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IVF or surrogacy
Hey there everyone! I hope you all are doing good. My friend's looking to decide between IVF or surrogacy. I think you guys can be of help here. She's having troubles conceiving naturally. If you could help her decide that'd be great. But alongside that, she's also worried what her family might think. I tell her not to worry about it too much since it's her life. But she still worries. They're not so supportive of either method. They just don't understand. Any solid points to help convince her family or just my friend to help her move on? I already know of a good clinic to recommend her. That's not an issue. TIA.
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Hey! Love to your friend. there seems to be a never-ending confusion over IVF or surrogacy! Such a cruel world we live in. They never let us live without being questioned. They have to understand what is been through. That's a tough life. I mean even celebs are not even afraid to do so. so why they are? They have to just consider her happiness. And understand the pain that an empty life often gives. Ask her to consult a fertility doctor and do her test initially. That might help her out in selecting either she has to with IVF or surrogacy, Great wishes and love. Stay strong and positive, May she be blessed with parenthood soon.XX
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I think you should talk to her family. They might listen to you. I am sure they will agree to it. Tell her to go with either of them. Both procedures work just fine.Whatever suits her can be done.I hope her problem is solved soon.
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Hey, everything is possible if she does not lose hope. I am so sorry for your friend. I know it would be very hard for her. She may be losing hope. But she has to be confident. Both processes are amazing and just depends upon the condition of a woman. It will be even easier if someone chooses a better place I mean clinic where the staff is professional to do this. Secondly, I would suggest that she should go for surrogacy. It is successful process than IVF and it is not risky. The clinics guarantee a baby to the intended parents. I hope this would help her.
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The question of choosing between IVF and surrogacy is often seen on various platforms. Actually both have their plus points and the weaknesses. The infertile couples or IPs are scared because they don't want to face any disappointment once again. It is important to first learn about your body conditions. The doctor can let you know that which is the better option. Individual search is also helpful. I would suggest not to get confused, just think well, take professional advice and then decide for the perfect choice.
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Hey. How are you doing? I think it depends on the condition of your friend. In some cases, IVF does not work. But surrogacy works every time. But it does not allow the person to carry their child themselves. So I think you guys should make a decision that her condition allows. For me, IVF wouldn't have worked. My uterus can't carry a baby. So, I have my son through gestational surrogacy in Ukraine. They also offer IVF. Your friend should totally go there for her procedure. They can help her on deciding what is better for her too. Good luck to her. Let us know what she decides.
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The topic of picking amongst IVF and surrogacy is regularly observed on different stages. As a matter of fact, both have theirs in addition to focuses and the shortcomings. The barren couples or IPs are terrified on the grounds that they would prefer not to confront any mistake by and by. It is critical to first find out about your body conditions. The specialist can tell you that which is the better alternative. Singular hunt is additionally useful. I would propose not to get confounded, simply think well, accept proficient exhortation and afterwards choose for the ideal decision.
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Hi Hanriche! Well, dear! It's just a very common issue what she is facing. She doesn't have to think that much. I'm also an IVF candidate for this year. Last year, my cousin sister had surrogacy. No one supported her! She and her husband alone did it. They took a stand against both of their families. But eventually went she came back with a baby from the fertility center in Ukraine. They were so happy back to home. It changed the couple's life. They were finally happy. Everyone in their families supported them later. Because they finally did complete their family. It was important to the success! So, let me tell her! She doesn't have to worry about people. It's just like it!
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Well dear. Just tell about her condition. If she ever got stuck in a miscarriage or some kind of infertility then she could knock out the IVF right away. That way she has to suffer IVF in her body, If her body is not compatible with the pregnancy than IVF is not worth a shot. She could go with surrogacy. You can tell her that. It's really great for her. Just don't worry about anything. In the end, everything is going to be fine.
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Hi there. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry to hear about your friend's issue. I know what she must be going through. It's never easy to deal with such situation. I hope she gets what she wants. Tell her to be strong and go for it. Good luck.
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In my opinion surrogacy is the better option as compared to IVF. I am also infertile. I did my treatment from Ukraine. I recommend you the best clinic of Ukraine Bio TexCom. They have the best doctors and equipment's. Their Staff is also good and caring. They packages are also reasonable. For more info visit http://mother-surrogate.info/
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hey there sidney. I hope you are doing fine. Infertility is really such an issue. we all would be so happy in a world without it. anyways I think that your friend should consult her doctor first before moving forward with anything. We are all here to support her. She shouldn't be worried about what others would think because in the long run her child will be to bring her joy and she would be happy that she did proceed with it. anyways hope she does fine. my prayers are with her.
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Hi there. I am so sorry for your friend. I can feel the pain she is going through. No doubt it is the most hard and crucial time for her. You have to buck her up because she might be broken by the pain. I must recommend that you should go for surrogacy. Surrogacy is really a blessing. It has helped many couple who were infertile or can't conceive. I my self have witnessed many couples who were rejected by doctors and they went through a successful surrogacy treatment and are having their babies now. One of the best thing of surrogacy is that it is a sure shot. It has much higher success rates and it gives you more positive guaranteed results. There are many clinics which offer surrogacy. But I must suggest you that you should go for Biotex in Ukraine. This clinic has produced most positive and guaranteed results with good and professional staff. They offer you with the best packages and services. So you must advise her to go for surrogacy as it is painless treatment with guaranteed results. Best of luck.
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HI Eva! well if you are deciding to go for either surrogacy or IVF then let me help you out since I have gone through both of these procedures. IVF, however, failed in my case because of my infertility so I had to resort to surrogacy and the only regret I have by taking surrogacy is that why did I not make it my first choice. IVF is painful and the chances are slim, however, surrogacy is a sure shot. I applied for surrogacy from a clinic in Ukraine and they had the best services. I hope I was helpful.
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Hello Hanrichie! So sad for her. The problem she is facing is common nowadays. She doesn't need to think so much. I'm likewise an IVF contender this year. A year ago, my cousin sister had surrogacy treatment. Nobody supported them in this regard. However, she and her DH finally done with it. They stood firm and faced critics of both friends and families. She went to a very prominent clinic located in Uk. They are now so cheerful after having an infant. It changed the couple's life. I just hope that like them, everyone should enjoy all that life has to offer. Everybody congratulated them later. Surrogacy is such a great blessing of science. It was vital to the achievement! Along these lines, let me advise her! She doesn't need to worry about what people think. Baby dust at her doorsteps!
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I will say go for surrogacy. It is easier and successful method of having a baby. As i have gone through it that is why i am saying for surrogacy. Surrogacy was successful for my family. I had hysterectomy cancer due to which i was infertile for life. So we decided to go for surrogacy. And it turns to be a real straight success for us without any issue. Now we will have our twin daughters from this surrogacy. That is why i suggest surrogacy. Good luck to your friend.
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I have been trough this condition and i know it is very hard. From my first marriage i had many complications while getting pregnant. But later i conceived for 3 times and resulted in miscarriage every time. Than i started looking out for the alternatives to have a baby. Than i came to know about surrogacy. I researched about surrogacy alot. Than it came for the clinic.I looked out for number of clinics and i found BioTexCom named clinic with very good reviews about it. So i consulted the clinic.They are the best regarding surrogacy. They will find a good surrogate mom for us. Thats the brief story of my miscarriage. Wish you all good luck with your life.
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Hey. You're a great friend for doing this. I hope your friend is in good health. This is a tough, tough question. Both the methods have their pros and cons. I would personally suggest surrogacy. I believe it's safer. It's a lot less hassle and you don't have to rely on luck as you do in IVF cycles. However, if you want a more natural process then IVF is usually preferred. If she thinks it would be really odd for her family to digest, she could go for IVF. All these suggestions could be helpful, but she's the one who makes the final decision. Another positive of surrogacy is the fact that it works for sure. IVF could end up costing as much as surrogacy if it isn't successful in the initial turns. So surrogacy might be expensive, but it's guaranteed to work. Good luck to your friend.
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Hey, I hope your friend is soon able to conceive. Infertility journey teaches us a lot of lessons and one of them is definitely to stop caring about what others think. Before I give my own personal advice I would want to make few things clear. A lot of us think that we have the option of choosing between surrogacy and IVF. Whereas that is not true a lot of times we don't actually have this choice. For IVF to work you need to have a functioning uterus, a good health and most importantly a good ovarian reserve. On the other hand for surrogacy the choices are infinite but it depends on you if you want to opt for these choices. I am stating this because I made a mistake when I decided to opt for IVF. My complication was so severe that IVF was not going to work for me but I wanted to give it a try. Anyways, I did and it resulted in a failure. I wished at that time I had the proper guidance by people because that would have made things a lot more quicker and better. Eventually, I went to this clinic which was known for what they did and they were the ones who guided me and told me that I should opt for surrogacy. Surrogacy was a success and now I have my own child. Therefore, the end line of all this is to be properly researched and to visit a good doctor. For any further help feel to ask.
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Well, IVF really has some good results. That's all you need! but, my personal opinion is that she should be the decision maker of her life. Many people are also suggesting me to not to go for IVF or surrogacy. But, still, I'm going for it. So, yeah! Stay strong! Just go for it. I've seen many people having children through the process when this year I was in Kiev. So, yeah!
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hi Han, how are you doing? it seems that your friend is confused in deciding the IVF & Surrogacy.both the IVF and the surrogacy have different factors which differentiate both of them from each other.look surrogacy is not too much expensive. it also gives you the chances of success 99% out of 100%. while IVF is very expensive. the success chances are also minimum. there is no guarantee that IVF will be successful in the first attempt. sometimes eggs are not healthy. so I advise you to go for surrogacy.you are saying that your friend is also worried that what her family thinks about her this type of step. tell her that you have taken a nice step. don't be worry, everything will be great. don't think about your family. only concentrate on your goal which is the feeling of happiness in your life.think that when you are a mother of a child you have the cause to live your whole life. my best wishes are with your friend. may she get everything which she want's to achieve?
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hi han, how are you doing? it seems that your friend is confused in deciding the IVF & Surrogacy.both the IVF and the surrogacy have different factors which differentiate both of them from each other.look surrogacy is not too much expensive. it also gives you the chances of success 99% out of 100%. while IVF is very expensive. the success chances are also minimum. there is no guarantee that IVF will be successful in the first attempt. sometimes eggs are not healthy. so I advise you to go for surrogacy.you are saying that your friend is also worried that what her family thinks about her this type of step. tell her that you have taken a nice step. don't be worry, everything will be great. don't think about your family. only concentrate on your goal which is the feeling of happiness in your life.think that when you are a mother of a child you have the cause to live your whole life. my best wishes are with your friend. may she get everything which she want's to achieve?
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Howdy, happy to know about your friend's decision. I hope your friend is doing great. It was really a wise decision. Both the treatments have positive and negative aspects. I would like to support surrogacy over IVF. It's not so risky and non-technical too. Success rates in surrogacy are almost full. But if you want to deliver your baby yourself, then you'd go for IVF. It will definitely work for her. The final decision will be her. Surrogacy is doubtlessly a great blessing of science. While in IVF the success rates are very rare. Also, experts suggest going for surrogacy instead. Best of luck to your friend.
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hey, how are you? I'm really amazed to know about your friend's decision. I hope your friend succeed in her exam. It was really a nice decision. everything has positive and negative aspects. also, Both the treatments have positive and negative aspects. I suggest her to go for surrogacy instead of IVF. It's not so risky and non-technical too. Success rates in surrogacy are almost full. if she has a problem with the idea of surrogacy mother then she can deliver her baby herself, then she has to go for IVF. It will definitely work for her. now the ball is in her court The final decision will be her. Surrogacy is a great blessing of science. While in IVF the success rates are very minimum as compare to surrogacy. Also, experts suggest going for surrogacy instead of IVF. Best of luck to your friend.
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Well, my greetings ladies! I’m not sure this conversation will make sense. Such decisions could be taken after a simple medical survey. I don’t understand this resonance. You developed such a long post chain. Why have you done it? It was at least funny. Take a look at this. Surrogacy and IVF were made in order to address different problems of women health. Actually every surrogacy process’s based on IVF. The doctor conducts IVF in order to get eggs and fertilize them. Only after it surrogacy can start. Your observing doctor can decided on your case. He’ll prescribe you what to do. Sometimes independent IVF doesn’t work. It has different reasons. You can’t produce eggs even after stimulation. It might be you can’t produce eggs of good quality even after stimulation. You uterus can’t be inappropriate to accept embryos. You just can have void instead of womb like me. When it’s true for you there’s no sense to apply for IFV. Nobody in sane will do it for you. You got it? But the strangest you haven’t describe her problem. I suppose she is infertile. She had any treatment before. Well, isn’t she enough aware of what she must do? She worries and it’s amazing. We all worry because it’s our fate. We understand our responsibility.
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Hi girls! I’m happy to add a bit to Luffo’s. I agree that sounds like nonsense. If she’s got treatment there’s not a need for questions. It’s not an infinite question. What to choose surrogacy or IVF? As usual it’s clear what to choose. As a rule the method of treatment chooses you. And you just match or not. It is a very simple algorithm. For your mate I gonna explain easy difference. IVF or in vitro fertilization is a complex procedure. A woman who donates eggs is stimulated. She got a protocol. It’s her cycle document. They can be short or long. It consists of treatment schedule. There necessary pills and injections are indicated according to the doctor’s program. So, she knows when and what she should take. This protocol causes an artificial hormonal monthly cycle. It blocks natural hormonal producing. It’s replaced by medical analogues. It’s the same but few times stronger. Before the day of ovulation she meets with her doctor. They have to perform egg retrieval. Her ripe eggs are removed for fertilization. Then we wait for the process of embryo growth. They grow up to 5th day. That’s enough to transfer them into womb. The day of embryo transfer is a day when you receive your embryos back. Theoretically, you are pregnant since that day. It must be so but works not always. Million women all over the world apply for it. It helps if you have tubal problems. Surrogacy seems at early stage as the same until the day of the transfer. Your embryos aren’t transferred into your uterus. It’ll be another woman’s womb. She is your surrogate mother. You have to use this procedure in case of uterine problems. It’s too brief and poor description. Women often have to use surrogacy because of heart or kidney issues, hepatitis or diabetes, mental disorders. Their lining can be unsuitable. These can be any problems resisting healthy carrying. As well you didn’t mention her particular problem. Maybe she doesn’t need both. I wish her healthy future and many children!
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Hi , how are you ?. you have suffered in your life but this is not the end of your life you have to move on. When. there is darkness in your life still there will be the light of hope which helps you to move on. IVF may fail because you are not healthy .you should go for surrogacy. My younger sister was in the same situation .she visited clinics in the UK .trust me it was successful. She is now having two kids. She is enjoying her life. You must go for it. Best of luck my dear freind.
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Oh Hey Hanriche! Well, I'd absolutely recommend an IVF first. I'm also undergoing an IVF this July. I had both options...But, my obs told me to have a first. So, yeah! I hope she has a successful cycle. Tell her to ask her obs too, for another opinion...
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She does not need to worry at all. This is nothing to be ashamed of. This is not her fault that she cannot conceive naturally. She can go for IVF. It will give her the chance of being a mother herself. She will be able to experience the things attached to pregnancy. I think her family won't have a problem with it at least.
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Hello, it seems to me that in this matter only a doctor can help her. The fact is that this can not be solely her preference. Usually, surrogacy is chosen by women who for various reasons can not bear the child. It can be as gynecological problems, and for example, heart disease, kidney disease. If a woman can bear a child by herself, then it is possible to choose IVF. But, if there are any contraindications - then, let him choose a surrogacy. To be honest, for me your question sounds rather strange. This is a very serious issue, not a question of the preferences of one person. Because if the woman herself can bear a child, she will not get into the program of surrogacy. To this should be appropriate readings. Therefore, this question should be asked by the doctor, not by the forum. Excuse me if I suddenly offended you. But, I hope that you correctly understand the meaning of my answer. As for the question of surrogacy?! I read in the comments above that the girls mentioned the biotexcom. My friends were there recently for the initial consultation. They have decided to enter into a surrogacy program there. They chose the clinic for a very long time. But, according to the rating of effectiveness and affordable cost of services - for them this is the optimal varinat. Girls, who was there recently too? What package did you choose? What package was for you the best of results and cost? We know that the economic package is no longer relevant. But this package did not attract my friends. They would not choose it, because of the long waiting time. They choose between the Standard package and the VIP package. They more than want a choice to a VIP package. They think that they will have more preferences and the process will start faster. But the standard package is less expensive. But, apparently, the waiting time for the selection of a surrogate mother is longer. What did you choose? It is interesting to determine exactly your opinion. For example, the author asked us what to choose - IVF or surrogacy. For example, my friends have turned to surrogacy according to the indication of the doctor. Because they had IVF and received a negative result. And surrogacy for them is the only way out. In addition, they are already in adulthood. My friend is 47 years old, and his wife is 41 years old. I hope for your fast reply !!!
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Hi Rachael! Hope you are in good health. Sorry to hear about your situation but don’t worry you are doing the write thing considering alternative ways. I am also infertile and have gone through both the procedures you are stating. IVF has high chances of success but it is not a sure shot and it is a little painful while surrogacy guarantees success and is painless. IVF was not successful for me and after 2 failed IVF I resorted to surrogacy for Ukraine since surrogacy is prohibits in Germany. My only regret was not choosing this option sooner. I am now mother of a baby girl that I had through surrogacy. You can consult your doctor about which treatment would best suit you and if IVF could be successful to your friend. I wish you the best of luck in your journey take care.
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Hi , how are you ? I hope you are fine . It will be good that you should opt for surrogacy. It’s will be a good decision. I was also the victim of infertility. I was so weak that IVF can’t help me to have a baby. So my freind recommended me the clinic inEurope . i visited the clinics.They give me the best treatment with allot of respect .So I must recommend you to visit clinics in Europe. They offer less expensive treatments as compared to other countries . So you must go there . Trust me you won’t regret your decision . May you have happiness in future .Best of luck my dear freind .
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Hi. How are you doing? Well, I am feeling sorry for your friend. It's a totally unfortunate thing to cope with. My all sympathies are with your friend. I am happy that she did not stick to her condition. But she is now trying to overcome the situation. This is very good news. I think if she is healthy she should go for IVF. As IVF for those who are suffering from unexplainable infertility. Well, surrogacy is also a good option. But IVF is far better than it. A final decision is yours. Keep these points in mind while considering any option best of luck.
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Hey there! I feel so sorry for what your friend had struggled. It is very tough to face infertility. Every woman has a wish of being a mother. Well, IVF and surrogacy both are a good option. But I would suggest her a surrogacy because surrogacy has more success rate than IVF. On the other hand, IVF is complicated in some cases. I hope her family supports her for deciding surrogacy for having children. God bless her.
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What's up these days? I guess she should ask this question to her doctor. Since the doctor knows exactly what are the reasons to opt for IVF or surrogacy. She will get a satisfactory answer based on some real logic and reason. I hope she chooses between them soon. Love and success to her. Stay strong and hopeful.
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I am doing great. Has she consulted some doctor? If not then I think she should. Chosing between IVF and surrogacy depends on the condition. An expert would be the best to answer this question. I hope you understand what I am trying to say. Sending love and wishes to her.
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No one can give a valuable advice on this issue not knowing anything about your friend's condition. IVF and surrogacy are completely different treatments! There are not that many conditions where both of options are equally acceptable. No one starts surrogacy because of blocked tubes, for example, or after few failed IVFs. There are indications for each of methods and only a doctor decides what to do and for what reason. Surrogacy is not an option if a woman is able to carry a baby, while IVF is. I hope you can imagine that surrogacy is extremely complex process and may take years, tens of thousands and all. I'd also recommend your friend to join online communities and to read information personally. That would be much more useful for her to take part in discussion personally
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Hello HanRichie, How are you doing? I am sorry about your friend. she is suffering from a very troublesome situation. She is infertile Is the one problem. Her family is not supporting it's a big problem. In this condition support of friends and family is very important. Ivf is a good alternative. In this process, her own egg is fertilized by her husband's sperm in a test tube. After embryo formation that will be injected into her body. It's nor illegal neither it is wrong. Baby 100% belongs to the IP. She will go for surrogacy. If she doesn't have healthy womb for baby. In surrogacy, The biological material will be of IP. Only the womb will be of a surrogate. Or if she had egg problem too. Then the egg and womb of a surrogate will be used. But the sperm will be taken from her husband. Or if she had a healthy womb but not a healthy egg. Donor egg will be used. But in all these cases baby will have biological relation to the IP. Bundles of prayers.
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IVF or surrogacy? You see this question more than often these days. But I think that it is a very personal choice. She should ask her husband. Or maybe, choose according to what suits her better. I guess that is the best idea. I know I would have done that. And for the family, I think she should ignore them.
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Well, I am feeling sorry for your friend. It's a totally unfortunate thing to cope with. My all sympathies are with your friend. I am happy that she did not stick to her condition. But she is now trying to overcome the situation. This is very good news. I think if she is healthy she should go for IVF. As IVF for those who are suffering from unexplainable infertility. Well, surrogacy is also a good option. But IVF is far better than it. A final decision is yours. Good luck!
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I hope you are doing fine. Infertility is really such an issue. we all would be so happy in a world without it. anyways I think that your friend should consult her doctor first before moving forward with anything. We are all here to support her. She shouldn't be worried about what others would think because in the long run her child will be to bring her joy and she would be happy that she did proceed with it.
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I think your friend should go for surrogacy. It has a higher success rate than IVF. IVF is a complicated and a risky process. It may end up in a miscarriage or something. But, surrogacy has more chances of being successful. Rest it is up to her. Good luck with your decision.
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I hope things are good at your end. Tell her family that is is not a big deal. It can be a source of happiness for the barren couples. You can have your own biological baby through this way. I think she should go for surrogacy. It is a wonderful process. It is a gift to all infertile. Good luck!
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I am sorry to hear about your friend. She must be facing a hard time. But she has to stay strong. Tell her to consult her doctor. According to me, both options are fine. Surrogacy is a sure shot. Whereas in IVF, you aren't sure if it will be successful. It depends on your friend what she wants to go for.
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I am so sorry about your friend. I can feel the pain she is going through. No doubt it is the hardest and crucial time for her. You have to buck her up because she might be broken by the pain. I must recommend that you should go for surrogacy. Surrogacy is really a blessing. It has helped many couples who were infertile or can't conceive. I myself have witnessed many couples who were rejected by doctors and they went through a successful surrogacy treatment and are having their babies now. One of the best things about surrogacy is that it is a sure shot. It has much higher success rates and it gives you more positive guaranteed results.
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So sad for her. The problem she is facing is common nowadays. She doesn't need to think so much. I'm likewise an IVF contender this year. A year ago, my cousin sister had surrogacy treatment. Nobody supported them in this regard. However, she and her DH finally done with it. They stood firm and faced critics of both friends and families. She went to a very prominent clinic located in Uk. They are now so cheerful after having an infant. It changed the couple's life. I just hope that like them, everyone should enjoy all that life has to offer. Everybody congratulated them later. Surrogacy is such a great blessing of science. It was vital to the achievement! Along these lines, let me advise her!
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I hope your friend is soon able to conceive. Infertility journey teaches us a lot of lessons and one of them is definitely to stop caring about what others think. Before I give my own personal advice I would want to make few things clear. A lot of us think that we have the option of choosing between surrogacy and IVF. Whereas that is not true a lot of times we don't actually have this choice. For IVF to work you need to have a functioning uterus, a good health and most importantly a good ovarian reserve. On the other hand for surrogacy the choices are infinite but it depends on you if you want to opt for these choices. I am stating this because I made a mistake when I decided to opt for IVF. My complication was so severe that IVF was not going to work for me but I wanted to give it a try. Anyways, I did and it resulted in a failure. I wished at that time I had the proper guidance from people because that would have made things a lot more quicker and better.
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happy to know about your friend's decision. I hope your friend is doing great. It was really a wise decision. Both the treatments have positive and negative aspects. I would like to support surrogacy over IVF. It's not so risky and non-technical too. Success rates in surrogacy are almost full. But if you want to deliver your baby yourself, then you'd go for IVF. It will definitely work for her. The final decision will be her. Surrogacy is doubtlessly a great blessing of science. While in IVF the success rates are very rare.
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I feel really sad for your friend. She must be facing a hard time. But she has to be patient. Tell her to stay strong. Did she consult a good doctor? According to me, both options are fine. She won't have any doubts about surrogacy. Whereas in IVF, you aren't sure if it will be successful. It's totally her choice. I hope she makes a wise decision.
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I am so sorry to see your friend in this situation. She must be dealing with a tough phase in her life. But she does not have any other choice than to be patient. Tell her to stay strong. She should consult her doctor. She will be able to guide her better what she should choose now. I hope she makes a wise decision.
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Hey there Dear. How are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really sorry that your friend has to face this. I know it must be really hard for her. These choices are never easy. However, it will be great if she doesn't lose hope. IVF is really a great choice. But surrogacy is very safe and secure. It has a lot very high success rate. I have had it too. I wish it works for her as well. I wish her good luck. Take care of her. Lots of love and support.

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