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Hard to get pregnant
Hello guys. I am 40 years old now and just got married months ago. I get pregnant but always ends to miscarriage. I am losing my hope to have a baby.
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Do you have any idea how to stop this frequent miscarriage of mine.? I'm old and I know that it's really hard for me to have a baby. Can you give me any advice?
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Hi. I really know what you feel because I'm also too old already when I got married.
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There are so many possible reasons for your frequent miscarriage. Did you go to a doctor already?
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Thanks for concern Bim. Yes. I had gone to a doctor already. He told me that since I'm old enough and I have irregular menses. It is really hard for me to get pregnant.
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Actually, I am depressed. Many of my friends suggested us that we should adopt a child to experience the thrill of being parent.
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Is your husband agree about adoption?
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Yes but I always feel pity for myself. I feel empty and useless. I cannot bear a child. We are planning now for adoption.
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By the way, I have read some articles online that there are some possible answers to infertility problems. Because I do also suffer your sadness before when I do not have a child yet. I almost surf all the internt website for possible solutions of not bearing a child. One of it is IVF.
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Do you mean about IN VITRO FERTILIZATION?
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Do you mean about IN VITRO FERTILIZATION?
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Yes. Your egg will be fertilized by your husband's sperm outside from your body. When it is fertilized already, it will be implanted to your body. That means you will get pregnant.
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Really? Do you think my egg will be fertilized? Is it not affected with my age though it occurs outside my body?
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Your age will not affect the process. You can have a healthy baby out of it. You can still be a mother and experience the thrill and mystery of pregnancy. Sounds exciting isn't it?
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Oh Bim! You really give me hope.
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I will talk to my husband about this. Bye for now. Thank you!
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Hello my friend, I am sorry to hear about your problem and I know that you are going through a very stressful and hard time in your life. It is really bad to face such issue when you want to get pregnant and want to get happiness of a beautiful baby in your life. It is very hard to find normal and healthy pregnancy at the age of 40 due to unhealthy and inactive Lifestyle these days. I don’t know if you already visited any health expert or not but I will give you the advice to visit any health expert who can diagnose your physical condition and can provide a good treatment solution if you are facing any Infertility issue. It is always a good option to consult with any professional health expert who can provide good treatment solution to your problem. If you want to increase chances of pregnancy, it is very important to stay positive and happy all the time. You should not take any kind of stress on your mind because it will be harmful when you are trying to conceive. If you are looking to find a solution for a natural way to get pregnant, you just need to keep your body active and healthy in a best way. You can find good help with regular exercise, yoga and good nutrition. Good nutrition is very important if you want to increase chances of pregnancy. Medical Science is advanced now and you can easily find treatment solution for this problem. I hope you will find any good and reliable health expert who can provide good treatment solution. Best of luck for your future and a beautiful life with your baby my dear.
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Hi, sorry about that. I know that with age it is always harder to get pregnant. I had some immune issues and that was the reason for my miscarriages. We also underwent the egg donation treatment what was not the best thing in my life. Any way we are happy now because our little ones will arrive in a couple of weeks. I can't stand to see and hold them. And what about you? have you had any examinations? what about your hormones, are they ok?
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Why do you want a child at 40? They're the dreams of youth. When you're full of energy and hopes for life. There are so many grand things you can do at this point. And you'd rather be a stay-at-home worrier. Go out. Meet new people. Spend time with orphans. Or choose adoption. And if you're so rich that you want a legal hire to donate, go, get pregnant with alternatives. I may sound harsh. But I'm speaking all this in extreme polite. I wanted to check how e-reading falsifies tone. And this is a proof. You can praise my cleverness, later. For now, check this link that might be of some help to you, the respected 40 y/o lady. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbgaaXc2XaxTYJhtR0rA
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The most important thing is never to lose hope. If you lose your hope right now. You'll be broken soon and this is not good. Let me tell you something. My friend's mother is pregnant right now. She is 57 years old. She conceived naturally. Why don't you. My friend felt really embarrassed of her mother being pregnant. I always told her why are you feeling like this. It's totally fine. Don't be worry. I think now she is getting what I taught her. I hope you feel better too. Don't lose hope please. Take care.
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Hey there! How are you doing? Sorry to hear about your losses. Do you know the reason behind them? Have you visited some doctor? Pardon me, if I am asking too much. Have you ever tried some other methods? Methods like IUI, IVF, Surrogacy etc. All these methods are there to help you. Get yourself checked. Visit some good doctor. Know your problem. Then you will be able to find a solution to your problem. Don't worry about it. Everything is gonna be fine. Stay blessed. Baby dust on you :)
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Hi there. How are you? I am sorry to hear about the mcs. Have you consulted any doctor? What did they said about the causes of your mcs? Please go for any infertility treatment. I think IVF will suit you the best.Surrogacy is also an option. I heard a clinic in Ukraine deals best with surrogacy in Ukraine. They take good care of surrogate mothers. They send ultrasound pictures to parents every month. I wish all the best to you. I hope you become a happy healthy mother. Take care of your diet and health.
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Hey there! How are you doing? Sorry to hear about your losses. Do you know the reason behind them? Have you visited some doctor? Pardon me, if I am asking too much. Have you ever tried some other methods? Methods like IUI, IVF, Surrogacy etc. All these methods are there to help you. Get yourself checked. Visit some good doctor. Know your problem. Then you will be able to find a solution to your problem. Don't worry about it. Everything is gonna be fine. Stay blessed. Baby dust on you :)
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Hey there! Hope you're doing good. Age honestly, doesn't matter! What matters is how fertile you're. If you want to naturally conceive then try for IVF or IUI. However, you may also try for surrogacy! As surrogacy would mean you'll be able to get pregnant and be genetically linked to the baby. Do discuss with your DH and doctor. Best of luck.
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hey there. i also conceived for 3 times but all my pregnancies resulted in miscarriages.I have also complications while getting pregnant.I also conceived for three times and every time resulted in miscarriage.So i gave up of this and thinking of going for surrogacy.Surrogacy is the best option for the ladies like us who can't have a baby off their own. Surrogacy is also getting very common. Try to conceive and also do some research about surrogacy. Contact some clinics regarding surrogacy and ask her to gather some data information about surrogacy too. If this procedure satisfies your questions than she should definitely go for surrogacy. I'm also going for surrogacy as u don't have any other option left of having a baby.. I already persuaded my husband to go for this method and he is ready too. we also have contacted a few clinics regarding surrogacy and still looking out for good clinics also. biotexcom has very good reviews i came across its name several times. there are many clinics today providing best surrogacy services to its clients. Ask your friend to contact some clinics and make up her mind. Wish your friend very good luck about her future plans.
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Hey! hope you doing fine. Sorry about what is happening. It is depressing Situation for you but don't lose hopes. There are many other ways to have babies. Advance technologies introduced modern techniques. I would suggest you go for surrogacy. It is the only way left for you to enjoy your motherhood. So be confident about what you are choosing for yourself. there are many reliable clinics who would surrogate healthy women without having medical complications.
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Hi there, try not to take supplements. It's not good in the conception process. Of course, you are fighting an uphill battle here. May you succeed in it. It's really overwhelming thinking about these things. It's really a great fight. Keep yourself motivated and try to focus on positive things. Try to consult with the doctor or read articles from different posts and websites. It'd be helpful for you.
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Hello dear. I am sorry for your miscarriages. Losing an unborn child is really painful. I can feel your pain. I know that you have gone through a really hard time. I must suggest you to go for surrogacy. Surrogacy is really a blessing for couples like us who can't conceive or are infertile. I have seen many couples getting benefit through it. It has high success rates and gives you guaranteed positive results. So i advise you that you should go for surrogacy. All my best wishes and prayers are with you. Best of Luck!
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Hi-Res! Don't be hopeless. I've seen many women all over the year having a child in their 40s. So, yeah! Don't get devastated. You still can have a child. I'm also 38 years old. I've not had a child since yet. But, I've not left hope. Still, I'm really sorry for your loss. I know it must not have been easy for you. It drains a person. I've also had 3 MCs since my marriage. But, still, I'm trying as a TTC. So, yeah! I've my first IVF attempt in July 2018. Hope to have a child. You should also seek other options...xx
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Hey! sad to hear about your MC. Had you been to doctor? That's alarming situations. And you got to be very concern over such things. As you said you are 40. It's not that people don't conceive at 40's. They do. But the complications often rises as the age is concerned. I would ask you to consult your doctor as early as possible. As Miscarriages would probably make a woman even weaker physically And that's really not good for your health. If you would be kept on trying and mishaps would happen this would not be good. Love and prayers for you. May you be able to conceive soon.
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Hey there. I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry about your problem. I think you should consider surrogacy. Its really wonderful. I hope this helps. Good luck. take care.
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Hi there. How are you doing? I hope you are doing fine. I am doing good. I read your post. TTC is very tough. It requires a lot of patience. It requires a lot of caution. Miscarriages are very hard to cope with. I think you should maybe consider other options such as Surrogacy or adoption. Many people go for it these days. They are safe and successful. I hope all goes well for you. Take care. God bless.
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See a doctor. Get some tests done. So you can know the possible cause of miscarriage. Also you can look for a better alternative. Like surrogacy maybe. But only if it just doesn't happen for you naturally. Wish you the best. Stay hopeful.
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Hi Res. I've been through a miscarriage once. Since that time I haven't managed to get pregnant again. It took me some time to recover after that. It's tough to know your baby died and you don't know who to blame and what was the reason. I was sure it was my fault but I couldn't realize what I have done wrong. I found a local community for women coping with miscarriage and some of them experienced more than 10 m/c's!!!! I don't know how they live with all this and stay sane. They def have problems causing such condition, I don't know. Maybe there are special tests to find the reason or methods of prevention. As the last resort, there are options not related to carrying pregnancy
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Hi @Res, How are you? Bim had given you a really good advice. I want to say that. At your age, I don't think that IVF works for you. I think your egg will not be healthy. I think you should give a try to surrogacy. It has higher success rates for people like you. All the very best.
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Hey there! How are you doing? Miscarriage is a dradful thing. But don't loose hope. There is always a way. You have to find it out that's all. Becoming pregnant at 40 can be tough. And the previous miscarriages make it harder. But don't worry. Consult a good doctor. Don't delay any treatment though.Good luck.
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I know age plays an important factor in determining your chances of fertility. I can relate to your condition. Because by the time I went to the right clinic I was 40. And my fertility window reduced to 5%. I have a low ovarian reserve and was a poor responder to IVF. I am pursuing surrogacy now in a clinic in Europe. You can consult with a good fertility doctor to determine your chances, Because, recurrent miscarriages are indicating that there is something wrong with your fertility also miscarriages after 35 is greater. So don't waste your time trying naturally, go to a good specialist for a better diagnosis.
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Yes, age is an issue. Still, don't worry, dear. There are a lot of methods available out there that could help you. I wish you a lifetime of happiness. Don't worry at all. Something good is about to come for you. Just take good care of yourself.
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Age is a very big issue. Especially after 40. It's difficult now. Well, not impossible. You'll get your help from other treatments. It's not bad to do that. It would be great.
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Hey, there! I hope you're doing okay. I'm really sorry to hear about this. Have you had an appointment with a doctor, yet? Frequent miscarriages can't be good. It's very rare, by the way. Only about a percent or so, women suffer from recurrent miscarriages. Plus, I can imagine the anxiety, every time you get pregnant. I'd suggest you seek help. A professional opinion is a way to go. It could be some cervical weakness or even some infection. Good supportive antenatal care can be a huge help. Good luck to you. I hope this helps you. Sending lots of love and prayers your way!
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It gets harder to get pregnant with age. Maybe that is causing all the miscarriages. I think you should get yourself checked. Ever heard about assisted conception? You can consider that for yourself. I had my own son through surrogacy, one of the methods of assisted conception along with methods like IVF and IUI, etc.. This really turned my life around. You deserve to be a parent. You should look into it!
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Oh no. I'm really sorry to hear about your condition. It's increasing day-by-day. Infertility is a huge curse. You don't have a lot of time to waste, with your increasing age. I'd suggest you look into assisted conception, right away. Good luck!

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