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HELP
Um, I don't know how to start this exactly.I have been dealing with depression for quite some years now.This has absolutely destroyed my life on all platforms.Fact is I don't even want to discuss it with anyone in real life.I do not want their fake sympathies.I have been dealing with infertility for quite some time.I have longed for a family ever since I was in my teens.I am afraid I will die alone in a hole.My DH is getting tired of my depression.He says he does not care about children.I can see in his eyes that he feels alone as well.The reason for this post is to have you dealt with similar issues?also, how did they all work out, in the end, .we do not have any financial problems but other tests in life?If you are going through somewhat the similar struggle please reach out.
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It is sad to know about your situation. You are going through a lot of these days and you are quite depressed too. But the positive point about your life is your DH. You have a partner with whom you can share everything and who understands you. Your DH is a strong support for you, he is there to keep you calm and relaxed. You seem to be disappointed and dis-hearted. You have to gather up the strength and courage in order to fight this evil of infertility. You can't let it destroy you in such a way that you find no pleasure in anything. I would suggest you consult a doctor, he will help you in this regard. There are many clinics out there to help people. But you have got to choose the best for you and for your baby. I have been gathering information about different clinic ever since I am having the fear of being infertile. I have come up with many, but the one I liked the most is having affordable packages and environment. So, I will be leaving a link to its channel for you to dig into it. Who knows my search could help you in this difficult situation of your life. Wishing you luck and lots of baby dust on your way. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbgaaXc2XaxTYJhtR0rA
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Hi Emily! Don't waste your time, honey. Surrogacy is your best option. This is the way you can get your happiness back. Think about it. You deserve you be happy and so does your DH. Don't punish yourself. Infertility is very common. Just fight it. Good Luck!
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Oh, Emily! I feel so bad for you. But nothing to worry about. Because of depression, you both are fighting. When one partner is infertile the other one is also affected by it. You are not the only one who's depressed atm, your husband is also depressed. Because this is a problem for both of you. You are together in it. But why don't you go for assisted conception like IVF or surrogacy? Both are just amazing options to conceive nowadays. Many couples are becoming parents because of these techniques. Surrogacy is one of the most common procedure now. I became a mother through Surrogacy too. If you want a good clinic for it, then you should book tickets to Ukraine ASAP. Because you are heading there soon. Here's the link to the clinic where I had my surrogacy. I m sure they will solve your problems. Much Love! (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbgaaXc2XaxTYJhtR0rA/videos)
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well Emily this a hard journey.You will find a much harder obstacle after you might think that you have surpassed the hardest one.The thing is there is a lack of patience in men.It is only women who can bear that much pain.The pain of being childless.And still be happy with what they have.They seek help from their husbands BUt sadly not everybody has that much luck.You are a strong girl.Putting out a question here is the best thing to do.I feel to bring back your husband you must start looking for solutions/Waiting for them to come to yourself is never going to help.You must search.You will find many here at this forum.The best one for you is surrogacy.Where the embryo nourishes in the surrogate mother's womb.You may use your own eggs if possible.Otherwise, you can use donors.Your husband's sperms would be used for fertilization.Believe me, this has turned my friend's life into heaven after 5 years of struggle you must go for it too.Go for biotexcom in Ukraine they really have best packages.And their facilities are the new talk of the town.I have heard much about them.best of luck
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Dear jennie bob, thank you so much for your reply. It makes me happy to know that people really care. You are right. My DH is very supportive. His support means the world to me. But I feel like he isn't happy. He covers it up very well. He tries to keep me happy. He also suggested me to see a nice clinic. Thanks for your suggestion. The video turned out quite useful to me. I am just not sure which procedure to carry out. I think the doctors over there would help me out with it. I hope that things turn out good for me. I am gonna do some research before making a decision.
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Thanks for the comment roomyray56. I know your intentions are good. But I can't just jump into it. Surrogacy really helps people but what if there is an easier way for me. I want to try out a small treatment first. I am hopeful that something might help me. Thank you for your support though. Really appreciate your suggestions.
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I am really sorry to hear all this Emily. On one hand there is a depressing part of your story but the inspiring part of your story is that you know you are depressed. This makes it easy to deal with the situation. Your depression is not merely your life but it is equally bothering your husband. Such situations are not good for a smooth marital life. Thus, you have fight it out. You have to face the challenges of the life. Life is not always light, nor it is always happiness. It has everything in it. The winner has to face all these ordeals. Your husband cares for you, that is why he is constantly consoling you by saying that he does not care about the kids. I think you both need to spend more time together. At this point you need each other. Hold your hands and decide for either surrogacy or IVF. I know life has enormous surprises for you in coming days.
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Hi Dear Emily! I know it's really has been hard on you. I know how infertility eats someone. I myself have had drained myself nearly for 5 years to look out for myself. Last year, I decided to have an IVF for myself, for which I am going to a clinic in Ukraine. I think you should also need to be strong now! Don't let this depression eat you alive. Just look out for yourself! Seek your options. Have you tried going to IVF, IUI or surrogacy? I mean if you're financially stable...Then why shouldn't you go for surrogacy? I mean it will really help you both couples getting bonded. I think you both need a child to complete your family. so, yeah! I'd definitely endorse it for you. think about it! go for it! It will help you in having a child by another way, it's for those who can't have it another way.
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If you really don't have any problems financially. You don't need to be worry about anything. It's just about life. We have to face so many things in life. You don't have to be worried now. Just try to take some serious treatment. You can go for the survey in different clinics. Whichever you like than you can chose one for you. This problem is not going to solve without proper treatment. I would really love to help you. As I have taken help exactly like these from this forum. People suggested me about biotexcom. It's great for me. Now I am under treatment. I hope it would be best for you as well.
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Hi, I can understand your condition.I am also facing this situation year before.Really tough and difficult situation that I ever face in my life.I beat my infertility with surrogacy.After a long time thinking and search, I decided to go through for this process in the biotex clinic.I have now year old baby girl.I am so happy and blessed.I wish you very best of luck.
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Dealing with infertility is indeed the most difficult situation a person has to undergo. I remember getting married expecting that things would be alright, however, things came out to be different. I was given the bad news that I won't be able to get pregnant naturally. Anyways, I stopped hoping as well and just like you was depressed. As I feel like we all have this ideal life in our minds with children in it. Anyhow, my DH got worried about me and started researching. I honestly thank him for playing this role that he did. He consulted one of his friends who had gone through the process of surrogacy. He told my DH that it indeed was a suitable procedure. My husband and I were not that well off were yet again on a halt. Until he found a clinic which was actually pretty reasonable. He then got in contact with them via email and they told him to visit the clinic. I being very low told him I didn't want to go as it wasn't necessary for me to go. However, he wanted me to get the checkup first and then for them to conclude the treatment. So yes I would suggest the same to you as well. Sending baby dust your way.
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Hey there. The struggle with infertility is long and harsh. I have also suffered from this disappointment and depression. My husband convinced me to try surrogacy. We tried a clinic named Adonis. Their attitude is very bad. I would never recommend them to anyone. But you can try different other options if it matters to you this much. Surrogacy can definitely be the answer to your problems.
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There is a well known clinic in Ukraine for surrogacy. The surrogacy procedure of the clinic is much popular across the Europe. While researching about surrogacy i had seen the name of this clinic many times. than i started following the youtube channel of the clinic and i learnt alot from their videos. They guarantee that you will have a baby at the end. Have a look at the video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LJJ-8uhOmW8&feature=youtu.be . Surrogacy is a very good procedure for women who can't have a baby naturally. I was also looking for alternative for my miscarriages and i found surrogacy to be the ultimate solution for my problem of infertility. The video is about the guarantee that at the end you will leave the clinic or the country holding your baby. I am much satisfied about the clinic and i am waiting for my husband to decide when we move to Ukraine to start our journey of surrogacy.
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Emily. I'm glad that you decided to reach out. Be it just on an internet platform. Been on the same road, I can tell you that you're not gonna die alone. There are doors for everyone. For your depression, seek a therapist. Talk. Talk. And talk some more. To your husband. To other people. And when you finally think you're picking up, explore your options. Look for IVF, IUI, and surrogacy. Surrogacy worked so well for me. To search for clinics, I'd say go to Europe. They're doing an amazing job there. You'll find a family very soon. Don't lose hope. Don't give up. You have my prayers.
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You are lucky to not have any financial issues. You can easily get rid of all the other issues. You can go for IVF. If you think it might be a risk and you don't wanna take a risk. Then go for surrogacy. It will ensure you get a baby for sure. Just don't contact a clinic that has bad reviews on its profile. You need to avoid Lotus clinic. Other than you can contact clinics in Europe. I hope this was helpful.
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Hey Emily, I can the feel in your post. I am so sorry to hear this. But i ll recommend you to try surrogacy. I have faced the same depression. Now I have decided to go for surrogacy as a last resort as I am already 36. I even contacted Adonis Clinic in Ukraine. But to my badluck they didnt responded well. So my quest for a worthy clinic continues.
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You have a really sad story. But you should not keep it inside you. It will destroy you. Sharing is a good thing. It releases the tension. And sometimes you get the solution when you share something with others. Your DH is so kind. He doesn’t want to hurt you. That's why he is saying such things. Also, men have the ability to tolerate the problem. So that's why he does not express his problem. I can understand your pain. I also tried to conceive for 4 years, but no result found. But I didn’t lose hope. Then a friend of mine suggested me surrogacy. I am very thankful to her for this good advice. Because of surrogacy, now I have a baby girl of ten months. So you also not lose hope and go for any fertility treatment. Best of luck.
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When you get infertility struck in your life. All such things come along. I know the pain you are describing. The insecurity of explaining all such pointless things to anyone around would actually sound weird. No one in this world would be there to hear your pointless stories each day. And you should be thankful for your DH that he is standing by your side. I know both the intended parents have similar grieves and fears. It's just that men never open ups with their emotions. I would ask you to look out of the window and get some fertility help with the alternatives. That would help you out much. More power to you.
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I don't find any words to comfort you. I can feel your pain. Only those understand who suffers from it. Infertility is like acurse in women life. I wish no one have such a hard time in their life. I was once infertile. My doctors suggest me surrogacy. In my country, it was banned. So I decided to move to Europe for that. I contacted Lotus clinic. They didn't give any response. I was so disappointed by them. Then my friend suggests to me another clinic in Eastern Europe. They treat me best. I had a daughter through surrogacy. My life is complete with my daughter. I am a happy mom now. I wish you get much happiness in your life. My best wishes are with you
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Hey Emily! Hope so you will be fine. I just read your post. I really felt so sad for you. I know how it feels like. You are right. I have also been through this situation. Why don't you go with surrogacy or IVF? I think you should search some alternate ways like surrogacy or IVF. Both the methods are really helping people to make their wish come true. I also have a baby through surrogacy. I think you should search for them and also consult with some clinics regarding this. I hope it will be fruitful for you All my sympathies are with you
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Hi, Hope you are fine. I can feel your pain. If you take that much stress, how you will move forward. Stay strong. THere are many alternate options available. Go for them. I suggest surrogacy. It is the most common method nowadays. Everything will be alright. Never lose hope. Good luck.
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Well, everyone does. It's going to be alright. We must take good care of ourselves. You are right. He does feel alone. Don't worry, there is nothing to worry about. Everything will be alright.
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Of course, He is alone. You are alone. You have each other. This is the greatest thing. Don't let it go. Just think about it. This is the best thing. Never forget. Everything is going to be alright. We must take good care of ourselves.
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Hi Emily! Hope you are in good health dear. Thanks for reaching out. I can understand you pain. I have been through similar situation. Infertility is very hard both on the mind and on the body. Always keep your head up. If you are considering to get out of your depression and start a family than I recommend that you opt for surrogacy. Surrogacy helped me start my family and I believe it can help you too. I went to Ukraine for my surrogacy procedure and would recommend you to do the same. Ukraine has some of the best clinics and I think they can easily help you out. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
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Hey Emily, how are you? Hope you are enjoying good health. I can understand your pain. Infertility is really painful. It must be hard for you. I have been through the same situation. I recommend you should have to go fro surrogacy. Surrogacy is a blessing. The treatment is simple and guaranteed. I am also an infertile. I am looking for a clinic to get surrogacy. but beware of Lotus clinic. They are not professionals. I heard about them from my colleagues. When i contacted them they replied rudely. Also they are charging extra bucks for the treatment. They also refused to share details before any confirmation of treatment. I think they are looting people. take care
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how to deal with depression? In our world, this question is becoming really important. We are living in the world of constant struggle. There is a war of success, money and excelling in going on. This has put us all into a very crucial situation. Due to this ever growing competitiveness, we face a great deal of depression. It is easy to fight depression once we are ready. Counselors and consultations can also help. In severe conditions, medical treatments are also available through medication.
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Hey. I am so sorry for you. There is a solution for infertility and that is Surrogacy. I had the uterine polyps disease. That is why I remained infertile. I went for IVF but it didn't work for me. One of my Friends suggested going for Surrogacy. I went to Europe for the best clinic. They provided me with a healthy Surrogate. I am a happy mother now. Surrogacy is the best method to get your own biological baby.
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Hey Emily, I so sorry to read this. This is so sad dear. Please gather all your energy and show some courage. I have also faced the same depression. I am considering surrogacy myself. Currently I am trying to get details from Lotus clinic. Their unprofessional staff doesnt even read my emails properly. They reply very late and when they do it is not relevant to my query. I hope you surrogacy jpurney goes smooth.
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Hey. Your husband's reactions are justified. He loves you. And needs you to stay happy. You should talk to him. You both should seek alternatives. Sulking in bed all day isn't going to help you. But take your spouse away from you as well. Stay strong girl. You got this.
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Dear Emily! Hope so you will be fine. I really become so sad to know about your condition. Your post made me remember those days when I was dealing with such issues. It's a tough thing to deal with. I think you should keep trying. But if nothing happens positive, then you should try some alternate methods like surrogacy or IVF. Both the methods are really helpful. In both the of them, the embryo formation takes place outside the body. LAter it is injected into the uterus of the intended mother in IVF and in a third mother in surrogacy. It's up to you what suits you better. I think you should go for them. I hope it will be fruitful for you. My sympathies are with you
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I am really sorry to read about your journey. I would suggest that you first visit a therapist. This is something not good for your health and thus not good for TTC journey. It is important to stay stress-free. One good way to do that is to keep yourself occupied. I hope things work out for you. Other than this visit a good RE doctor. He will carry out some tests. These tests will then help in determining the cause of concern. Dont worry! The technology in this field has drastically improved. Therefore, there are a lot of options that you can opt for. However, what really is important is to visit the right doctor. The more the doctor is experienced the more are the chances of success. Good luck to you.
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Hey Emily. I won't make this long. I'm sure you have thought about it too. I was exactly where you are right now. Now, I'm a completely changed person. I have my own little family now and I could not be happier. My husband and I both faced infertility. We had been trying for years with no luck. It gets so frustrating. We got ourselves checked and got the bad news from the doctors. But then I accepted reality. I accepted that I cant have a child naturally. So I looked for other options. I considered everything, surrogacy, adoption, IVF, you name it. I finally went for surrogacy. The place I chose for my surrogacy did not disappoint me one bit. From there on, things have been going smoothly. When I got my child in my arms, all my problems were fixed.

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