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deciding to conceive another child
Hello everyone! I'm a 41-year-old woman. We have one young 20 years old son. He doesn't live with us anymore due to his studies and work issues. I and my DH live here Nevada, USA. Our son lives in NYC, we really feel alone and we really don't have anything much to do. So, it's my husband deciding to conceive another child now. I know it sounds weird but, he wants that. I think I won't be able to conceive as I'm in my forties. We have tried having sex twice this year. But, It happens same as I expected. I didn't get pregnant. Now, we are thinking to have surrogacy, we have also chosen a clinic in Europe, Ukraine. My Aunt lives there and she wants us to visit there. So, we are thinking to have it there for next year. I hope we are doing it right. Just wanted to hear opinions from all of you here. Thank Ya!
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yes you are making the right decision I do hope that you find a good clinic. I do trust in Ukrainian clinics. I always believe that they are one if the best. Especially when it concerns fertility clinic. Like the one in Kiev. I do wish you all the best as you start your journey. May your future of building a happy family come to pass. As a former patient of such, I decided to look for a cheap operation that gave me results. As I speak I am a mother of a two-year baby. I decided to go for surrogacy at BioTex clinic. Hope you are well aware of the clinic’s location. I met medics and clinicians who hospitably handled me with care. The process was legalized in its country of location and I was very joyful. I have never regretted going at BioTex clinic.
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Awww dear! I know it happens. Usually, grown-ups are not there when you need them. Anyway! That's how things work! Well, I agree with you both. There is nothing such as weirdness in this whole idea. I think you should really go for it! It will really help you both in ending your loneliness. I know it's really hard to live on your own in childhood. Anyway! I wish you luck with that surrogacy thing. I think it's also a good idea for a couple like you having a late age factor. Just go for it!
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Hello, dear. Sex twice a year? Are you sure that you want to have kids? Some people are ttc for years to get pregnant. First of all you have to talk to your doctor. You should figure out if your eggs are still valid. Also, ask her if you have a chance to get pregnant and is it safe for you. Regarding surrogacy, it’s a great idea. In case if you still produce eggs, your baby will be genetically related to you. It is really great. My daughter and her husband couldn’t get pregnant for a long time. That’s why they decided to enter the surrogacy program. I’m very glad that they did it. I have an amazing grandson now. He was born by the surrogate in one famous European clinic. I was helping my daughter a lot. She was very scared and I didn’t want to let her give up. Her husband was also supporting her. But he had to work a lot to pay for the surrogacy. The price is pretty high. But, as a rule, clinics offer a lot of packages at different prices. So, you can choose the one you like. I agree that you should visit the clinic to make sure that you like it. Go there, talk to a doctor, ask them whatever you want to know. And if you really like it, sign an agreement. After that you will enter the program. The embryo will be transferred and you will find out the result in 3 weeks. My daughter’s surrogate got pregnant after the first attempt. It was a great success. And in 9 months our baby boy was born in the same clinic. Doctors were doing their best to help my daughter and our baby. It was a great experience, which brought us this great kid.
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Yes, your decision is absolutely right. Surrogacy in Ukraine is very successful. Its example is in my neighbourhood. One of my neighbour had her surrogacy done from BioTexCom last year and now she is the proud mother of beautiful twins. She tells us about her wonderful experience in that clinic. She really admired the good price,high levels of services, professional doctors with solid experience of work and of course beautiful country with friendly people. And the most important thing is that, according to the Ukrainian legislation, intented parents (infertile couple) are legal parents of the baby born by surrogate mother. Names of intented parents are written in the baby's birth certificate. Surrogate mother has no right to keep the baby after delivery according to the contract concluded between intented parents and surrogate mother.
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what's such a nice decision. I am happy for you that you have decided to go for another baby. I wish you good luck. Did you ask about the clinic in Ukraine? I have heard all good about it. there are many couples in my circle who are TTC but are unable to get their dreams. I have heard them talking all good and positive about the clinic. keep updating us here.
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Hi there, I hope you are in the best of your health. I have observed quite often that pregnancy cannot be achieved in older age due to the initial increase of menopausal symptoms in the human body. Even if you conceive there are vivid chances that you will have a miscarriage. But this also depends on the person to person immunity. I have seen my aunt and uncle suffer from loneliness as they had only one daughter and after her marriage, they both were all alone. Anyways, your decision to choose surrogacy is brilliant in my belief as one should always go for what his/her soul wants. I have heard quite a lot about this clinic Biotex in Ukraine; well my cousin living in Berlin also chose to go for surrogacy as her first child died at the age of four years. She firstly booked an online appointment there, the surrogate mother couldn’t conceive in the first 4 months and similarly my cousin and her husband did not have patience. So they quit the process and adopted an orphan girl, but I have always received positive views from my cousin about the extra considerate staff. I think you should visit there online website and satisfy yourself with open mind. I pray that you be granted with parenthood again.
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Dear Miapark!! I hope you and your husband are doing good. I feel very sorry for your loneliness but don’t worry its not the end but just think it is the beginning of your life. Its very good to know that you want to become a mother once again. The domain of age in which you are falling is little bit having an uncertainty of getting pregnant by a natural way. So if you have decided to go for surrogacy then it’s a great news that you are opting Biotexcom. I have also done surrogacy from there. yes absolutely, your decision is right. You will get maximum success from there at low price. I wish you a good luck.
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Hello Ma'am! Hope you're doing good. You're telling here that you and your husband feel alone there, as your son lives away, of course, the decision of conceiving another child is not wrong. As you're in your forties so definitely you had to think a lot of taking this decision, but don't worry it doesn't feel weird. Everyone deserves to be happy. Secondly, yes surrogacy is the best decision in this regard if you're not conceiving normally. Well, you can also use IVF but age matters in that case. Surrogacy has helped thousands of people to have children who can't. One of it's greatest pros is it's giving power. The clinic in Ukraine gives the best surrogacy treatment. I hope this helps. Stay Happy and blessed. https://youtu.be/IHp-3NEaQjA
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Hello beautiful ladies.First of all, don't give up! I am 41 years old and had one healthy child.After 3 miscarriages last year, varying in the term, from 5 weeks to 10 weeks. I had given up on having another baby. I too saw an infertility specialist who told me about a clinic in Ukraine I had less than 5% chance of having another child. I was told IVF, egg donation, or adoption were the only choices for me. I was defeated. In early March, I thought that I had the flu and was extremely ill. Imagine my delight when I discovered, I did not have swine flu, but a baby in the works!! Now I am 14 weeks and counting and encourage women feeling hopeless, to not give up. I still had that 5% in my favor, which doesn't seem like much, but I learned a valuable lesson in percentages!! Do not underestimate the power of the human body and hope. a little faith was clearly working here, I won't deny it!!Good luck all don't lose hope nothing is impossible.everything is possible if we are positive.
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what's such a nice decision. I am happy for you that you have decided to go for another baby. I wish you good luck. Did you ask about the clinic in Ukraine? I have heard all good about it. there are many couples in my circle who are TTC but are unable to get their dreams. I have heard them talking all good and positive about the clinic. keep updating us here.
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This is weird. I don't know what is this. Well I don't know how your boy would feel. I think you must talk to them before taking any decision. Well for the case your decision is completely right. The Ukraine has a very high success rate in surogocay. You should try that. Your situation is very complicated. Try to avoid it that would be best.
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Hey there. How are you? Its completely okay to have a child in forties. Age is just a number. You must remember. As you have said, you have tried to be pregnant twice in a year. I think its not enough to think that you cannot conceive. You must try more often. But if you wanna go for surrogacy then yes, in Ukraine there are nice clinics. Especially related to infertility or surrogacy. Surrogacy is a nice option to go for. In this procedure you can use your own eggs. You can also opt for donor's eggs. Look deep into it. Good luck for future.
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I think that's beautiful. People usually engage themselves by turning to pets and stuff but what you think is actually inspiring. Nothing weird at all. So what if your son is 20 if you are willing to bring another beautiful soul into this world, and you can. maybe that place is the best place for you. A fellow neighbour who was about 37 years of age went through surrogacy but the only problem was the price. It's quite expensive and most people can't afford it. There are a number of other treatments as well but most people seem satisfied with surrogacy because the surrogate mother has no right to the child and the birth certificate will bear your name if you ever try. I think it's wonderful and provides a chance to all those who can't have one of their own. In your case, you're blessed and still, it's a golden chance. I suggest that you don't give up on this. Everything is possible if we really want it.I really hope this helps in making a decision. take a lot of care of your diet and pray for the best.
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Hey there! Dear, it is completely normal. Don't make it sound weird. In fact, I think its adorable. You should definitely go for it. Surrogacy is a very trendy method nowadays. It is helping many people have children. Ukraine has amazing infertility clinics. I'm sure you'll have an amazing process. Good Luck!
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Hey Mia. How are you? I think this is a great idea. It does get harder to conceive with age. And even when you do conceive, the pregnancy comes with a lot of risks. It is risky not just for you, but for your child too. You have made a great decision. You also chose a great place for it. I went to Ukraine for my surrogacy too. They are famous for it. So their services are up to the mark too. I assure you that they won't disappoint you. Your post made me so happy. You must be so excited about this. Good luck with your surrogacy. It would be really nice if you keep us updated on your journey.
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Hey, I am sorry for what you are facing. Surrogacy is the best option for you. In surrogacy, your age doesn't matter. It is the right decision you are taking. I am facing uterine polyps and I cannot be a mother again. I have also made my mind for this. My husband wants a baby badly. I am going to surrogacy from Europe clinic. It is affordable as compared to the one in Canada. Every couple wants a baby. I hope this would work for you too. I would suggest you the same clinic because we can trust the staff. They provide healthy surrogates. Some other clinics are there but people cannot rely on them because they may provide unhealthy surrogates. Hopefully, this would work.
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Hii! I hope you're well. I think the age factor might have come in the way of you TTC. Also, you mentioned you only tried twice this year? I think you need to give it a little more than that. If you're unable to still, I'd suggest looking into IVF or surrogacy. There are some great clinics nowadays. For much lower the price in Europe too! I went there for my own. I have a little girl through surrogacy now. I'm so happy with her. It was a great experience. I'm always quick to recommend it. I'd suggest you give it a good thought and decide on something soon. Good luck to you!
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This is a great decision. It doesn't matter even if you guys are aged. It doesn't mean that you can't be happy. Both of you deserve happiness. Both of you have a right to do this. A new baby will fulfill your life with happiness. You'll get busy with the baby and forget about your stress and loneliness. You should definitely give it a try. Surrogacy in Ukraine is very affordable. Your aunt is doing right by calling you there. You should visit there for sure. But please be very careful while choosing the clinic. It is very important to choose the right clinic for this purpose. Make your research on good clinics in Ukraine. Read reviews and feedbacks of people. I hope everything turns out to be exactly like you guys want. It will surely be an amazing journey. Keep updating us. Good luck!
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This forum is best we've ever seen. The success stories of different people made us motivated more and more and helped us in many ways. The best feeling is when someone doesn't know anything about the problem and guided through this forum and gets help the happiness is un describable. It's great. Keep posting. Have a great life.
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Hey there, hope you are doing good. You are lucky that you have a child of your own. He must be the apple of your eyes. Now obviously he is all grown up and you feel lonely. It is a great idea to have another baby. You are not too old. Even if you can conceive, it is okay to consider surrogacy. Because complications increase with age. Obviously, you wouldn't want to sacrifice your health for a baby. Also is your first child on board with this? You know children these days are very different. They consider society pressure to a great extent. The best part is that you have your relative living near the clinic you mentioned. I have heard though they give free accommodation. Best of luck on the new journey, Go for it!
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Age is not a factor. You might have some bodily complications. You should see an OBGYN before making a decision. As you said, surrogacy seems like the option for you. That way you would be safe from any kind of damage too. I hope everything goes well for you.
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Nothing sounds weird. You are always young and beautiful to be a mother. And there is nothing wrong being a mother at any age. It's really great that you have found the reason. You must not be later in having this gift. Thank you for making us believe that you are never older to have a baby. I wish you to be blessed with the baby soon. Surrogacy is no doubt a great option to have a baby at any age possible. And as long as you have this blessing you are never left hopeless
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You have a very sad story. Surrogacy is the best choice. Because you are too old to give birth to the child. There are rare chances of conceiving the baby after 40. You have taken very good decision to go for surrogacy. Keep updating us on your journey. I hope you will enjoy it.
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Wow! this is wonderful. I really don't have any idea about it. I can guess about how your boy is feeling currently. Before taking any decision, you'd consult them. Well, your decision is right and wise. Surrogacy success rate in Europe is very high. You'd go for the treatment. Best of luck dear!
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Hi, I hope you and your husband are doing well. I am happy to hear about your decision. Life is nothing without kids. Also it is hard to conceive after 40. Your decision about surrogacy is right. I know it is hard for you to make a decision like this at this stage. But luckily your husband supports you. I am also an infertile. I chose surrogacy as an alternative. One of my friend recommended Ukraine for surrogacy. We move Ukraine for treatment. We consulted many clinics but satisfied with Bio TexCom. They found a good surrogate for us. The package is also reasonable. Hospital staff is friendly and caring. They took good care of me and the surrogate. Now i have a surrogate child. I am living happily with my family. For more details visit http://mother-surrogate.info/
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Hey, I think it is a great idea. Your husband is right you shouldn't think that way. Surrogacy has enabled so many people to have children. I also got my process done from there and it was a success. They are operating legally which is extremely important. Apart from that, they provide you with child's legal documents so that you don't have to face difficulties when moving back. Best of luck. I am sure everything will go perfectly fine.
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Hello, 41 years is a great age for a woman. I hope that surrogacy can help you. I think, the second child will be able to give you a feeling of youth and new energy. It seems to me that your husband chose the right option. But perhaps IVF can help you? Have you visited a doctor? Perhaps you do not have any problems and you can get pregnant naturally? I wish you success in this matter and I await your answers and news!

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