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Now at the age of 43 i am married again to someone else and we want a baby of our own. I know at this age it is quite difficult to have a baby off my own womb. Thinking of previous complications regarding pregnancy i would not try to be pregnant again. From my last marriage i had many complications regarding pregnancy. I don't have any other options left so far so surrogacy is the only solution to my problems i guess. My husband agreed for surrogacy so i started looking for clinics with good surrogacy records. I founded many clinics regarding surrogacy and i picked up the few clinics too for further discussion with them. I contacted many clinics and told them every aspect of our complications. From their satisfied answers i guess some clinics are the best solution for having a baby. So i suggest that you people should also do your own research regarding surrogacy and should contact different clinics for further details. Everytime miscarriage happened to me. But i'm worried about many other aspects like my behaviour towards the baby after knowing everything. Like when the baby grows up what i should tell him/her. So i persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy to have our own children. Someone raising a child via surrogacy should share their experience.
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Getting a good clinic is a blessing though. I had a bad experience in the begging. My doctor was just a money maker. He asked me to go for IVF. Though I had no chance at it. I got to know this afterward. He asked me to go for IVF and I did. It was so painful for me. I ended up bleeding for 5 days. I was on the verge of collapsing. I thought I would die. I couldn't sue the clinic. Since they had mentioned that the chances depend on individuals. Anyways, my sister found another clinic in Europe. They were total opposites. I love them. They helped me a lot.
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Surrogacy is the best solution as you said. I will suggest you surrogacy because i have been through this by myself that is why i will suggest surrogacy. It is better to suggest others from which you have gone through. I am going through the successful journey of surrogacy that is why i am telling you about it. I had hysterectomy cancer from my adulthood. I had proper treatment of it and i was cancer free. But i was infertile for life. But my husband always supported me and we decided to start our journey of surrogacy. We lived in Japan and surrogacy is totally banned here. So we moved to Ukraine. There we found a very good clinic regarding surrogacy. We started our journey there. The clinic is very good the whole clinic is to cooperative with there clients. From that clinic our surrogacy journey started. Now our surrogate is pregnant with our twin daughters. We are so happy that we are finally going to have our babies soon.
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Awww Sofia? I'm so sorry for your previous losses. I know how they hurt a person. I personally have had a few in past. Now, undergoing IVF in Kiev for July. Anyway! Wish you all the best! I think it's really a wonderful idea. Just go for it! Will really help you in completing your family. xx
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Sofia! How are you holding up dear now? I'm also having a surrogacy programme this August or maybe before in Ukraine. Yes! I'm just another infertile person like you. Wishes needed! My support is with you. Write me back! We can really get along! I've love to do so. :) Stay blessed. :)
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Well, if your husband is with you then you don't have to take tension at all. Everything is going to be alright for you. Just be patient. I think the best answer to your question depends on where are you living now. IF you living somewhere near to America. You got to travel a lot then. If you are in Europe. It might be easy for you. Well, Internationally Ukraine has the highest rate in this thing. You could go there and start your treatment from there as well. Still, Everything is going to be well for you. You are going to be a mother soon. Don't worry about this dear. Best of luck.
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hey there. how are you doing? I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. it must've been hard for you. .please, take care of yourself. stay sane. I'm so glad you made the right choice of surrogacy. hope it helps you. let me know the details too. don't be scared. your dong the right thing. many people cannot give birth naturally. it's not their fault. you can take your child in confidence and let them know about surrogacy when they are well matured. take care.
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I am sorry for you. The miscarriages must have been so hard for you. But I am happy that your second husband is so supportive. Indeed surrogacy is an amazing process. It is a successful procedure that other treatments. It is 100 % successful procedure. I think you should probably go for it. I am also a mother of a baby. I got him through surrogacy. It really went well for me.. I hope this would help you.
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I am sad for you. I am cheerful that your second spouse is so strong. In reality surrogacy is a stunning procedure. It is a fruitful methodology that different treatments. It is 100 % effective strategy. I figure you ought to go for it. I have faced infertility for 10 years. Now, I am a mother of a child. I got him through surrogacy. It truly went well for me.. I trust this would encourage you.
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Hey, Sofia I hope you're doing well. I am extremely sorry to know about your previous complications. I think it is a great decision that you have decided to opt for surrogacy. I have a child through surrogacy and I am so glad that I signed up for it. When you start considering this procedure just research about it so that you have information for yourself as well. It is not legal in many countries and where it is legal sometimes it is very expensive. So make sure you find the balance of both. The clinic I opted for was not only operating legally but was also so systematic and well organized that I didn't stress out even once. When the child was born they even provided us with the child's documents. This made it so much easier for us to travel. There are a lot of legal complications involved so you need to be well aware of them. Other than that so far with the child, everything has been great. I am so glad I opted for surrogacy. Also, once you have one child through surrogacy you really want to opt for it the second time as well. This is because the experience is just so beautiful.
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Surrogacy is a worth mentioning process. It completes the desire of deprived parents. Many people get scared of surrogacy. They think that they cannot buld the relationship with the child that a natural parent can enjoy. I don't think so. It is important to remember that a surrogate mom is just carrying your eggs and the sperms. The rest is yours. The child is yours. He is your part. Once you hold your rainbow everything will get normal.
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Hey there Sofia. How are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really happy to hear that you are going for surrogacy. It's really a blessing. I wish you good luck. take care.
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I feel sorry for you, dear. I'm glad you've finally decided to go for surrogacy. You made the right decision and you'd be very proud of it. Surrogacy is a beautiful thing. You won't feel any different from your child, dear. The child is biologically yours. You develop an attachment to the baby as he grows, don't worry. Good luck!
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Yes, the chances are low. Still, why are you worried so much. There is nothing for you to worry about. This is not going to create a problem for you. You just need to be happy. Everything is going to be under control for you. This must not be the problem you should be worried about. Just be happy for your marriage.
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Sofia surrogacy is a safe procedure. It is a legal and quite an effective procedure. In some regions, it is quite affordable too. I had 3 IVFs in the US. But all failed. I was so much devasted after each failure. It was getting on my nerves. Then my DH said let's give a try to surrogacy. I was so much disappointed that I didn't want to try it. Since my DH wanted to give it a shot. We decided to try outside of the US. We came to know about Ukraine. We searched a lot. And then we finally decided to go for it. Now we have our own baby. I am so happy and thankful to my DH. He supported me and was there for me through all the time. I think you should also try surrogacy.
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You have been through a lot in your life. I must say you are a strong woman. You are an inspiration for many. Surrogacy is an amazing option to go with. I had my surrogacy in Ukraine. I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. I didn't know what to do at that time. It was a whole mess. But then we came to know about surrogacy. It totally changed our lives. We had a great time in Ukraine. Our surrogate, Annie, was a wonderful lady. She made it so easy for us. It all went so well. We have a baby girl now. :) I wish you luck for your surrogacy. Stay strong and hopeful.
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I can understand your concerns regarding surrogacy. However, it is very important because of this reason to research. The clinic one visits for the process really matters a lot. Therefore, make sure that the clinic you visit is operating at a high success rate. Most importantly should be legal. Other than this the doctors should be experienced as well. All of these concerns are legit. Mainly because one pays a lot for the treatment. Therefore, do take your time. The services should also be according to your needs. The clinic I know about offers two packages. The VIP and the standard package. Both of these are reasonable. Many people are talking about it.
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Thank you for this, Sofia. I'm sure it would have been very difficult. You're a brave, brave woman! I'm glad you did not stop at anything. It's even more courageous to talk about your experience. I'm happy that you opened up. It would make you feel lighter. Thank you for doing this. This is really nice to see. I hope your luck turns around. You're doing everything really well. It's really nice to see that you contacted many clinics. You cannot rush into such a decision! Good luck on your journey. I pray it all works out in the end. It would be the ideal ending.
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This is such a nice story, Sofia. I'm so happy for you, you have no idea! I'm glad everything worked out so well. This makes me really glad that people pursue these things! Many women decide to accept their fate. That's not the way to go about it! Your fate is more than just this. You're doing the right thing. Keep it up, okay? Your story will serve as an example for the rest to follow. I hope it has pleasant experiences on its way. You do deserve the best! Keep us posted on how it goes. I'll make sure to help you out in any way possible. Good luck to you.
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I'm glad you made this post. I think it is completely safe to go for surrogacy. It is a great option to have a child. You will be his real mother. So don't worry about that. The bond is not created in the womb. It is created in life. The child would love you just as much. I think it is okay to tell the kids where they come from right from the start. Don't make it a taboo for yourself of the baby.
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You're going through a bit of a rut. It's okay to worry, sometimes. I know I can relate to your story. It will become better with time. You should consider your options. I'm glad you're considering surrogacy. You have to start somewhere! It's a new process for you, so it's obvious you'll have questions.

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