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need some experiences how to move on?
Are you guys planning to have a baby?. I am going to share the story of my life how it affects me. When it comes to miscarriage, I suspect this is down to fear. Unless you've lost a baby. After my first miscarriage, following weeks of bleeding, I needed a surgical procedure. One day I woke with a headache, dry mouth and that morning after feeling you get when you know you've done something foolish. Oh yes, that was it: I'd talked to colleagues – people I barely knew – about my miscarriage.One colleague told me of her painful battle with infertility, followed by a miscarriage that sent her into a deep depression. I’d had no idea she was even trying to have a baby. And it’s hard to talk about losing a baby when you're not sure people will get what you're going through or – worse still – think you're just going for the sympathy vote.
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Yes stella it's true, Pregnancy is one of the most crucial stages in a woman’s life as she is open to risks and dangers may occur. One of the worst things that may happen during the pregnancy stage is ending it with an unfortunate miscarriage. Oftentimes, miscarriages happen in the most unexpected moment in which mothers do not even know the reason why. It is also important to make yourself feel better, and one of the best ways to do so is to eat healthy foods. Have a regular check-up with your doctor so as to ensure that you do not have illnesses. Hope you make a baby soon.
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Hi dear, I hope you are fine. you are really brave I must say. you said the right thing. it is not easy to share this thing. Your colleague is really supportive of you on this matter. I must say you have to show courage in life. life is not easy always. It takes a lot to do anything. You must have to keep patience for the rest of your life. I am sure that everything is good happening for you in future. I wish you a best of luck for future. take care dear.
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Hey girls! I am a 36 years old sad woman. How so? I’ll tell you how. So far, I have had 4 miscarriages. After my recent mc, doctors told me to go for the alternatives (like there are any) and that my womb is not able to keep the baby inside for more than a couple of weeks. I don't think I will have a chance of becoming a mother. Ever. The only thing that's left is surrogacy I think. That too is super expensive. I visited a clinic in NYC and their charges are like nowhere near to what my husband and I can afford. Perhaps some people can just suffer and watch Kardashians become mothers to surrogate babies. Andy and I are one of them :'( Life is so unfair sometimes. It just doesn't make any sense. Why did it need to be us? Why?
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Hi Stella! Well, yes! I understand that MCs are really so intense and impacting...I've had a total of three MCs. They really drained me. So, yes! Now, I'm choosing an IVF...Let's hope for the best! I also wish you best of the luck on your remaining journey to become successful... :')
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Hey, I am sorry for such loss. Miscarriage is a difficult thing to cope up with. I am one of those who cannot have babies ever. Miscarriages are sometimes unbearable. I had 3 miscarriages and after that I faced infertility. I was hopeless and depressed so much. Someone suggested me adoption but I never wanted to go with adoption. I never wanted to adopt someone because I have a fear that maybe I won't be able to take care of someone's else kid like my own. My friend introduced me to surrogacy. It was something new for me but it gave me hope. I did a research on it and it was according to what I needed. I went to Europe because it is legal there. Now its been3 years of surrogacy. My daughter just turned 2 now. I am happy I chose something best for me. I hope this can help other people like me who want guidance on surrogacy.
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Hey there. I know you're going through a very tough time of your life. I've been in the same boat, hence can understand how you feel right now. I'm very sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself and improve your health. You really need a good recovery so that you can conceive again soon. Be regular in your check-ups. Don't lose hope and stay positive. Good Luck!
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Hi Stella. Just stay calm...I know it's not easy to digest. I've had 3 MCs in my life. I've tried everything...But, still, hope for what's it worth. I'm having an IVF later this year at a center in Ukraine. So, yeah! I'd definitely encourage you to go with. There is still hope out there! Don't be sad! Women are so stronger these days! Yiu can still do it, one way or another.. xx
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I am extremely sorry to hear about your loss. A lot of people don't realize how painful all of this can be. As you are constantly battling around with your life. MC I believe is the hardest thing to cope up with. As you start planning things. Whereas all of a sudden things come to an end. However, don't lose hope I know it is easy to say then done. As someone who has been through a similar situation. I can totally understand you and your feelings. When I was told I was infertile I too was shattered. However, after that life was a rollercoaster. As I went for IUI all the cycles I tried failed. Then I went for IVF and that too failed. So for me, things were really hard as well. That was a period of darkness for me, however, then I did eventually find a clinic. There all my last hope relied on as I went for surrogacy and now have a beautiful daughter.
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Well, what happened has now happened. Everything is going o be fine for you. Tell yourself and your colleague to calm down. Both of you could get help from the treatments for infertility. I guess you should consider surrogacy. I read about your condition. Surrogacy is the only option as I think.
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That's really sad. I know what you must have gone through. It's really hard, tbh. It seems like our world has collapsed. And there's no reason to live anymore. I have gone through a similar situation. I have faced the worst days of my life when I had an MC. My husband did not support me. He blamed everything on me. He claimed that I didn't take care of myself due to which this all happened. It happened 8 months ago. Since then, he has not made any effort to plan another baby. He thinks I'll do the same I did with our first baby. He taunts me for the past. He doesn't love me anymore. I feel like I should end my world. My parents tell me to get a divorce. But I don't want to. I have a feeling he'll be okay soon. I'm still hopeful. And so should you. Everything will be okay.
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Hello lovely lady.You are doing great.Keep up the good work.With patience and hopes, you have better success.Sometimes we had to face the toughest time nut with bravery you had to solve all the matter.Actually, without losing hopes, you had no success and positive result.Think positive and it will happen positively for you.Best wishes for the future.
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I have contacted many surrogacy related clinics and had gathered quite good info about surrogacy. Because i had many complications while getting pregnant. Now i am married for second time i want to have baby of my own to live with. Regarding and having a look at my previous pregnancy period i know its not a good idea to be pregnant again. I was pregnant thrice but had miscarriages every time. So i talked to my husband and have agreed him to go for surrogacy option. I know today surrogacy is a common thing but i am worried about many aspects of having a baby via surrogacy. I also met with few mothers raising babies from surrogacy method. So surrogacy will be good for me i guess.
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Hey there. Hope you're doing well. You're really brave for coming out and sharing your experience. I can totally understand how you feel. I went through something similar. I've had my fair share of miscarriages. I've gone through a proper dose of depression. And I can totally relate how hard it is to actually talk to people regarding this. I got judged by people I thought would actually be empathetic. I ended up deciding that my best hope was relying on forums. Ever since I have posted on forums and I've made some really good friends. People are really, really nice on here. I hope you experience a similar fate. This is a great forum to be on. People are really friendly. Good luck!
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Hi girl. I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am to hear about your miscarriage. This is devastating. Imagine getting so close to becoming a parent and then losing it. It must have been terrible for you. I have never had a miscarriage. So I don't really know what you should do to move on. But I really think you should see a doctor and get some fertility tests done. You should also look into IVF. It has more chances of a safe pregnancy. I even know the perfect clinic for it. You don't want to waste more time or the sadness will just eat you inside. But you also don't want to rush into things. Just think this thoroughly. We are all here to help if you need us. Don't worry. Good luck.
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Hello i'm new here.I'm from Japan.We moved to Europe to find our heaven. Surrogacy is ban in Japan.And i'm infertile due to some cancer reasons. So we moved to Europe to find surrogacy related clinics. We consulted many clinics in Europe. Than we came to know about clinics in Ukraine and we moved to Ukraine. In ukraine we found a very good clinic. Now we are having twins with the help of this clinic.The clinic gave us a very good surrogate mom.With the help of that mom we are having our two twin daughters. We are so excited and happy. Feedback and suggestions much admired.
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I hear from many infertile couples there stories of successful surrogacy journey. I feel happy when people met their dream they are unable to have by themselves. Surrogacy will also make my dream true of having a baby. I have been TTC from last 10 years. There is no specific reason behind my infertility, Doctors can't tell any reason behind my infertility, I am tired of TTC now as i already know there isn't miracle going to happen. My husband friend has decided that we should go for surrogacy. we live in Bulgaria here surrogacy is not allowed. So we have decided to go to another state for this. My husband says Ukraine is very popular in regard of surrogacy. Hopefully we should be moving to Ukraine for our surrogacy. If anyone knows a good clinic from Ukraine about surrogacy than let us know.
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Well, this is an interesting post. It is a food for thought. We need to consider the issue you raised. Honey, I am sure you will get your baby. Just be optimistic. It can do wonders trust me. The positive energy generated will be a source of hope for you. Try some relaxing medications. They can help too.
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Hi there, I am 33 years old. I also faced 3 miscarriages. That was the difficult time for me. But luckily my friends and family supported me. Dear, don't stress yourself. Everything will be okay. Try to think positive. if you can't conceive naturally, think about surrogacy. After miscarriages I consulted many doctors and they said i am infertile. I was in deep depression after hearing this. Then my husband and i decided about surrogacy.I heard about surrogacy clinics in Ukraine form one of one friend. I thought to give it a try. I consulted Bio TexCom and is really happy with the their procedure. They also have affordable packages. I think you need to visit Bio TexCom. For more details visit http://mother-surrogate.info/
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Hi, Stella. I am glad to hear from you. I hope you are doing great. I know what you must be feeling though. I know how hard it is. I wish you good luck. I hope things go well for you in the future. I have lost a baby too. I was in a car accident when it happened. I was very devastated. However, my husband supported me. We went for surrogacy. It was the best decision I ever made. I wish everyone good luck. I hope you stay strong and hopeful. Take care. Good luck.
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Hey there. Hope you are doing well. I can understand your pain dear. Don't lose hope. Miracles do happen. Think positive. You can go for surrogacy of IVF. My friend went for IVF in a clinic in Europe after two years of infertility. The results were positive. I wish you all the best. Stay happy!
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Hey Stella! You can always talk about your sadness in such forums. It really helps when you share your experience, as you get to take out your built-in emotions and other ladies get to help you by telling you are not alone. Miscarriages can be devastating for a mother. Especially when you have had the happiness of conceiving, losing it again is painful. I know many of my cousins and friends who suffered through miscarriages. I, myself am suffering from infertility. I was suggested by one of my experienced cousin about surrogacy in Europe. She has a child through surrogacy after 3 miscarriages. I am looking forward to having my second child through surrogacy as well. So you must consider such options love. Take care

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