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How does pregnancy feel?
Hi everyone! I'm writing this post to introduce myself. It was some years ago that I found out I had cancerous polyps. It lead to the removal of my uterus. I was never the same again. I had always wanted to become a mother, but I felt the dream being snatched from me. I was so lost and depressed. Finally, after being introduced to surrogacy, I looked more into it. I am so glad I did. I got my baby girl from it. However, I often do feel left out. I wish I was able to conceive. Don't get me wrong surrogacy was a great experience. It's just that I often wonder what pregnancy would feel like? Anyone who would like to share?
Edited by HanRichie on 2018-03-18 05:57
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Hello! Umm, yeah! I completely relate your story. You've been through an HYS...It really empties a person. Well, last year my cousin sister also had surrogacy procedure at an infertility center in Ukraine. She has a baby girl through it. It really changed my sister's life. They finally completed their family after years. She is also planning to have another procedure next year. I'm really glad you went through it. Wish you all the best for your child. You're really a strong person. Stay blessed. xx
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At first, you'll get scared of it. After some time you'll get used to it. I am really sorry if you are scared of anything. This is just like it. Trust me it's awesome. It's like carrying a soul with you. It's not just like. It's actually it is. I am very happy to tell you about it. It's the best experience. You'll feel some cramps at the ending stage as well. Swell breasts. Mood swings. These are all things you are going to face about it. Just get yourself prepared. It's going to be best. I am really happy. Best of luck.
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At first, you'll get scared of it. After some time you'll get used to it. I am really sorry if you are scared of anything. This is just like it. Trust me it's awesome. It's like carrying a soul with you. It's not just like. It's actually it is. I am very happy to tell you about it. It's the best experience. You'll feel some cramps at the ending stage as well. Swell breasts. Mood swings. These are all things you are going to face about it. Just get yourself prepared. It's going to be best. I am really happy. Best of luck.
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Hey, Hannah firstly congratulations to you on finally having your own child. When I had my baby from surrogacy I was honestly the happiest person on this planet. As the doctors had told us that it won't be possible for us to have her own children. So after that, I had really given up the hope. However, the technology has so immensely improved that through surrogacy we were able to have our own baby. The clinic gave us regular updates about the baby and the surrogate. We were even in touch with the surrogate. This literally made us feel like we were too part of the journey. I think that is what pregnancy feels like. How you take care of the child by taking care of the surrogate. You make sure she is eating properly and is happy. You look at the baby through the ultrasound machine. It was an amazing experience and sometimes my DH and I think we should try going for another surrogate baby as well. As the journey was so magical and pure. I hope this helps you as well and know that you have been gifted with your own baby so be happy.
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Hey, I am so sorry. Your condition wasn't a good one. It must have left you weak. There are so many women who go through this. But you are strong. You found a solution. You could've given up too. Many people just lose all hopes. I am glad that you didn't remain childless. I get your thoughts. I also wanna know how it really feels to carry a child. But I think I am not that lucky. We can just think of this beautiful experience. I wish I could feel that way just once.
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It is really a natural instinct to feel how actually pregnancy happens and what comes along with pregnancy. It is an unmatched feeling. I cannot compare it with any other emotion or feeling. It is something that completes the woman. As you start carrying the rainbow you will special. It is not merely carrying a baby, it is carrying a new life. If you have missed the opportunity to become a natural mother don't feel bad. You have the precious blessing to live with.
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Hey, I am sorry for you. I am happy for your success too. Every woman wants to have babies. I was one of them. I was married to the love of my life. We tried from day one of marriage. but it failed. I was so upset. One day I got pregnant. I was so happy but I miscarried after 8 weeks. I was so devastated. Losing an unborn baby is not easy. So later I miscarried 2 more times. I was so devastated. I came to know that I have uterine polyps and I am not able to maintain pregnancy. I was so hopeless but I moved on. I decided to go for surrogacy as my egg was fertile. I went to a clinic in Europe and we had surrogacy. After a long journey, I was blessed with a baby. I was so happy that I made a right decision.
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This is such an emotional post. Being mom is special, but being a naturally conceived mom is great. I know you must be missing all this fun. Pregnancy is a roller coaster. On one hand the mothers are enjoying the wait for the new comer and on the other hand they have to face a number of challenges. Pregnancy conditions vary from person to person. There are few things that are found in every pregnancy. Nausea, morning sickness, body aches, lethargic feelings exist in every woman. They bother but the happiness never says bye.
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hey! congratulations on your baby girl. I agree with you by any means. but the only thing is you just can't have everything in your life. you have to agree with the little you have. and that's not little for sure. having a baby is such a huge blessing. though we cant has all those baby bumps feeling. all those twist and turns and emotions, I miss that too very much. even I got jealous of so many pregnant women often. because I just got to feel all those things. but even I can't wait to have that little world on my arms. you won't believe.once I was up to so many activities like gardening or having little kittens at home. I just want my world far from the empty feeling that I often got to feel. That's more painful. I know that's unfair. but you have to accept all these things. you have to be happy with the little you have. I would be much satisfied with all this. just got to see some hope soon. fingers crossed.
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I know it can be confusing. I mean you get the baby. Though you cannot experience the nine months. You will feel left out sometimes. I think having a baby is more important. Obviously opinion matter. For me, the pregnancy didn't matter. I wanted to hold that little thing. I wanted to call him mine.Oh, I have a baby from surrogacy. I just hope you get past these feelings. I am sure the baby will keep you occupied. Just think positive. Stay happy and forget the pat. Think about your girl's future.
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I have never experienced it so I don't have any idea. I had my child through surrogacy as well. I also used to worry about these things. However, You should get relax, sit back and take a deep breath. Surrogacy was ideal for me. Furthermore, I'm very happy with my life now. It truly helped me to cope with harsh circumstances of my life.
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Hey beautiful. I can relate to your pain. I mean, it is poignant situation for you to have a baby but not experiencing the nine months of pregnancy. One goes through the roller coaster of emotions during this period. It is one of the wonderful periods of one's life. Sweetheart, don't feel grieved. Just don't give up that soon. Be thankful to God that you are now a mother.You have a beautiful young princess.Don't get tensed. Look and plan for her future.There are often situations where life tests us.Don't lose your will power. Be brave. Face all the obstacles with a bright smile. Surrogacy is of great help definitely. One can consult one's doctor for the best treatment. At least, after going through disastrous loss females can hope to be mothers again.I am so glad that i had made the right decision at the right time of my life.
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Hello Han! I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry to hear about your disease. I feel bliss on your success with having a child through surrogacy. I also had my twin sons through surrogacy. It was a really tough time for me when I first knew about my infertility. I have similar feelings as you. Indeed it would be a wonderful feeling to carry your own child. But I am still grateful for surrogacy. It has helped me change my life completely. After 9 years of dealing with infertility. I feel blessed to feel the warmth of motherhood. Your thread is really nice. I would also love to hear from pregnant moms. How does it feel to carry your own child for 9 months? Would love to hear from fellow mothers.
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Hey there. Glad to hear from you. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry to hear about it. I know what you must be feeling. I have been through it. I know it is not easy. I have had surrogacy too. It was a very hard choice. However what matters is our child. We go through all that just to have our children. The purpose is fulfilled. I know its hard to get a hold of the feeling like this. I wish you good luck. I hope things go well. Take care.
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It feels good to be pregnant. I was pregnant for 3 times but all the pregnancies resulted in miscarriages. During my first marriage i miscarried for 3 times.I always had complications while getting pregnant.Now i'm married for second time at the age of 43. Having a look at my previous pregnancies i guess it is not a good idea to be pregnant again. So i persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy and he is ready to go for it if we will have a baby of our own DNA. So i started looking out for good clinics regarding surrogacy.I researched over the web and found many clinics regarding surrogacy. While having a look at best known clinics for surrogacy i came across a name of clinic many times. Having very good positive reviews.So i contacted that clinic and told them about my issue.They said they will help us in every possible way.They told me about their procedure and they will help us in every aspect. They told us that we can have baby of our own DNA sample. Surrogate mother will not have any effect on our child. She will just keep our child in her womb. The clinic will find a good surrogate for our baby. They will test her and will analyze if she can carry our child in her womb or not. If someone has some experience regarding surrogacy let me know your experience than.
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Hey there! I was unable to conceive as well. It was a rough experience. We tried IUIs. But no success. We went fir ivf. Failed again. Thrice with ivf. Then on the suggestion of a doctor to me husband, he looked into surrogacy. Dug out all thereis to know about it. Then he talked to me. I was willing to do anything to give him what he deserved. So, we went through the process. It was awesome. I felt like everybody at the clinic understands me. And it ended up in a beautiful baby girl. I sometimes wish that I had conceived her myself. But I'm happy that I have her. No matter how.
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Hi Hanriche!. CONGRATS! Very happy to hear your success story. Yes! That works all the time. I've seen today many couples and even celebrities having their children through the process. It's pretty popular now. I've had a hysterectomy a year ago. Just because of it, I can't have a child. So, yeah! Now, undergoing surrogacy. Yes! It's really important to complete your family at all. Stay happy :)
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I can understand that completely. I was once there in my life. I also wanted to be pregnant. I wanted to experience all that. But unfortunately, I couldn't. I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We opt for surrogacy. And now we have our baby girl. My story is also almost like you. But now I am so much busy with her that I never thought like that. I don't know what it would probably feel like. But I am happy in my life now. :) All thanks to my DH. He is extremely supportive and loving.:) Sending love and wishes to you. Good to know a story that almost like mine.
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Hey there! I'm so sorry to hear about your infertility. Sometimes life tests us with these situations. We have to stay strong and ace them. Modern methods like IVF and surrogacy have really made our lives easier. It's good to know that you had your baby through surrogacy. Dear, I know sometimes the thought comes to you that you didn't carry your baby. But always remember, the things that are ought to happen, they happen. And we have to accept the reality because there comes a point in life when you realize that it happened for your own good. Eventually, you are happy that maybe God saved you in this way. So, trust yourself. Everything happens for a reason and doesn't happen for a better reason. I hope you got the point. Love your baby and be an amazing mother. Lots of love!
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Hello. Hope you are well. A lot of women wonder what it is like. Especially the ones who know they can't ever get pregnant. It was like this for me too. I don't know. Never experienced it. I had my son through surrogacy too. I sometimes wonder the same thing. But again, I'm a believer in the saying that everything happens for a reason. Surrogacy was right for me. And I'm pretty satisfied with my life now. I like looking at the brighter side of everything. It really helped me get through the hard times of my life.
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This broke my heart. I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. God, this made me so sad! I'm really gutted to hear about your problems, you don't deserve this! It must be really tough for you. Please don't give up hope. You can still manage to conceive. Have you ever thought about consulting a fertility clinic for treatment? I think that could be the way to go. They might have something which could work for you. I'd love to help you out. Do ask me if you're interested in this. I managed to conceive with the help of IVF. There must be some way for you, too. We can find something together! Good luck to you. Sending you my prayers and best wishes.
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Hi Han! How are you? I hope you are doing well. Welcome to the forum Han. I am sorry that you were not able to become a mother. But it's great that you went for Surrogacy. Surrogacy is a great treatment for people who can't make it work on their own. I also had my baby through Surrogacy. It's a beautiful treatment. But to make it work, you need to find a good clinic. I went abroad for my treatment, but just because of how good that clinic was, I didn't even think for one second. I also want to experience pregnancy when I hear people talking about it. But I am still glad I was able to make it work somehow. Good luck. Stay blessed. Take care. Bye!
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Hi Han! How are you? You are going in the right direction. Having the right treatment at the right clinic. So you have nothing to worry about. You are lucky that everything is in your favor now. It's not as easy for everyone to make it work. I am sorry that you were not able to experience pregnancy, but be happy that you were able to make it work. There are a lot of people out there who just want to make it work, but they can't. So be thankful for you have. I will pray for you. Good luck. My blessings are with you. Goodbye!
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Hi Han! I hope you are doing well. I know how painful this was for you. But it's great that still made it work. Pregnancy feels like the best thing ever. Although it's not an easy thing to deal with. But all the time you carry that baby inside you develops an unbreakable bond with that baby. You will experience a lot of complications during this, but there are so many good things in it as well. So it's a good thing but be thankful that you were still able to make it work. Many people are not even able to do that. Good luck. Stay blessed. Take care. Bye!
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Hi Han! Welcome to the forum. Well, some people are not lucky enough to experience pregnancy. I have seen people who have been through that. I have also read a lot of pregnancy stories. According to what I have heard and seen, there's no beautiful experience than that. Giving birth to your own baby is the most beautiful thing in a woman's life. And I was also not able to experience that. Because I had all of my babies through Surrogacy. But i am still thankful that I was able to make it work. Because I had lost all hope, but thanks to the people here that didn't let me give up. God bless you. Best of luck. Look after yourself. Goodbye!
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Hi, you should not torment yourself. You must accept this situation and put up with it. You have a daughter, you are not alone and this is important. You have to accept your life, you don’t need to think about how it could have developed if you hadn’t had cancer polyps. Understand that many people do not have the opportunity to join the surrogacy program. And you had such an opportunity and you have a daughter now. Isn't that happiness?

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