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Hey Everyone! Hope so you will all right. I'm visiting this forum from past 5 days. I'm pleased to see it's quick response and it led me to share my problem. Actually, I'm suffering from infertility over the past 5 years due to cervical cancer. I had a miscarriage due to this issue and lost my infertility while fighting with it. Now I'm cancer and looking for the alternate way have a baby. I found surrogacy or IVF the two options for it and I'm inclined to surrogacy. Furthermore, I have chosen a clinic somewhere in Europe who is interested to handle my case and they give me much hope and courage. The thing I'm confused that what should I choose, Surrogacy or IVF. Kindly provide me with detailed suggestions.
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Hello dear! I am so sorry for this loss. Life has brought a very big challenge in your life. I believe that you must be a very strong woman. A lot of women can not bear this. Despite having so many challenges you are looking ahead with positivity. Hats off to you. I think both surrogacy and IVF are good alternatives. Therefore, you can go with any of them. Both are the ways of having biological babies. I also had the options of IVF and surrogacy. I chose surrogacy. I got my son, Ryan. I give all the credit to the Ukrainian clinic where I was diagnosed. They gave me the best surrogate. Also, the whole staff was highly cooperative, caring and loving. It was a good time working with them. In a nutshell, I got Ryan via surrogacy, so you can also accomplish your goals here. All the good luck to you. Take care.
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I had personally gone through surrogacy. I was infertile so I joined different forms of infertility to get a solution to my problem. From a form, a woman advised me to go for surrogacy. From that advice, i am going to have my twin daughters soon. We first moved to Europe from Japan. Surrogacy is ban in Japan so we moved there. We stayed in Europe for 4 months. We contacted clinics in Europe. My husband didn't like them. Then we moved to for surrogacy. As we heard a lot about the clinics so we moved there. There we found a very good clinic. The clinic found a good surrogate for us. The surrogate is pregnant with our twin dolls. We are so happy. We are so happy that we will have our own kids now, We are so thankful to the clinic and surrogate. The clinic is the best of its services. They offer a free consultation for the initial stages. They are best at surrogacy. This is my experience of surrogacy.
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I am also a frequent visitor. Why did not you go to a surrogacy center? Though I went to Adonis. It was not a good experience there. The staff was not friendly. The doctors were pretty tired and lazy. I got carried away with my emotions. After which the response of the doctor was very rude.
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hello Amenda! Just read your post. You have been through a lot. This was heart rendering. Such crises render human good for nothing. But one should never lose hope. Ups and downs come in life. In fact, these are part of life. So we shouldn't simply give up at the bad time. we should try to face them with courage. I am glad that you have decided to go for the alternatives. These treatments like IVF or surrogacy have really changed the lives of many people. They are the way to overcome this problem of infertility. I can see you are confused between these two procedures. I would say that the chances of a successful pregnancy are usually higher with surrogacy when compared to IVF. But only the woman and her doctor can decide what course of infertility treatment is right for her. Many women will try IVF, even if the odds aren’t in their favor, before moving on to surrogacy because it’s faster and they can exercise more control over the process. In the end, it's up to you, you have to decide. I wish you all the best wishes. My prayers are with you. Good Luck!
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Sorry to hear about your infertility. It makes me really glad to see how you are coping with all this. It is definitely not an easy thing to handle. Many people these days are facing infertility. And not everyone is brave enough to move on like you are doing. I hope you stay strong like this always. I'll remember you in my prayers. Well, talking about your confusion, I believe it's okay to go with either of the options. None of them have any disadvantages as such. Surrogacy has higher success rate though. And you aren't sure if IVF would work for you in the first attempt. You can choose any of them but be sure that you are satisfied with your choice. I hope you make a wise decision. Wish you all the best.
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hello! I hope you are doing fine. I am so glad to read your story. It is a motivation for all those going through a hard time. I know one clinic in Ukraine that is magical. It has helped complete families of so many barren couples. I am in the same boat. My hopes were all shattered when I came to know that I am infertile. And, I could not conceive naturally. It was my husband who kept on looking for the clinics and found this. The doctors were very professional and experienced. The staff cooperated very well with us. They advised me for surrogacy and soon we became happy parents of a baby boy. I hope that you also find such a team that can help you decide that is best for you. Best of Luck!
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You took the right decision. You can finally be a mother after 5 years. This is not a short period of time. I really hope the clinic you chose is not Adonis. I have read bad reviews about it. I would not want you to be one of the victims as well. Just be careful.
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Hi, hope so you are good. Infertility is a big problem indeed. But it is not bigger than losing hope. I am feeling so happy to know that you are choosing a treatment for yourself. No doubt IVF and surrogacy both are wonderful processes. But I believe surrogacy is a better option. It is such an amazing process. Surrogacy has high success rates. I would like to tell you to try to make the right decision while choosing a clinic. It is the basic step when you are going to start your treatment. It will save your money, time and most important your hopes. I wish you the best of luck for your journey. Don't take stress all will be fine.
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Hi sweetheart, I hope you are doing fine. It's sad to know that you were suffering from cancer. It really hard to deal with cancer and infertility both at the same time. I can feel your pain. But it's not the end of anything. We have so many ways to deal with infertility. You can go for IVF, IUI, and surrogacy if you are not able to conceive naturally. You just need to make a wise decision for yourself. Well, surrogacy and IVF both are the best. IVF is a matter of luck while surrogacy has 100% success rates. I would suggest you must consult your doctor. He can give you better suggestions regarding your problem. But don't waste your time now. Start your treatment asap. I wish everything goes fine for you. Good luck.
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Hey there, how are you? I hope you are doing fine. I am really sorry about your past. Life can be cruel sometimes but we are humans and have learned not to give up easily. I really appreciate your decision. Surrogacy is one of the best procedure available to complete a family. Surrogacy has the higher success rate as compared to IVF and IUI. I am infertile and can't carry a baby naturally. I had my fallopian tubes in a complicated condition and they got damaged badly. This is where I learned about my infertility. But thanks to these forums I came to know about surrogacy. I and my partner are now living in Ukraine. We had our first surrogacy last Monday. We are here waiting for the pregnancy result.
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I am so sorry about this. You are so strong though. You fought cancer and infertility. This is so amazing. You just motivated me so much. I really hope the best for you and that you find your happy ending. The option really depends on your infertility. If you can carry to term go for IVF. If not then surrogacy is a good option. I remember my friend went for surrogacy. She went through IVF and IUI, and both failed. It was a very sad time. In the end, she went for surrogacy, as repeated miscarriages were discouraging her and depressing her. Surrogacy worked for her. I hope it does for you as well.
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hey dear. hope you are fine. I'm so sorry you are going through it. I'm here to support you I'm so glad. you are About to start a new journey. this is so great. surrogacy Is a assure shot. because the surrogate mother giving birth will be healthy enough. IVF may take time as per successful cycles. the baby will be from your womb in this case. I wish you luck. for more clearance. consult an expert. take care. sending you baby dust. keep me updated.
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Hi there, Amenda. I'm very well and I hope you're in good health as well. I'm very sorry to know about your infertility. You've been through a lot, dear. It's high time that you think about your happiness. Surrogacy and IVF, both are amazing procedures to have a child from. If you want to experience pregnancy and you think that you can carry a baby then you should go for the IVF treatment. It feels like a natural pregnancy once the process of transferring is done. But if you think that cancer has made your body weak and you can't carry a baby then you should go for the surrogacy procedure. Although I believe that the doctor at the clinic will guide you better as to which alternative is better for you. I hope that you've chosen a good clinic. There is this great clinic in Ukraine from where I had my surrogacy procedure done. They specialize in surrogacy. Anyway, I hope you make a wise decision, dear. Good luck!
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Hey there. It is nice to see you looking for an alternative. I understand what you are going through. I am in the same boat as yourself. Infertility is like a curse. I have been TTC for 6 years. I have fibroids which have made it difficult for me to get pregnant or carry to term. My husband came across surrogacy through mutual friends. He has been pushing me to go for it for so long. Finally, last year we decided to try it. We were on a hunt for a clinic for so long. We found one after months while going through bad experiences as well. But it was all a learning process. We have realized it is the only option for us. Specifically, if we want to have our own children.
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Hey, I hope you are doing good. Well, I think you should go for the treatment you are comfortable with Bith IVF and surrogacy are good processes. Many women are now facing it commonly. It is rare to conceive a baby naturally in infertility. Well, if you are inclined to surrogacy so keep this in your mind that the success of a process depends on the clinic you choose. Don't know about anything without any research. I think you have the right to go for the best. Some clinics are cheating people. I know the one that is Adonis. Be aware of such clinics. They do a fake advertisement for publicity. I am warning you because I don't want you to go for worst. I hope that you got what I wanted to say. I hope it would help you. My best wishes are with you.
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Hi, I am so sad for you. I know you have been through a lot. It is hard for a woman to face all this. Please tell us how are you now. I hope you are fine. I am happy that you are deciding to move on. Infertility takes a lot out of a woman. I hope you will choose the best for you. Surrogacy is best if you think that it is best. I prefer you that first, you should have a complete knowledge of the process you will choose. Clinics play an important role in the success of the process you choose. I hope you will find the best clinic. But be aware of some clinics Like adonis. They are cheating people with fake advertisement and using unskilled doctors. I hope that you will be aware of them. I pray for your best wishes.
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Hey, I hope you are doing good. You should choose surrogacy. Many women are now facing it. It is hard in infertility. The rate of success is high but it depends on your choice of clinic. Do research for a clinic before you choose. Always go for the best. Most of clinics are cheating people. I know the one that is Adonis. People are attracted towards them because of there way of advertising. I have faced it so I want you to be aware. I don't want you to be in this worst. Hope you will understand my point. This will help you. My best wishes are with you.
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Amanda darling I had personally gone through surrogacy. I was infertile so I joined different forms of infertility to get a solution to my problem. From a form, a woman advised me to go for surrogacy. From that advice, I am going to have my twin daughters soon. We first moved to Europe from the U.S.A. Surrogacy is ban in the USA so we moved there. We stayed in Europe for 4 months. We contacted clinics in Europe. My husband didn't like them. Then we moved to for surrogacy. As we heard a lot about the clinics so we moved there. There we found a very good clinic. The clinic found a good surrogate for us. The surrogate is pregnant with our twin dolls. We are so happy. We are so happy that we will have our own kids now, We are so thankful to the clinic and surrogate. The clinic is the best of its services. They offer a free consultation for the initial stages. They are best at surrogacy. This is my experience of surrogacy.
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Hello people, I am new to this forum. I am also been stung by the cruelty of being infertile. I am going through a very rough time. Just need some friends to share and find new ideas. It is getting a little gloomy between me and my family. My husband thinks I'm not myself latlely. We are together for years. We have migrated to US. Its been tough time adjusting and doing double shifts and now this. Why did this happen to us? I can explain how much I want a baby now. Well I would like to extend hugs to those who are like me here. Hope that we find some solace here. Or maybe I may find my resolution with overcoming infertility.
Sincerely, Naiymer xoxo
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Hey Amanda, I hope you are doing good. Well, I think you should go for the treatment you are comfortable with Bith IVF and surrogacy are good processes. Many women are now facing it commonly. It is rare to conceive a baby naturally in infertility. Well, if you are inclined to surrogacy so keep this in your mind that the success of a process depends on the clinic you choose. Don't know about anything without any research. I think you have the right to go for the best. Some clinics are cheating people. Be aware of such clinics. They do a fake advertisement for publicity. I am warning you because I don't want you to go for worst. I hope that you got what I wanted to say. I hope it would help you. My best wishes are with you. I was going through some comments on a forum there was this name I don't remember it's start with (A) they were doing advertisement so stay safe.
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Hello Amanda! I feel so sorry to hear about your infertility. Well. surrogacy and IVF both are the good alternatives. I think It would be better decided by the doctors which option is best for you. Well, in my case I had hysterectomy owing to cancer spread. Due to which I couldn't conceive. Doctors suggested me that we should go for an alternative. I had made searched on different pregnancy forums and came to know about surrogacy. I convinced my husband to go for surrogacy as it was our last hope. We went to Europe because surrogacy banned in our country. Finally, we found a reputable clinic after making more than 5 months of research struggle. I have been provided with great services by the clinic. Staff was really punctual and cooperative. I had made a contract. It was really a great journey. Now our surrogate is going to give birth to twins baby dolls soon. Wish you the best of luck.
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Hi there, how are you feeling now? Well, your problem is enormous. Cancer which leads you to infertility. It's not easy to survive. You are a strong woman. Everything will be fine. There is nothing to worry about. There are a lot of treatments to overcome the problem of infertility, and your cancer treatment is also in continuation of this treatment. You can go with surrogacy because your body is not in a condition of suffering IVF treatment or any other treatment. This would be best for you. So I think you should try that.
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Hello Amanda! How are you doing dear? I hope you're doing good. I can understand your situation. It is one of the tough decision to make in the end. Don't worry everything will be fine. You have made the right decision at the right time. I think surrogacy is the best option for infertile couples. Surrogacy is a safe option. IVF is a common procedure nowadays but it is not going well in all cases. I am infertile. I was very upset because of my infertility. I didn;t want to take any risk now. My doctor asked me to go for surrogacy. I and my husband are planning for it as soon as possible from any well-known clinic. Keep updated about your further information related to it. My good wishes are with you. Good luck!
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You are such a brave woman. I must appreciate you for this fact. Dealing with cancer and infertility is not an easy thing. Both are so intolerable. You are so strong to face all this. I will pray to God to solve all your problems. Just don't lose hope ever. Everything will be okay. Keep faith in yourself. I am so glad that you have decided to move on. Going with an assisted method to have a baby is a very nice option. Have you tried talking to a doctor? She'll be able to guide you better about this. IVF and surrogacy, both are fine. None of them has any disadvantages. It's all on you. Whatever you want to go for. Just talk to your doctor first so you can have a better idea of both the procedures.
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Oh My God. That is just so devastating to hear. You have been through so much in your life. Being infertile and having cancer, this is just devastating. I am so sorry to hear this. I hope that you are coping with everything just fine. I am happy that you found surrogacy as an option to have children. Surrogacy is indeed the best option to have a baby, if a woman is having severe complications to get pregnant. Don't lose hope and stay strong, i am sure thta everything will turn out perfectly fine. Just consult your doctor too. Because i think that if you have already TTC, and you had a miscarriage, then i think you should not take risks, and just go ahead with surrogacy. It is safe and you will have to look for an authentic and good clinic to hire a surrogate mother. I will pray that everything turns out fine for you. best of luck <3.
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Amanda! I feel so sorry to hear about your infertility. Well. surrogacy and IVF both are the good alternatives. I think It would be better decided by the doctors which option is best for you. Well, in my case I had hysterectomy owing to cancer spread. Due to which I couldn't conceive. Doctors suggested to me that we should go for an alternative. I had made searched on different pregnancy forums and came to know about surrogacy. I convinced my husband to go for surrogacy as it was our last hope. We went to Europe because surrogacy banned in our country. Finally, we found a reputable clinic after making more than 5 months of research struggle. I have been provided with great services by the clinic. Staff was really punctual and cooperative. I had made a contract. It was really a great journey. Now our surrogate is going to give birth to twins baby dolls soon. Wish you the best of luck.
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Amanda darling. I hope you are fine. I'm so sorry you are going through it. I'm here to support you I'm so glad. you are About to start a new journey. this is so great. surrogacy Is a assure shot. because the surrogate mother giving birth will be healthy enough. IVF may take time as per successful cycles. the baby will be from your womb in this case. I wish you luck. for more clearance. consult an expert. take care. sending you baby dust. keep me updated.
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Cancer is a horrible disease. I'm glad and amazed that you didn’t lose hope and are still struggling against infertility. I'm happy about your decision. Clinics in Europe are best and affordable. If we compare IVF and surrogacy, then surrogacy is the best option. You should go for this procedure without wasting your time. Loads of prayers for you.
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Sorry to hear about your infertility. I know this is not easy to deal with. The infertility phase is extremely tough for any woman. It's a woman's worst nightmare. So I can understand your pain. I have seen so many such cases. Many people lose hope. People face disappointment at each step. They lose faith in themselves. But there are very few people who face all this courageously. They know that nobody can help them until they help themselves. And you are one of them. I am glad that you decided to move on. You took the right decision for yourself. I hope your journey goes well until the end. My prayers are with you. Wish you all the best.
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I a so sorry to read your story. Life can be difficult at times. There are ways and treatments through which you can fight infertility. Surrogacy is one of those treatments. It is not harmful, and has more success rates, and it is a good option for infertile couples.. There are clinics which can help you out. These clinics take their work very seriously, rather than waste your time. I would advise you to contact them, and talk to them about her situation. There is one clinic which is really good and they really cater to their patients.
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I felt really very bad for you. It was really hard for you. I can understand it was so painful for you. Being infertile is a very painful time in your life. You were diagnosed with cancer. It makes me really worried. It was really very difficult for you to manage such problems. Still, you are writing on this forum. This shows how strong you are. Yes, there will be an event organized by Biotexcom soon. It will be the best opportunity for you to meet the experts at this best clinic. Please get registered at surrogacy@biotexcom.com. Hurry up seats are very limited. I wish you very good luck to you in the future. Baby dust to you
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Hey, there Amanda. I had personally gone through surrogacy. I was infertile so I joined different forms of infertility to get a solution to my problem. From a form, a woman advised me to go for surrogacy. From that advice, i am going to have my twin daughters soon. We first moved to Europe from Japan. Surrogacy is ban in Japan so we moved there. We stayed in Europe for 4 months. We contacted clinics in Europe. My husband didn't like them. Then we moved to for surrogacy. As we heard a lot about the clinics so we moved there. There we found a very good clinic. The clinic found a good surrogate for us. The surrogate is pregnant with our twin dolls. We are so happy. We are so happy that we will have our own kids now, We are so thankful to the clinic and surrogate. The clinic is the best of its services. They offer a free consultation for the initial stages. They are best at surrogacy. This is my experience of surrogacy.
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Hey there!. How are you ?. I hope you are fine. I am also a frequent visitor. Why did not you go to a surrogacy centre? It's also a good experience there. The staff is friendly. The doctors might be good. I hope you take the right decision. I would say the only thing which matters is it's your opinion regarding the problem that is the main issue rest is clay, So don't worry about the problems be positive and go for what is good for you.
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I can understand your confusion. It happens with almost everyone. And this forum is my second home as whenever i feel down, whenever i feel unwell, i crave for my second home. I have also got my life changed at this forum. Well coming to the suggestion, i will highly recommend you surrogacy. And i personally have chosen surrogacy as well for my treatment. Surrogacy is the most safe option. And chances of failure are very less. I am going for gestational surrogacy soon at a clinic in ukraine. I am so hopeful for my journey to e successful.
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Sorry for your loss. There are two options for your disease. IVF and surrogacy are both reliable. The risks of IVF are more than surrogacy. The thing you have to keep in your mind is choosing a reliable clinic. I hope you'll find it good in clinic Europe. Good luck.
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I am really sorry to know about your problem. Take great care of yourself. Your health is more important. There is a great news for all of us. This is a great opportunity for all those couples who are TTC. There is a great clinic in Europe. They are completely licensed and approved for medical treatment of infertility. I have a cousin who has had personal experience with their wonderful staff. He was suffering from the same condition after visiting this clinic and after all the treatment and medication he is absolutely healthy. I personally recommend you to visit their clinic once. I hope everybody should avail this opportunity. I wish you all the best on your TTC journey. Be hopeful and be strong.
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Amanda, if you think surrogacy is the most viable option than go for it. It is very important that for surrogacy you visit a clinic that is operating at a success rate. The clinic should know what they are doing. When I decided to visit a clinic for my process I deeply looked into these factors. I was happy to know that the clinic was very careful with the process. They even had the surrogate pass through a medical test before she could be matched. This ensured that during the process both her and the baby were safe. Over all the clinic was amazing from the communication to all the services that were provided to us.
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I am glad that you were able to fight through cancer. I hope you are now able to fight through infertility as well. Good luck to you. I would suggest that you should look into a good clinic. The doctor who is experienced. All of these things will really help you. A good doctor can give you some really good advice as well. I remember when nothing was working out for me I was on the verge of quitting. However, I was still looking into clinics as I still wanted things to work. We finally visited a good clinic that was offering some really good services. After visiting them we decided to really start surrogacy. It was a big decision. However, the only chance of us to conceive. I am really hoping for the best now. Sending baby dust your way.
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Amenda, you should visit a fertility clinic. They are experts on this. They can help you out in a better manner. Good luck to you on this! Don't be afraid to make a bold decision. You can do this, honey! Keep us updated on how it goes.

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