Bonding is a term used to describe the initial building of a relationship between you and your new baby. Many people perceive it to be something that is instant and spontaneous. For some new parents it is, but for most, it will take time. You may feel that there is something wrong with you if it doesn't happen as soon as your baby is born. But having just survived the toughest physical and emotional challenge of your life, it is hardly surprising if you don't feel up to behaving how the books tell you to!