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IVF failed
Hi guys. How are you all doing? Some of you must have noticed I have been inactive around here for a while. These past days have really been a mess for me. My friend's first IVF cycle failed. She felt miserable and had lost all hope. I have been trying my best to be there for her. We don't understand why it failed. There were very good chances of it working for her the first time. IVF works best for women with PCOS. She started her next cycle a couple of days ago. She is still in Ukraine. I couldn't fly there to be with her because of my toddler. He has been really sick. Anyway, we are just waiting now. I really hope it works this time. We need your prayers. Thank you.
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Hey there. I hope you and your friend is doing great. I am really sorry to hear about her issue. I know it must be really hard. I wish her good luck. I hope things go well. Don't lose hope. Take care. Lots of love and prayers.
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I don't know why your treatment was unsuccessful. I have personally gone through surrogacy they are almost same. We didn't faced any type of this issue. It was a easy journey for us. Smoothly we got over surrogacy without having any issue. I hope your clinic will be resolving this issue as it is a big mark to clinic's procedure. Our clinic was good at surrogacy and it went smoothly. Our surrogate will be delivering our twin daughters soon. Good luck to your journey hope so it goes smoothly from now on.
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IVF is really an amazing process. I hope every woman who want babies, her dream would come true. IVF is great procedure but only for few. I am sharing a personal story now. I was not able to conceive for many years. I went for treatment but failed. I was broken and then I decided to go for IVF. I thought it as my last option. At first, it failed. After that, I thought that It would go successfully. After a couple of months, the second cycle failed too. I gave up and I was so upset. I came to know about surrogacy. I was doubtful but I went through it. After that, all my doubts were cleared when I went to the renown clinic in Europe. I was so happy that I went through it. I have a baby now. I have no worries in my life. I hope this would help others too.
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Hey guys. Thank you so much for replying to my post. I read each and every comment. It is nice to know there are so many people to support us in our hard time. You guys really are like a family to me. My friend just had her second transfer a couple of days ago. I hope it works this time. She has already lost hope. She is a pessimist. I really worry about her. Thanks to the people of the clinic she is at. They really are taking care of her and her situation efficiently. I'm glad she is in good hands. Your prayers here would be greatly appreciated. She is feeling better now. Thanks, everyone. You guys are amazing.
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I read your whole post. Don't be tense! Stay positive! Just to give your right hope. I want you to know that IVF works pretty better when it comes to next cycles. Stay blessed. I hope it goes well for her there in Ukraine.
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Hi Blake! I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry to hear about your friend's failed IVF. I know how devastating it is for a couple to not have success. You must give courage to your friend as this is a very crucial time of her life. She needs your support. My Ukranian experience was very fruitful 7 years ago. I am hopeful that your friend would have success as they provide you with the unlimited number of attempts. Stay strong.
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I also failed at IVF and IUI. I am unable to be a mother. I was infertile due to no reason. I went to many doctors and they got no reason for my infertility. And i live in Bulgaria where surrogacy is totally ban. So i have to move to Ukraine to go for surrogacy. Surrogacy will be a good solution to my infertility.
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Hey you guys. Thank you for all these nice comments. You really make me feel like your family here. Her doctor did say the chances get better the next time. This is weird science but I guess its true then. I really hope it works this time. I talked to my friend about how she was feeling and it made me so sad. She is already considering surrogacy for herself now. Kept saying how she has disappointed her husband. I feel so bad for her. Her husband is actually a very nice guy. I'm sure he is trying to support her in any way he can. She will take a test tomorrow. We are so excited but more nervous right now. I even talked to one of her doctors in Ukraine. They assured me how everything is under control and is going to work this time. These people are just really good at their job.
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Hey, I am fine. How are you dear. Are you doing alright? I really wish everything will be alright for her. Don't worry. Even though you are not here but she knows that you support her. Everybody is supporting her. Don't be worry about this. Of course, now you told us to pray for her so why don't we. It's just what the life is. Sometimes strange things happen to us. We can't imagine those things. Still, we have to face them. It's all going to be alright in the end. So tell your friend not to worry about this problem. Everything is going to be alright for her. If not this time then maybe next time but it's all going to be alright for her. Just wait for the right time.
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Hi there, I hope you are fine. Well, don’t worry about your friend. It’s just the beginning. At the start, the IVF cycle mostly fails. My friend was in the same situation. She was getting treatment from a clinic in London. Her first 2 attempts were not successful. At the third, she conceived. So don’t worry and don’t lose hope.
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It is sad but not disappointing dear. Although in some cases the procedure fails in the first cycle but it is too rare. You have faced the same fate. At the same time it is great that the process is still going on. There can be some hormonal imbalance that might have resulted into the failure. I am confident that this time there will be some great news waiting for you.
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sorry to hear about your failed IVF. Why you did not try surrogacy? IVF success rate is very low. Surrogacy is the best solution for infertility so far. I am a married woman. I am also an infertile. Before i had three miscarriages. I was in deep pain and also unhappy about the situation. Infertility effects you mentally and physically. I don't want to attend any gathering also don't want to hang out. Then a friend of mine suggested surrogacy to me. I discussed it with my husband. We both agreed. I am from Japan. Surrogacy is banned there. We went Ukraine for surrogacy. We chose Bio TexCom clinic for surrogacy. We are satisfied with the process. For more details and packages visit http://mother-surrogate.info/
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Hey, I am doing fine I hope so are you. I am really sorry to hear about your friend’s failed IVF cycle. This is the thing with IVF it is so unpredictable. Sometimes everything works perfectly on the first attempt and sometimes it takes so long for it to work. I hope her second cycle works out. The doctor is right the chances of IVF to work increase with time. The clinic she is visiting is professional and really good at what they do. This significantly increases her chances of conceiving. It really is frustrating when after implantation things don’t work out. When I was visiting this clinic I remember having a conversation with one of the IVF patients over there. She was telling me how stressful the whole process can be and with each step, the anxiety gets worse. I mean I myself have had it so I could relate to her myself. Throughout the time the doctors kept telling me not be nervous or scared but you can’t help it. Anyways, IVF wasn’t a treatment for me but I hope it is for her. Do make sure that her mind is filled with positive thoughts and make her understand that it wasn’t her fault that things didn’t work out.
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Say hello to your friend. I’m very sorry that she didn’t get pregnant after the IVF. But a lot of women need more than one attempt to succeed with the IVF. For example, my friend got pregnant after the first try. It took her 2 years to make her dream come true. She is not rich at all, so she had to save some money to try again. I’m very glad that she did it. She is a great mother now. Unfortunately, IVF didn’t help me to conceive. I had a lot of health problems after the first delivery. My husband and me dreamed to have more kids. So, we had to choose another solution. I mean the surrogacy. There’s a lot of info about surrogacy on the web. So, you can read it in case if your friend will have to find another way to become a parent. So, our dream to have more kids came true thanks to another woman. Sounds so weird! I had no idea that an outside woman would give birth to my kids. But she did it. By the way, we have also chosen the reproduction center in Ukraine. They helped us to do everything in the best way. They have chosen the surrogate for us and the embryo was transferred. In some weeks we found out that the surrogate was pregnant. To say more, God prepared a huge gift for us. The surrogate was pregnant with twin boys. So, now we are happy parents of three amazing boys. I was scared to find out the news. But now I feel extremely happy. Our boys are the biggest treasure of my life. I wish every woman could feel the same. Kids make our life so amazing!
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Hi! I feel really sorry for your friend’s loss. Failures are always taking something essential away. They steal hope and dreams. I hope she’ll find the way out. As well as she must find sores of inspiration. Pass our best wishes to her. Hope doing her second attempt she was prepared. Perhaps the pause between the tries was too short. In my history I also had failed IVF. I myself know how it hurts. Fortunately, it was only one round. I was young and foolish. I decided to try after 14 months of ineffectual TTC. In fact the problems was related another organ. In short I had severe illness of my uterus. It’s called purulent endometritis. It’s very unpleasant and disgusting disease. As result I have my womb removed. As well my hope was removed. My future opportunities weren’t also removed but their short list got immediately shorter. Now I’m waiting for surrogacy. I wait for miracle. It’ll happen when fertility clinic calls me and invites to participate in treatment. I’m joking. But it looks really the same. I don’t like when friends write posts instead of real authors. It’s not comfortable to analyze. Such comments don’t look trustworthy. Sorry if I’ve said it. Also I don’t understand why she went to Ukraine for IVF. I’m not sure it’s reasonable to fly to Ukraine for having this procedure. It can be covered by insurance police, I think. Therefore, Ukraine’s not specialize at regular in vitro. They became famous because of egg donors. Surrogacy is their main skill too. I know some women who were there. They have never had IVF there. Actually IVF as such is a basic of all procedures. I guess you understood what I meant. Thus I don’t know how to advise. I just can send my good vibes. My best regards and wishes! Whatever that could be helpful I wish to her mate. Good luck!
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I'm sorry to hear about your friend, dear. You're such a caring and a thoughtful friend. I just want to say that don't lose hope. When I was declared infertile, I had given up. I have endometriosis, which made me think that I can't get pregnant. But then seeing my friends getting pregnant and having babies made me realize that my life is incomplete. I have an amazing husband who supports my every decision. We decided to go for IVF. We chose a well-reputed clinic in Ukraine which had high success rates. Even then, I failed 2 times. Each time my confidence shrank but I didn't lose hope. Then finally I was at a win on the third attempt. It sure is a painful process but I wanted to experience pregnancy. So, think positive. Everything will be fine soon.
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I am feeling sorry for your friend. My dear give her a hope. This is not the end. She will conceive soon. Just stay positive and keep trying. Things will come to her in better ways. Just wait for the perfect moment. Lots of IVF cycle failed in the first attempt but in a second cycle, they get succeeded. So Yes she is on. Ask her to stay strong.
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Hi, I'm so sorry that IVF has failed. This is very sad news, but I hope that next time the result will be. You do not need to despair, the main thing is not to lose hope. You know that it is not always possible to achieve a positive result with the first time. Some women require multiple attempts. And sometimes you should turn to the services of a surrogate mother. I hope that the doctor will explain the cause of the failure. Do not give up.
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Sorry to hear about your failed IVF. Why not try surrogacy. It is the best solution for infertility i guess. I'm 43 year old now. I'm married now and i was married before. From my first marriage i had no luck with having children although i conceived for 3 times. I had many complications while getting pregnant. I was pregnant thrice but had miscarriages everytime. I am married for second time i want to have a baby now. Having a look at my previous pregnancy period i guess it is not a good idea to be pregnant again. So i talked to my husband and have agreed him to go for surrogacy option.
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Hi guys. Thank you so much for commenting on my post. It has been a while. But I totally adore the love and concern you all show. My friend is doing so well now. She is pregnant. I hope everyone gets to see their happy ending soon. If anyone here is struggling with fertility, they should check out this clinic in Ukraine. They will solve all your problems. Good luck.
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hey there. how is she doing now? I feel so sorry for her loss. ill pray for her. keep pushing her. motivate her. I'm with you girls. lots of love to her. tell her not to lose hope. all the struggle will be worth it soon.
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Hi there! how are you doing? I hope you are doing fine. I think she should go for surrogacy. It is a wonderful option. Surrogacy is a blessing in disguise for infertile couples. It helped me become a mother. I hope it will help her too.
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Hi. It’s so sad to hear that your friend has failed her first cycle. Its good to see that you are worried about her. You are a true friend. You care for her. You should not worry. Most people fail in their first attempt. I hope this time she will succeed. But if she could not succeed in this cycle, I will suggest you go for surrogacy. It will really work for her. Because the surrogate mother gives birth to her child. She is the healthy woman. There are rare chances of failure. IVF does not always suit everyone. So if I was in your place, I will surely go for surrogacy. Good luck. My prayers are with your friend.
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That's really sad. I know you must be feeling really miserable. But tell her not to lose hope. You are her friend. Try to contact her daily. Talk to her and calm her down. Everything will be fine. IVF cycle can prove to be successful soon. Just tell her to not lose hope and stay strong.
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Best of luck! Secondly, a second attempt always has better chances. We should always hope for the best! Yes. I agree that PCOS has good chances of IVF. Many of my TTC buddies went for IVF and some of them even conceived a child through it. So, yeah! Baby dust to her. :)
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Hi there! how are you doing? I hope you are doing fine. I think she should go for surrogacy. It is a wonderful option. Surrogacy is a blessing in disguise for infertile couples. It helped me become a mother. I hope it will help her too.
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Hi There. How are you doing? I hope you are doing fine. We are doing good. I read your post. Infertility is a big issue. It is really sad to see couples going through such a tough time in their life. I am so sorry that you have to go through this much pain. Don't Lose hope though. There are many ways you can still have a child. I would suggest surrogacy. Surrogacy is a wonderful option for infertile couples. There is a clinic called Biotex Com in Kiev, Ukraine. They are opening in London on August 18. I think You should visit there. I hope all goes well for you. Take care. God bless.
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Hello, how are you feeling? I think every woman is going through an issue these days. PCOS can be a really big cause behind many problems. Fertility issues and pcos are interlinked. I think you should get proper treatment from a good clinic. Biotexcom is a good option for surrogacy and IVF. I haven’t tried their IVF sessions though. But I have heard their success rate is high. They are famous for surrogacy procedures as well. I think you should visit their event in August. It will be held in London on the 17th and 18th. If you have any concerns you can email them at surrogacy@biotexcom.com. They’re really caring and responsive. Best of luck!
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Hope you are doing well. I just caught a glance of your story. And I am glad you shared your review. Yeah, you are right that one should consult someone about the clinic. I myself was very depressed when I came to know that I can't get pregnant. It was very dismaying for my family too. Then a friend from work told me about her experience. It was from a clinic in Ukraine. She conceived after 3 attempts. This was a hope for me. I myself gave a try to contact the clinic. It was a wonderful experience. As their staff was really cooperative. And I am very certain about their treatment. I will recommend the same clinic.
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Hey there! Welcome you here again. I hope you are doing fine. Well, I feel so sorry for what your friend had gone through. But now this time I hope she will succeed. Ukraine is the best place. Here many reputable clinics available. I am also an infertile person. I had faced infertility for 5 years. Then I had opted for surrogacy. I went to Ukraine for it because surrogacy banned in our country. Here I found a reputable clinic. I had provided with great services here. They also took a great care of surrogate. I had blessed with a baby through surrogacy. I hope best for your friend. I pray for her. Best wishes.
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Hey there, how are you? I hope you are doing fine. I am really sorry about your past. Infertility is spreading rapidly. This is another issue many couples are facing these days. I would like to advise you to go for surrogacy procedure. It has more success rate than any other treatment.
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I am so sorry to hear that. She must be so upset. I pray that things work out for her. I am also in ukaine these days for my surrogacy. the clinic i am visiting has higher success rate. Plus the clinic is reliable as well. Can you tell me which clinic she is at? As there are so many scammers around as well. I hope the is at a reliable clinic. IVF is a great procedure. I hope it works out for me. Sending wishes and prayers to her.
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It happens sometimes. Please, don't worry. It's not only the case with you. It's with a lot of people. You really don't have to worry about anything. As long as you have a clinic that you can trust. You'll always get your help. Everything is going to be great for you. You don't have to worry. Please, take care.
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I feel so sorry about your friend’s failed IVF. Hoping that it works for her this time, but if it fails again then my suggestion to your friend is that she try surrogacy. The clinic’s name is “ BIOTEXCOM”. It’s one of the best fertility treatments clinic. Also they are arranging a seminar, so if you have any future questions about your health and treatment do attend their seminar. The date and venue is not confirmed yet, but you can check out their website. Hope so you’ll find your answers.
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Hey guys. Thanks for all the support. She has been through such a hard time. She had lost all hope of becoming a mother. The next cycle worked. She is not pregnant. I couldn't be happier. Her clinic did a great job with her. Looking back at this just gave me tears.
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I am really sorry to hear about your friend's failed IVF cycle. I can understand how tough it must have been for her. However, I think she should give it another try. IVF is an unpredictable process and therefore, at times doesn't work in the first attempt. One has to give it more than one attempt. Did she opt for it with FET or without it? Also, since she is visiting a good clinic I think she should not really worry. I myself am visiting them for a different process and I know how dedicated they are towards their procedures. My process of surrogacy worked with them as the surrogate is pregnant and both she and the baby are healthy. It's just that with such procedures there is no 100% guarantee attached. Therefore, tell your friend to not lose hope. Good luck to you. I hope this cycle works. All my prayers are with her. Sending baby dust.
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Hello Monika and Anna. Hope you guys are doing good. Thank you for your concern. You have no idea how much this means to us. It was a roller coaster for my friend. Sometimes it got really hard for her but she stayed strong. Luckily we had chosen a really good clinic for her procedure. She was in good hands. This helped her in staying hopeful throughout. Her doctors believed it would work for her. They weren't wrong. She conceived after her second transfer. My friend is currently pregnant. Thanks to everyone who supported us during this. It means the world to us.
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I am extremely sorry to know about her failed IVF. I can understand that this might be very hard for her to go through. However, I think she shouldn't give up. IVF is an unpredictable process and the results improve with time. I believe she should give it another try. Good luck to her. The clinic she is visiting is known for their treatments therefore, I am sure her process will go well. Sending baby dust her way.
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Hello, Blake! I hope you're doing alright and so is your friend. This is a brilliant post, in all honesty. I love the fact that you're so close to your friend. She needs all the support she can get. These are difficult times for her. It's really hard to bounce back from failed IVF. In general, all us infertile people have it so tough with TTC. It's really hard to keep hoping. I really hope this works out for her. I'd suggest her to consider other options, as well. It wouldn't be a bad decision to go for another round of IVF, either. Giving up isn't an option, though. Good luck to her.

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