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Miscarriage
I need help for my friend. She had a miscarriage suddenly. She lost her hope now. I tried to talk to her allot of times. She is very sad. Even her husband is very supportive. She loses her hope. She is saying that she could never get pregnant again. Actually she got miscarriage in her first pregnancy. I am telling her that she could get pregnant again. She is so disturbed that she is not ready to listen to me. Any kind of help would've been nice to her. Say something to cheer her up. Help her. Help her understanding that she could get pregnant again??? any help???
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Hey there Rachel! I hope you're doing fine. I feel sorry for your friend. She must be broken right now. Miscarriages are very painful. No woman deserves this. Just tell her that she's very lucky, as she can conceive naturally. She shouldn't lose hope. Staying positive is the key to happiness. Sometimes, life tests us in these ways. We have to stay strong and face the tests with acing them! Take her out of the house. Don't let her sit idle, or else she'll keep on thinking about it. Get her a job or something so that she keeps herself busy and distracted by other things. I hope she conceive's again. I wish all her dreams come true. It's cute how being a friend you want to help her. We need more people like you on this planet! Good Luck!
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I am extremely sorry to hear about your friends MC. I am sure it must be extremely saddening for her. A lot of us don't realise how painful these procedures can be. However, I in this situation would tell her to visit a proper clinic and ask for help. If needed she should try looking into assisted conceptions as well. These are really helping so many parents in today's world in becoming parents. The clinic I visited helped me greatly when I was in a totally helpless situation. So a good and a known clinic too really matters.
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Hi Rachel. Your friend is very lucky to have a friend like yours who cares so much for her. Miscarriages are very painful. And this comes from a very genuine place. I have had 2 miscarriages. And I was devasted. I wouldn't eat or talk to anyone. I hated my life. I was so desperate to be a mother. When I'd see people with kids around it'd just make me cry and want them more. My husband was very supportive. His support gave me the strength to arrive at the decision of getting a baby through surrogacy. You just try to let her not think about it. Ask her to do things that make her happy. Because if she stresses a lot it will be harder for her to conceive again. Goodluck.
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Hi there! First of all, i m glad that you care about your friend. Friends like you are a blessing from God. So it's normal. Everyone is like that after a miscarriage. Miscarriage really breaks a woman mentally and physically. Support her and take good care of her and she will be fine. Try to convince her to visit a fertility clinic. They will be able to help you. And even if it's not possible for her naturally. Then there are many other ways to conceive. Like Surrogacy, IVF, IUI. They are all good options for her. Tell her not to worry. Good Luck! Much Love!
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Hi, Rachel. I hope you are doing well. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It must have been very hard for her. You should try to make her feel better. Afterall, what are friends for? Never leave her. Try to support her and make her realize that everything will be okay. Of course, she can TTC again. Fortunately, she has no infertility issues. Then why is she so upset? If she stays strong, she'll be able to have another child soon. She only needs to take care of herself. Maybe you can make her forget about all these things for a while. She should take a break. This way, her stress will be gone. Good luck to her!
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Hi there Rachel. How are you and your friend doing? I hope everything is okay. I am really sorry to hear about your friend. I am glad she has a friend like you. Its hard nowadays to get friends who care about you. I wish everything gets normal. I know women can get depressed. When such a tragedy occurs. However, support is the best medicine. She should not blame her self for this. Keep TTCing and it'll work out. Keep consulting the doctor. That'll help too. Wishing good luck to your friend. Looking to hear more from you in the future.
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I am so so sorry. It was her first time. She must have been so hopeful. First, pregnency is always special. I don't know how she is feeling right now, Depression is obvious. Give her some time. She will recover. But don't live her alone too. Try to stay with her. Ask her family to take her somewhere. She really needs some happy time. Don't talk to her about the baby. Call her closest friend to meet her. She might open up to her. This will help her to get rid of the sadness.
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Hi Rachel! I'm extremely sorry for that! I know how it feels. You're really doing a great job. I think you should keep doing that! Well, there are ways! Well has she tried considering IUI, IVF, surrogacy or any relative methods? Well, I'm having an IVF later this year at a repro center in Ukraine. I've also can't conceive naturally. I'm a TTC for nearly 6 years, But, still, I want to keep trying...Because, I really want to complete my family. It's really important for me to have a child. So, yes! There are still chances out there. Well, what's her cause of infertility?
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Dear Rachael, a friend is an asset. When we were young we often listened to the phrase that a friend in need is a friend indeed. The meanings of this phrase become evident when I rode on the life's roller coaster. Life is a hell without friends. Your words even prove that how concern you are about your friend. You want to give her the best. Regardless of what you do for her, the best solution rests with her only. Only she can make the difference in her own life. She is in a situation where care kills the cat. You and her husband are doing the best to keep her calm. As long as she is ready she can't break the shackles of disappointment and grief. It is very natural to feel this way after two miscarriages, but make her realize that it is not necessary that it would end up in a failure.There are still chances that destiny will bring the baby dust for her. What is important for her is that she must consult a doctor for some excellent advice. Proper diagnosis and treatment are required at this moment.
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I am really sorry to know about your friends MC. I can understand how hard this must be for her. Tell her she is a very strong woman to go through this. I think she should ask the doctors for a full report. The reasons as to why this happened. After which she should visit a good RE doctor. I am emphasizing on good because the doctor really matters. If the doctor is experienced things do go well. Visit the doctor and they will carry out some of the important tests. They will get to the root cause and determine what the issue might be. She can then consider opting for IVF or IUI. Depends on her situation and what she is a candidate for. Good luck to her. If she needs any help let me know. Sending baby dust your way.
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Hi Rihana! I hope you are doing well. Your friend is lucky to have you. It's not easy to find friends like you. The more people support you in this time, the easier it gets. I was also lucky because my friends and family all supported me in this. I know how hard it is to deal with a miscarriage. But she needs to be strong, i tried to conceive for 7 years after that i went for alternatives. Tell her she still has a lot of options on the table to conceive with. Make her understand that it's not over. Take good care of her. Good luck! Stay blessed! Bye!
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Hey Rihana! How are you? I hope your friend is doing fine now. Miscarriage is a heart-wrenching thing. It takes a lot of strength to get out of that trauma. You need to stay with her and make her understand that everything will be alright. No need to stress over it now, what's done is done. Try to find out the background of this miscarriage and take care of that problem next time. It's not the end of the world for her, she has a long way to go. Good luck to her. Don't leave her side during this time period. She really needs you there. Stay blessed! Goodbye!
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Hi Rihana! I hope you are well. Well, any person after so many attempts can act like that. It takes a lot of strength to get through this journey. It's not easy to deal with this. If she is not able to make it work naturally, then tell her to go for alternatives. Sometimes we are also not doing it right, she only has one failed attempt. Try to ask the doctor why it didn't work. And then try again harder. Hope this helps. TakeCare. Good luck. Stay strong. Byeee!
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Hi Rihana! I am doing great. How are you? I feel so bad for your friend. It's hard to deal with a miscarriage. But she has only tried one time. I don't think there's anything wrong with her. If she has any doubts, then she should visit a doctor and get herself tested. Although trying again is a better option for her. Maybe she didn't take care of herself or just didn't do it right. She has nothing to worry about. Stay strong love. Love you for doing this. Goodbye!
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Hi Rihana! How are you? I am so sorry for what your friend is going through. No matter what I say, it will not make it easy for her to deal with that miscarriage. Tell her that she can get pregnant again. One failed attempt doesn't mean that you are infertile. And even if she's infertile, she can still get pregnant. There are so many treatments that can help her. So tell her to focus only on herself for now. Conceiving is not going to be a problem for her. Good luck. See you. Take good care of yourself. Bye!
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Hi! Rihana i feel bad for your friend. It's difficult to deal with a miscarriage. Although it was just her first try. So tell her not to panic. Sometimes we are not just doing it right. Try to visit a doctor and get her tested. That way things will clear out for her. And She will also find out about how to make it work for her. Don't worry, she will make it work sooner or later if she keeps trying. God bless her. Stay strong. Look after her. Byebye!
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This makes me really sad. It's not great to see someone suffering like this. Miscarriages can be hard to swallow. I can understand how tough it must have been for her. I have been through the same. I would not wish it on anyone. Sending your friend lots of prayers and love. I hope she finds the resolve to get through this. She needs all the support she can get. I'm glad she has you. She needs you in this tough time. She can always choose to visit a fertility clinic. That could change things for her! I hope she experiences lots of luck and experiences it soon! Baby dust and hugs!

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