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HanRichie's picture
Joined: 2018-03-10
Friend needs advice
Hey everyone. I think you can help out here. A friend is facing difficulties in TTC. I recommended she go for IVF or surrogacy. She's open to both options. She just can't narrow down to one. IVF is great in that she can conceive herself. But there are many cases where it isn't successful. Or it is very time-taking. Surrogacy, on the other hand, can also be a little time taking, but at least it's a sure shot. The down with that is she can't conceive by herself. What should she do? Should she go through the trouble and wait of IVF. Or should she resort to surrogacy? I'm more inclined towards surrogacy since it's lesser stress. I may be biased though since I myself went for it. Can you suggest her?
Jessicakingston's picture
Joined: 2018-03-26
Hi Hanna, hope you are doing good. Well, your friend can go for either option. The main catch is she finds a suitable clinic. If she can wait for multiple attempts, IVF can be her option.A clinic I know offers multiple attempts in the same money.Another advantage will be she can give birth herself. She can enjoy all the things attached to it. Many women strive to experience these only. If on the other hand, she thinks she needs a baby ASAP. Then surrogacy is the best thing to do. Obviously, she wouldn't care about giving birth in this case. It is indeed a reliable and easy method. You have an experience with this method too. You can guide her better through the process easily.I hope this was helpful.
Jessicakingston's picture
Joined: 2018-03-26
Hi Hanna, hope you are doing good. Well, your friend can go for either option. The main catch is she finds a suitable clinic. If she can wait for multiple attempts, IVF can be her option.A clinic I know offers multiple attempts in the same money.Another advantage will be she can give birth herself. She can enjoy all the things attached to it. Many women strive to experience these only. If on the other hand, she thinks she needs a baby ASAP. Then surrogacy is the best thing to do. Obviously, she wouldn't care about giving birth in this case. It is indeed a reliable and easy method. You have an experience with this method too. You can guide her better through the process easily.I hope this was helpful.
Adrienne Rich's picture
Joined: 2018-04-11
Hi...I am Adrienne and 31 years old.Sorry to hear about your friend.It's really painful to know that you cannot have your own baby.You said right surrogacy is a sure shot.Even I went for it and now I am a mother of a child.I have this heart disease called 'mitral stenosis' that prevents me from getting pregnant.The blood flow gets unstable during pregnancy and results may be dangerous even death.So I couldn't give birth.A friend of mine suggested me to go for surrogacy.It was a successful experience and now I am happy and raising my child as I want to.'BioTexCom' is a clinic in Ukraine.It's very good regarding these matters and not expensive at all.Ask your friend to visit .I am sure she will get help from there.Good luck to your friend.
hannahdavid's picture
Joined: 2018-03-03
Well, honestly speaking there isn't enough awareness regarding these procedures as a lot of us are unaware of the criteria which needs to be followed when going for IVF. A lot of people think that IVF will work out for everyone however, that is not true. I learnt this lesson after I had my own experience during the infertility journey that I had to go through, I call it the dark phase in my life. When I was unable to conceive naturally I went for the IVF treatment it costed me a lot of money however, I still wanted to give it a try unfortunately the treatment didn't work out for me. I was honestly shattered and had lost all the hope because it had not been an easy process but instead was a long one. When I was deciding to go for it, people only gave me limited information on it. However, it was only afterwards that I realised that it isn't just about growing an embryo or inserting it into the uterus. Instead, I had to regularly inject injections and eat various pills. Honestly speaking at that point, I didn't really have a problem with that as I was desperate for a child. However, when IVF didn't work out for and the embryos didn't develop I was extremely dishearted. After this bad experience I for a very long time was on bed regretting my own existence. I was then pushed by my family to visit this another clinic where I was told that IVF was not for me as for IVF you need to have certain characteristics. However, the doctors then gave me hope and told me to opt for surrogacy as that was definitely going to work out for me. Therefore, my suggestions for your friend would be that she visits a good doctor and ask for his suggestion. As it was after visiting a reliable clinic that I was told that surrogacy is the one for me and now I have a child because of it.
RachelBranson's picture
Joined: 2018-01-20
Well, yes! Hanriche! I understand your concern. I mean yeah! There is this thing. But, still, it differs with every case. I mean if a woman can have a child through an IVF then she should probably go for it. It depends on her medical condition. So, yeah! Like, I have this PCOS and I'm having an IVF due to it...Because my OBs thinks that there are still chances out there that I can conceive of it. So, yeah! Wish me luck! But last year my cousin sister had surrogacy directly. Because she couldn't conceive naturally...So, that's the thing! She went to a center in Ukraine for it. It went fine with her. She received a baby girl through it.
jennifer's picture
Joined: 2018-03-11
Hey, hope you are doing fine. I hope that your friend might be fo=ine too. I know it might be hard for your friend to cope up with such situation. It is hard to overcome such losses but we have to do something for us. I had 3 miscarriages and later I came to know that I have uterine polyps which were the main hurdle. I went for the treatment and it went successful but It left me infertile. It was devastating. I was so upset but sometimes its a part of life so I decided to go for surrogacy as I was not able to conceive naturally. Surrogacy was a safe process and it is a way too successful than other processes. I have a baby now. I went to a clinic who guaranteed me a baby and they fulfilled their promise. I am a happy mother now. My dream just came true. So I would recommend this process. It is a safe and promising process.
roomiray56's picture
Joined: 2018-02-20
Choosing between the two is often a difficult decision to make. I believe that her doctor can tell better. Like whether or not her body is strong enough to bear the pain of IVF and then carry a baby. If she has had any miscarriage, then IVF is risky. Surrogacy, on the other hand, is a much convenient and an easy option to go for. It is very trendy nowadays. I hope she makes a wise decision. All the best!
Rihana's picture
Joined: 2018-01-23
Surrogacy would not give 100% chance as well, dear. I think you are mixing this up. You shouldn't be doing that. I hope you made her clear that it's not going to be good for her anyways. Both are chances. Both methods have risks. She could go either one of that on her own. There is no such a thing as assurance that she would get regarding this process. Although, I personally want to give her my best wishes. I really wanted her to be happy because this is really good for the whole forum. We are here to help everybody. If she gets help from me that would be so incredible for me. My best wishes to your friend dear. Tell her to chose wisely.
Ava's picture
Joined: 2018-03-16
IVF or surrogacy both are equally great options to go for. Both have proved to be equally successful and both are time taking procedure. Though my thoughts on IVF is that there is seems to be a constant loop that goes on, making the journey even more tiring for the intended parents. But keeping my thoughts side I have observed so many women's conceiving in the very first cycle of IVF. But that happens when you got the ability to conceive. If you could conceive well. Then you are good to go with IVF. Else surrogacy would give you the womb which would be safe to carry your baby. And that womb would be of the surrogate, Now the choice is hers. She must consult her doctor. He might suggest her better about what to go with.
Monabaker's picture
Joined: 2018-04-23
Surrogacy is indeed a better option. She can have a fair shot at having a baby this way. Though tell her what both things will have for her. Tell her everything. It will be her decision then. I hope things work for her. Keep me updated too.
Elena's picture
Joined: 2018-04-07
I'm facing infertility from a long period. Like from last 10 years of my married life i am trying to conceive. But i cannot conceive ever. The doctors are also not sure what is the reason behind this infertility. They are also unable to tell me that weather i will conceive or not. So with the passing age i have decided to go for surrogacy. But as in Bulgaria surrogacy is not allowed. I am moving with my husband to Ukraine. I heard there are many good clinics for surrogacy.
Sofia994's picture
Joined: 2018-02-16
Surrogacy will be good. As i heard that it is the best solution for infertile people. At the age of 43 years old i'm married for second time. I was married earlier and geting pregnant was not an easy task for me. I had a number of complications while getting pregnant. I conceived for three times but always resulted in miscarriage. Surrogacy is the best solution for the women who don't have any luck with babies. My husband wants a baby from me and i told him everything regarding my pregnancy complications. So i started looking for some method to have a baby for us. I found a good clinic regarding surrogacy. They cleared my confusions regarding surrogacy. They satisfied me and they told us they will find a surrogate for my baby. They have a number of surrogates from their clinic as well. A surrogate will go through proper testing to become a surrogate mother of my child. From different forum i came to know that surrogacy is the best solution for us to have a baby. So i contacted a number of clinics regarding pregnancy. If someone here is raising a child via surrogacy process please share your experience with us. Thanks in advance.
Ayu's picture
Joined: 2018-03-17
As per my personal experience i will suggest your friend to go for surrogacy.We moved from Japan to Europe for surrogacy. Surrogacy is totally ban in Japan.So we moved to Europe.I had hysterectomy cancer and as a result i'm infertile.But my husband never left my side.He asked me to go for surrogacy.And we moved to Europe only for it.But in Europe we were not much satisfied with the clinics,And some one told me to go for Ukraine there are many good clinics there.So we moved to Ukraine.Now we are having twin daughters from the help of the clinic.The surrogate mother is too kind with us.God gave us two daughters as a gift to our patience, We are very thankful to everyone. If someone has some experience in Surrogacy let us know. Share your story with us too.
AnnaJhon's picture
Joined: 2018-05-10
I hope your friend is doing fine. I suggest her to go for surrogacy. As you know the success rate of IVF is very low. Surrogacy is also good, at least child belongs to you genetically. There are many clinics offering surrogacy in reasonable prices. I recommend you Bio TexCom on my experience. I am also an infertile. I went through surrogacy from there. for details visit http://mother-surrogate.info/
littlebeastshaya's picture
Joined: 2018-05-13
Hey There! Hope you are in the best of your health. Is your friend fertile? if so go for IVF. If she is infertile. Go for Surrogacy. In the end, it is your friend's choice that matter. I hope all goes well for her.
alina1212's picture
Joined: 2018-05-31
Hey there, how are the things? I am sorry to hear about your friend. IVF and surrogacy both are good options. if your friend has cleared all the tests for IVF she should go for it. otherwise, surrogacy is best for her. although both are time taking procedures. if she had complications in the pregnancy she must go for surrogacy. if I share my story here, I am not able to conceive because of infertility. I am 28 years old. Its 4th year of my marriage. I cannot go for IVF. So I and my husband decided to go for surrogacy. I will visit Europe for my surrogacy. You should also gather information about that. As you have experience with surrogacy you can guide her better. best wishes for your friend.
twili's picture
Joined: 2017-09-10
But, this is a very serious issue. The solution and the answer depends on many factors. First, this is the state of health of this woman. Second, does she have a need to enter the surrogacy program, will not she be denied this, directly in the clinic ?! And the third, perhaps most important, is the financial situation. You understand that surrogacy is much more expensive than IVF. In addition, the procedure for IVF is easier and faster, but of course, there is no guarantee that success will be in the first time. You can make IVF in every country. But to find a good clinic for surrogacy is harder. My friends had to fly to Ukraine for this. Because in our country it is forbidden.In our country there are exclusively illegal ways. But for them this is not an option. But, on the whole, they are happy with the fact that they flew to Ukraine. Because there the price for this service is affordable. They can afford, choose and pay the most expensive package - VIP package. In addition, your friend must take into account the fact that only a married couple can join the surrogacy program. They must provide documents on the marriage. And also they must have documents that prove that they can not conceive a child. Therefore, there are many aspects to consider here. Your friend needs to contact the clinic and discuss this issue. Or talk to her physician. My friends had unsuccessful IVF attempts. Therefore, the doctors came to the conclusion that the only chance for them to have their baby - is surrogacy. So.... How can I answer you unequivocally ?! We can not recommend something to your friend without knowing her situation as a whole. I can only recommend her, find a good reproductive center and go there for advice. Perhaps, she will be recommended something effective for her, in her situation. Although, on the other hand, with the help of surrogacy, your friend can achieve a more guaranteed result. Although, you also understand that in this situation it may take several attempts. This is all very individual, it is impossible to predict anything, but the result, even more so. Therefore, it needs a lot of patience. And how old is your friend? I forgot to ask is wrong. I await your quick answers!
MarlenChidester's picture
Joined: 2018-06-12
That is not a choice to be made by people. She should decide her accoeding to her health condition. The condition leading her to choose a fertility aid method. She needs to look over her finances. See which method she can afford. Also, there is the matter of personal prefernce. With surrogacy she will not get to experience being pregnant.
LydiaAldrin's picture
Joined: 2018-05-18
Depending on her case. I think she should try IVF first. If it's compatible for her. Her obstetrician would give a better advise. So, yeah! Wish her best of luck! Surrogacy can also be an option...But last one.
lisamack's picture
Joined: 2018-06-13
I am sorry to know about your friend. She is going through so difficult time of her life. She needs support and courage. I think IVF is a great option to go with. I wish her luck and success in future. Lots of love and strength to her. Baby dust on her way.
jav12's picture
Joined: 2018-06-15
To be very honest you should go for surrogacy. IVF will be successful in rare cases. Your friend is weak to perform IVF. Due to which her chances of conceiving will be low. So it will be the waste of money and time. So your Freind must go for surrogacy. It will be best if it will be done by the good clinic. There is worst clinic like lotus and Adonis in Ukraine. Please don't go there. They are worst in these issues. There is a good clinic in Europe. They are best in dealing with surrogacy. I recommend you must go there. It will be best for your Freind. Till then best of luck.

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