family as well. Even if it is not that bad, what if she feels pain during the pregnancy or get any other complication that requires medicines? She will have to cope with the pain.. living a nightmare... without even able to take any medicine to feel better. It doesn't seem worth it to me... Good luck!
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Girls, I can see that everyone agrees with me. It's really very risky. It is better to use the service of surrogate motherhood. Then you will have a baby and you will be healthy. What does your husband and family say about this? What do they recommend to you?

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yes, Natalia... it is very risky.. Although going for surrogacy is a difficult decision too. Her friend would have to think well about it and get all the info first. @Elly123 Do you have any news about your friend? what did your friend do finally?
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Hi, first of all it depends on kidney state. What kind of problems does your friend have? As far as I know, one sign of kidney disease during pregnancy is high levels of creatinine in the urine. Creatine is an amino acid important for healthy muscles. When the acid is broken down in the kidneys, it becomes creatinine. This is the glomerular filtration rate, a way to measure kidney function. The normal range of creatinine excretion is 500 to 2,000 milligrams (mg), depending upon the woman’s age and body mass index. During pregnancy, more blood is filtered through the kidneys, causing the kidneys to work harder. This can result in permeability of the glomerulus, blood vessels in the kidneys that filter waste, which can lead to higher levels of creatinine in the urine, a sign of kidney disease or even kidney failure.
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Dear Ellie123) You need to use the service of surrogate motherhood. Because you have no other choice, if you want to have a child and remain alive at the same time. After all, your family will not say thank you to you if you give birth to a child, and you yourself will get health problems. After all, all the problems in the upbringing and maintenance of the child will be given to them. And here you are also ....... So you should talk with your husband about how much he is ready for maternity. Then you should find a good clinic. Having read many posts from other women, I came to the conclusion that many people go to Ukraine. You can read other reviews. Strictly speaking, maternity is not so hard as it seems. Just need to find a good clinic, which will be able to pick you a good mother. And then to specify all details of your transaction and to assure them juridical. That in the future you could protect yourself and the child. Just do not in any case, do not offer to become a mother of three a sister, friend or acquaintance. They are unprepared women. It is better that you spend more time looking for a maternity mother, but she will be prepared and professional in this matter. The later you will see the consequences of your rash decision to save money on your mother's maternity.
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Hello, Your post just caught my attention. One of my friends had this problem i went with her to the doctor. I will try to provide you whatever information i have on this to make give you a clear idea on this. Kidney disease and kidney failure can result in a risk of your child life. Before going with pregnancy you must consult a doctor and then only move forward on this. There are many things to consider. you and your doctor should discuss them all very carefully. Some things that can affect a healthy pregnancy include your stage of kidney disease, your general health, your age, having high blood pressure, diabetes, or heart disease, having other serious health conditions, protein in your urine. It was also told to us that woman with very mild kidney disease (stages 1-2), normal blood pressure, and little or no protein in the urine (called "proteinuria") can have a healthy pregnancy. Your body needs protein. But it should be in your blood, not your urine. Having protein in your urine usually means that your kidneys cannot filter your blood well and the protein is leaking out. In women with moderate to severe kidney disease (stages 3-5), the risk of complications is much greater. For some women, the risk to mother and child is high enough that they should consider avoiding pregnancy. If you are thinking of becoming pregnant, ask your doctor or other healthcare providers about your stage of kidney disease, your risk for complications, your degree of proteinuria, and any other health conditions you may have. I hope my reply helps you.
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Ali, I don't think she needs to use the services of the surrogate. to my mind, she need to consult her doctor in order to know about possible ways to get pregnant. As far as I know a lot of women could get pregnant with kidney issues. The first and the most important thing is to know about your disease and know the possible treatments. Of course if she doesn’t have this chance, i mean to get pregnant naturally, she could adopt a child. I don't know why a lot of women here advised other to use the surrogacy..? why other children without parents should suffer, why don’t you want to give them a piece of happiness? Best of luck to you all here
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Hey, Elly, I hope you and your friend are doing fine. This is a serious issue and should be dealt that way. If she is going through a kidney related disorder then she should avoid TTC. If she does TTC it could lead to problems. However, my advice to her would be to get a second opinion in this case. I would suggest that she visits a fertility specialist and ask for their advice. I am sure they will be able to help her out. Tell her to not worry things will work out.
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Yes, there won't be any problem in giving birth. You are going to have very much problem after that. I don't think you should worry about that now. Just concentrate on this situation. The rest is going to be alright later. Don't think about that now.
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Absolutely, there won't be any problem in delivering a baby. But you'll face a lot of issues after the delivery. I think you shouldn't worry about these issues. Just focus on your problem. Everything is going to be okay with you. Remain positive and stay strong.
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Kidney infection is no joke. It should be dealt with as a matter of urgency. It should never be neglected. If the doctor thinks that it can be an issue. She should avoid it. I know it is a lot to ask. Not more than her life. Give my love to her.
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Yes, Natalia I also agree with you. Elly, in this situation Your friend must be careful. Her own life is more important. No doubt, Children are the blessings. and everyone wants to have a child. This time is very advanced now. there are many alternatives to a problem. I think surrogacy is an alternative for you. in this way, will have your biological child. and you will remain healthy. You must consult a doctor for this. Surrogates are there to help people like your friend. They carry the child of IP in her womb. there are many clinics in Europe for this purpose. They have their own testing systems. according to the health of the patient, they suggest the appropriate treatment. I wish her good health. May her dream of a child come true.
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Getting pregnant may be one of her dreams. I don't know how she is going to feel about it. This may be a threat to her life. I don't think she should take this big step. She must be sure that her life is safe. Otherwise, it's a big risk.
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It is a serious issue. You should consult a good doctor regarding this issue. If you want a child by avoiding such condition than go for surrogacy. I am also going for surrogacy to have a baby now. Everytime i conceived had a miscarriage. So i have make up my mind for surrogacy now.It is the common method to have a baby for infertile people. Wish you luck.
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Friends are really great. They feel the sorrow and the grief of their friends. Your words are evident that how deeply you are feeling for your friend,. You are really sad. The truth is that the situation is really saddening. It is a time of grief for your friend. It is really heart breaking that she can conceive but still she is medically weak. There are certain things that you cannot control. Sometimes destiny has one good news but on the other hand it brings home something devastating. She has already faced a great deal. Being a concerned friend you can be a real support. It is very important to accept the things realistically. Once we are ready to face the fate, everything starts changing. Let her learn about the people who have won the war of life. The web sources are filled with such stories. It is also important to introduce her to the alternative options. She can rely on any one of the assisted reproduction methods. Just give her the confidence and stand by her. I hope that she will find her happiness soon.
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Well, very sorry to hear. It's really a tough situation. So, yeah! Anyway! Yes! It can really be dangerous. Your doctor is right! Try asking your doctor to undergo an of the assisted conception procedures? See, what he suggests! :)
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Hi, how are you? I recommend you surrogacy. In this situation, best treatment will be surrogacy. There is a clinic in Europe that deal best with it. You must go there and get your treatment. I wish you a very good luck.
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Hi, I hope you are doing well. I don't think your friend have to go for pregnancy. It can be dangerous for both mother and child. I recommend to go for surrogacy. It is a better option. Bio TexCom clinic is best for it. I am suggesting it based on my experience. For details visit http://mother-surrogate.info/
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Hi Elly! I am sorry to hear about your friend. I hope she recovers quickly. I am not sure about the kidney issue related to infertility but I don’t think it would be a good idea to go for it while suffering from it. Pregnancy can put a lot of strain on the body and having weak vital organs can be dangerous to say the least. I have heard of a lot of situation of infertility due to cardio-vascular problem. I would recommend that you ask your friend to go for alternative ways of starting a family. Since she can not put strain on her body I would recommend she go for surrogacy. Ukraine has some of the best surrogacy clinics that are the most affordable as compared to clinics in UK and the US.
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Dear Natalia, I’m 100% agreed with you. Beloved, in such consequences you’d be very careful. Her life is too much important in this regard. Children are a great blessing of God. Having child is one of the biggest desires of an infertile couple. Science has made progress with the passage of time. Well, there are many alternative treatments exists nowadays. Surrogacy is one of them. The infant will genetically belong to you. Your physical health does not matter as the surrogate mother will carry your child. You’d consult a reliable doctor for your problem. Surrogacy is such a great blessing and surrogates are like angels. They pay great services to the humanity. Many people have shared their successful experiences. They praised a clinic so much. Clinic there will definitely suggest the best option for you. I wish you good and sound health. May her dream of delivering a child come true!
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Two of the situation could either make this difficult to conceive or either to sustain a pregnancy. One is heart disease and the other could be the kidney problem. You could never make any assurance of either you would conceive or not. It might be the situation that you would conceive but it would be difficult to sustain the pregnancy for long. Has she found any of the treatment to help her get out of this situation? If not! she must ask for help with fertility clinic or doctor. And to my knowledge, IVF won't be preferable for her. As it demands the women to conceive her child. On either situation surrogacy is preferable one. As you could have surrogate to carry your child. Hope she would find this treatment at her best.
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Hi, there I hope you are fine. I should suggest you surrogacy . I support surrogacy. People with infertility should opt surrogacy. Though IVF is successful in some cases, it is not. My Freind was suffering from that.she decided to get IVF treatment. In her case, it was not successful. So her embryo was transferred into another female. Because her body was not able to conceive. She opted for surrogacy. This was successful. She had twins through. It was less expensive there. So surrogacy is the best option. Best of luck everyone.
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I am sorry for your friend. Kidney disease or failure may put a lot so stress on her health and put her child at risk. And the decision which her health care provider has recommended it must be according to her health. And some things which can affect your pregnancy involve, the stage of kidney disease, age, general health, protein in your urine, heart disease or diabetes. also, high blood pressure may affect your pregnancy. Sadly, women with kidney disease are advised not to get pregnant. Because it involves risking both the health of the mother and the baby. It is best to consult with your healthcare provider. But as you have mentioned that her doctor has stooped her. I would advise you to see a fertility specialist. Ask the options she may have as she cant get pregnant on her own. Surrogacy is a better option. I would advise your friend to keep her doctor updated about her health.
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Hi Elly. How is your friend now? Well, it's very unfortunate for her. One of my relatives had a disease of kidney and doctor warns her not try to conceive because it will damage her so much. So instead of trying she go for surrogacy. As this was the save option for her. Well, there is nothing important than the life of your friend. So I think she should avoid conceiving naturally. As this will result in more serious complications. As advice of the doctor is best for her. Hope so my experience will help you. Will pray for your,
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Hi Elly. How are you doing? Hope so you are doing fine. Well, my dear, this is not an easy thing at all. It is risky for her to get pregnant in such health. My dear, I think you should suggest to her to go for surrogacy. Because surrogacy is the best thing at all for the infertile ladies. Hope my words will help you.
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Yes, if she has this kind of a problem. She must avoid it. Why she wants to create tension for herself. For her family as well. It's not a problem at all. It'll be alright. Just cure herself. Take proper treatment. After that, think about this.
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I am really sorry to read about your friend's problem. If it is the doctor saying that then he might right. However, I would advise that you take her to an expereinced RE. He/she will do some of her tests and really help in determining the problem. They will also suggest a treatment that would work for her. Treatments like IVF or surrogacy are for problems like these. However, getting the advice from a specialist is very important. If they do think you are a candidate for one of the treatments make sure to visit the right clinic. The clinic should be expereinced! They should have a high success rate as well. Good luck to you. Sending baby dust her way. I hope things work out for her. Tell her to not lose hope. If there is any further help I can do let me know.
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Hi. I'm sorry to hear about your friend's condition. This sounds awful. It's a shame that this had to happen at such a critical time. I really hope this doesn't affect the baby. I don't think your friend should give birth in this condition. It could be very bad for her. And not just her, it could be risky for the baby too. I think she should go for a C-section this time. I really wish she had known about this before. She could've gone with a different way to have a baby for herself. There are so many options now. It would've been great for the baby and for her too. She should consider this next time. She shouldn't be putting herself at risk like this.
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Hey. I'm sorry for your friend. I personally think it's really high risk. Of course, the best view is of the doctor. But, I wouldn't suggest her going for it, naturally. The worst case scenario could be a miscarriage, and trust me it's not worth it! I'd suggest she looks into assisted conception.

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