You will almost certainly feel guilty and also possibly angry after a miscarriage, even though it is unlikely that you or your partner were in any way responsible for the miscarriage. These feelings are very understandable. Ask your professional carers to explain exactly what may have happened and to answer your questions.
The need to grieve Whether you miscarried early in pregnancy, or very late, and particularly after you have felt your baby move, you may already think of your baby as a person and grieve for your loss. Grieving is important, just as it is when you lose any loved one, and it may take some time to come to terms with your loss.
If you lose your pregnancy early on, the chances are that you will not be able to see or hold your baby. Bur this doesn't mean that you do not imagine what might have been, and your mind may come back to this time and time again. It may be helpful to contact a support group, usually run by people who have experienced miscarriage themselves. They can help you come to terms with what has happened.
You may want to see your family doctor, or specialist, to understand what happened and why, and to discuss future pregnancies. But remember that there is often no explanation, and cruel as it may seem, an early miscarriage is often nature's way of dealing with a pregnancy that, for whatever reason, is failing to develop. When you are both ready, the time will probably come to try again, bur it is wise to wait until you are mentally and physically ready. Remember, most women who have had one or more miscarriages go on to have a healthy baby.