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can you advise something?
Hello, forum visitors! I need some help. Well, let me tell you my story. I always wanted to become a mother and have my own child. My husband wants to have a baby too. But I can't have my own children. But I want to have a full family. It was very difficult, but my husband and I decided to turn to IVF. We have been looking for a clinic for a long time. And finally find one that we liked. We passed some tests. It took not so much time. The results were great, and the procedure was started. But it failed. Yeah, I lost my unborn baby. I can’t calm down even now. Of course, after some time, I became a bit stronger. We decided to continue and try once again. But it was a failure again. And I don’t understand why. The results of analysis were normal. But it is still unclear why the procedure was failed more than once. And now we just don't know what to do. Is there any sense to continue? Should we try one more time? Or it is time to give up on it? It seems that we lost all the hope. And you know, I almost don't believe in a success. My husband tries to support me. But I feel so bad. What do you think about it? What should I do in this situation?
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Hi, Julia! I am really sorry to hear this story. You know, a lot of women has the same problem that you are. And actually, I one of them. So, I know how to help you. Yeah, I completely know what you feel now. I also cannot get pregnant on my own. But I always wanted to have a baby. My husband and I turned to IVF too. But the first attempt wasn’t successful. We were so sad. It was so difficult to calm down. I almost lost my hope and was depressed. I even needed some medical help. After some period of time I understood that I needed to make a decision. And I wanted to try one more time. I was very afraid of failure, but continued to believe in a success. We turned to another clinic and were satisfied with the results. Now my spouse and I have a full family and we are happy. I think that you need to decide for yourself what you really want to do next. But start only when you are really ready for it. Don't give up! This is the worst thing you may do. Only you may make you dream come true. Think about it. Moreover, you may try not only IVF. Surrogacy is one of the best ways too. Also, you may adopt a child. So, there are many choices. Don't lose your hope and go on. If you need an advice, I will be happy to help. Hope, that you will be fine.
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Oh, Lisa, thanks for your support. It is what I really need now. It made me think about the situation once again. Of course, you are right. I am the only person who can make my dream come true. Now I need to cope with the stress and try again. Actually, your story inspired me. I think you are a very strong person! You know, I want change clinics too. But I don't know which is better to choose. I would be very happy if you helped me with this question. Please tell me something about clinics you know. Maybe there's one you can recommend. Or just tell about the clinic you turned too. You know, I am so glad because there a person who can help me. It is very important for me. So, I hope that you have some information to share. Every piece of information will be important.
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I know what you feel know. That's why I want to help you. Well, you know, I don't know much about clinics too. So, I tell you a little about the clinic I chose. Well, it is a Ukrainian clinic. It is called BioTexCom. In my opinion it is pretty good one. Actually, I turned only to this clinic, that is why I cannot tell whether it is better than the others or not. But I really liked it. The doctors are true specialists. They really know what they do. The conditions for patients are great too. As far as I know today this clinic is supposed to be one of the best in Europe. By the way, if you want to, you may learn some information from their video blog. This is the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_W0ePBKT5qA. Well, I think that the idea to create it was very good. I saw several videos. I can say that they are not long, but pretty informative. Specialists from the clinic answer all the most popular questions. And you can learn information not only about the clinic. They tell also about IVF in general. And it really helps all the people who is going to turn to IVF, but don't have enough information. In general the clinic is good. They really care about their clients. They have very high percentage of a success. And their prices are normal. Hope that the information I shared will help you. And the most important: believe in yourself, doctors and success. Everything will be fine. Good luck! Believe in a success!
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Thanks for help! I am so happy to get this information. It is so important for me. And not only for me, but for people, who is going to turn to IVF too. Thanks for your advice. Hope that you will be fine too. Good luck to you and your family!
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Hi Julia, hope you are doing well. I can understand that facing a failure is very difficult. I have faced 2 failed ectopic pregnancies and 2 failed IUI attempts. I know it hurts a lot. But please keep trying and you ll definitely find your way. I have been TTC for 10 years and finally I have contacted a clinic in Ukraine. They seem very nice people and I am thinking to visit them soon.
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Hey Julia, hope you are doing well. I understand it is very difficult to bear infertility. I know what is the pain of loosing a baby. I was also pregnant once but I fell from stairs and lost my child. It was the worst experience of my life. Doctor told me take rest for a few months. I agreed and when afterwards i TTC i got no luck.Doctors told me that I am a patient of endometriosis. And I cant conceive naturally. I then tried IVF twice but unfortunately IVF didnt worked for me and my endometriosis won the battle. I am now opting for surrogacy . After approaching many unprofessional clinics my husband and I have finally found a reliable one in Ukraine. We visited their clinic and decided to get our treatment from them. We are scouting surrogates to start our gestational surrogacy journey. The clinic is very supportive and they are assisting us in finding SM and handling all relevant paper work.
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Hey, Julia, I hope you are doing well. I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I can understand that this can be something really hard to go through. You have to be very strong. The thing is IVF in itself is very unpredictable. So after one point, even doctors have nothing in hand and its all luck. I think that you shouldn't give up yet. Opt for a second IVF because of the chances of success increase after the first IVF. For IVF one thing that is really is important is that the clinic you visit should have a high success rate. The doctors year of experience also really matters. The more the doctor is experienced the better it is. However, make sure to get the report on why you had an MC. This is something that is really important. This will help doctors in knowing how to carry the second IVF. See if it was because of the quality of the embryos.
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Hey there, how are you? I hope you're doing fine. I am really sorry about your past. Life is made up of hurdles. One must not give up that easily. I am really glad that you have chosen surrogacy. Surrogacy is a real blessing. It is now popular in many countries and is supported as well. Surrogacy is a gift for infertile couples. With the increase in infertility, more couples are engaging towards surrogacy. The success rate is better than any other infertility treatment. There are so many success stories available on the internet. Be careful about choosing a clinic. Thanks and hoping best for everyone.
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Please accept my deepest condolences. I can understand your pain. You had struggled a lot in your life. I really appreciate your efforts. You are such a strong lady. You are so lucky that your husband still sporting you. Dont be hopeless. I know a good fertility clinic. Its located in Ukraine name Biotexcom. I heard many positive reviews about this clinic. They are the top of the ranked infertility treatment. You should consult with this clinic. I'm sure they will help you to become a mother. Biotexcom is also organizing an event about fertility treatment. Its a great source of knowledge for people. I'm also going to attend this event. Anyways, Good luck in the future.
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Hello there! I am well aware from your situation. There are a lot of women who are facing the same situation. I am also in the same boat. Is was declared infertile and the reason is very painful. let me share with you. I had 2 miscarriages simultaneously. It was due to some complications in my womb. I consult with doctors about this problem. I was misdiagnosed by them. They diagnosed me for PCOS. It leads me toward infertility. Then I consult with a clinic which is in Europe. They recommend that surrogacy is the best option for me. So I decide to opt for surrogacy. They give full attention and carried my treatment with full concentration. Now I have a baby through surrogacy. I will advise you to go to that clinic. The staff is really very sincere. They will definitely recommend you the good solution. GOOD LUCK!
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Hey Julia! I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know how painful it would have been for you. It is not easy to lose your unborn child. I have been in a similar situation before. Infertility is a very dreadful thing that can happen to a person. I was about to give up on my life. Loneliness was becoming suicidal for me. But then, my husband researched a lot for me and told me we can opt for surrogacy. Furthermore, my cousin told me she had her child from surrogacy too. Now I am opting for surrogacy at BioTexcom clinic. So far I have had a few sessions with them. Their staff is so responsive. When I visit them, it feels like I am the most important patient. And the best part is, soon they are having an open session. So we all can grab this opportunity to get some of our queries cleared.
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I am so sorry for you Julia. I have also survived 2 failed IVF attempts. Even my husband divorced me afterwards. It was a very difficult time for me but i am remarried now. To start my treatment I contacted and visited a clinic in Ukraine. Finally I have found a clinic worth trying. I am searching for a surrogate now to start my surrogacy treatment.
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Stay consistent. That's the only way to achieve something. If IVF is not working, go for surrogacy. Do not lose hope. I hope you will succeed. There are good clinics in Ukraine. You should go there.
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Hello dear! Do not be depressed about your conceiving, there is great news. I was also waiting for their event. The clinic in Europe is the best of the best clinic is the well-renowned clinic. The doctors and staff there are so experienced. They are so encouraging. I had my surrogacy from there . They also told me the whole process pros and cons treatment. They treat under the proper law and rules. So no one could have to face any difficulties in the future. They are also treating the surrogacy. They provide surrogate mothers as well. Now one of my friends is facing Infertility. She wants to consult the clinic. I am waiting for their venue. So she could meet up them there. They are also conducting the open session and will answer all the questions relating to infertility. Hope no one would be to miss this chance
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Hi Julia. How are you doing? I hope you're fine. These things can take a toll on people. Having IVF. and then losing your baby. It's just cruel. Why would anyone suffer this? It's just unbearable. You need to go for surrogacy now. I have a great clinic in mind for you. It's in Ukraine. If you're able to travel. All your needs will be fulfilled. I guarantee you. Take care, honey.
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hey, there dear! I am glad thatb you have chosen this forum to share your issue s and the suggestions. Well, I am not an expert to tell you which treatment is better IVF or surrogacy. But I can guide you with one thing that is the clinics. Just stay away from the clinic named Adonis. They have been simply deceiving the couples and using them for money. So stay careful. Wish you all the best.
Avril
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Hello, Julia. How are you doing? I hope you find this in the best of health and happiness. First off, I am very sorry for your loss. This is a huge thing. You've been through so much. But you shouldn't give up. Give it one more try. You deserve it. You've already tried so much. Try it once again. It'll work for you. And if not, there are plenty of other options. Like surrogacy and ICSI. Any of them will work. You have our prayers. Good luck!
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Hi, there I am going to share my experience with you.I was 28 years old when I get married to my teacher. I lived happily .after some years I came to know that I was unable to have a child. So we decided to use IVF method for this. In this method, all the procedure is done outside the women body. it was a different experience for me and now I am having 3 children. using this treatment we are happy and we are having a good time with our children. I take the treatment form clinic in London.so nothing is impossible in this world .females who are suffering like me must not lose hope and never give up.there is a solution for every problem. In my point of view, difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations.
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Hey Julia! How are you doing? I feel so sorry for what you had gone through. But honey, you don't need to lose hope. Hope is everything. I suggest you go for surrogacy. Good news to share with you that biotexcom world best fertility clinic is going to conduct an open session soon. It will be a great chance for you to have an initial consultation right there. You will be able to meet the English department head Anastasia and get all necessary information regarding the treatment in the clinic. You will also have a chance to sign a contract right there. It is a lifetime opportunity for yourself. Grab that opportunity. Seats are limited so reserve your seat as soon as possible. I hope you will help out. Stay blessed.
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Hey there Julia. How are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really sorry to hear about your issue. I am glad that you reached out. I know how hard it gets. I have been on this road too. I know the pain. However, we have to be strong. I had mc too back then. I went for surrogacy in Ukraine. Maybe you should give it a try. Lots of love for you. I hope you get what you want. Please stay strong and be positive. Lots of love and support.
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Hi julia,Hope you are doing well.I am sorry to hear about what happened.I understand you must be going through.I too have gone through this.I would recommend you to change the clinic.A clinic which is more reliable and renowned. Secondly i would recommend you to go for surrogacy.As compared to IVF surrogacy has higher success rate.In the last i would say you can fulfill your dreams of having a family.Just dont give up.
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Hey, hope you are doing well. Good luck with that. I hope you find a clinic soon. I am also looking for a clinic as well. The clinic who offers legal procedure. I am visiting biotexcom clinic these days for my surrogacy. And what really impressed me about them is their procedures are so reliable. they have a proper legal way to proceed the procedures. you should contact this clinic. In fact the clinic is going to arrange en event soon for people like. All the doctors along with head will be there. You have a chance to try them out there. Do visit the event
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Hi there. You have been through so much. I am so sorry. I have been through infertility. Surrogacy is one of the best procedures for TTC. Starting i was devastated when i found out that i had a pelvis inflammatory disease and because of that i could never get pregnant . My husband and i were beyond devastated, We went for surrogacy. The procedure is worth it. Just stay positive. Surrogacy is the best thing to have happened to me.
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Oh dear. How are you doing? How is everything going? My heart goes out to you. You have been through so much. Yet I am glad you have not given up. You should go for it again and do not give up. Also, you can look into other options as well. I have had 3 failed IVFs. We are now thinking about surrogacy. It is an amazing option for couples like us who cannot conceive ourselves. I have heard a lot of positive results. I am so looking forward to it. We have shortlisted a clinic and we are so excited about it. I really hope they meet our needs. I want to know as much before I go there. Wishing you the best. Stay strong things will work out.
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I think you should try one more time. You know what the thing is? When you are seeking. Everything is fine. Everything is going alright. There is no need to take tension. You have to worry about one thing. That is to find a right place for your help. It's essential. It's most helpful. My advice to you is that you should find someplace good for your help. It would be great for you. You never had to worry about anything. Take care.
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Hey Julia, you seem really stressed. You are going through such a tough time. Infertility is increasing rapidly day by day. Majority of the women are becoming a victim of this horrible disease. Of course, every woman wishes to become a mother. Yes, you can still become a mother. Age doesn’t matter in this situation. Just have patience. Patience and persistence makes an unbeatable combination for success. I suggest you to consult a good clinic in Europe. My sister is having her surrogacy from there. She was really nervous and scared before visiting the clinic. She got her appointment within month and was quite satisfied with the facilities offered by the clinic. She was also offered affordable packages. You must visit this clinic once. I'm a hundred percent sure that you will get a positive result. Baby dust to you.
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Hi there. don't you worry so much? It's not your or your husband's fault. I wish to connect with people suffering from infertility. Those are haunted by this natural condition? I extend gratitude to you and everyone who has confronted distress due to this condition. Infertility is not a disease. We are all here to support each other. Who are inclined to helping hopeless couples not feel alone. I would like to share about this wonderful clinic I visited for my pregnancy issues. That has been so helpful. They uplifted my spirit to peruse surrogacy and treated me affectionately. I was once again content with hope. Now I am blessed with two children. Both with IVF, I took this treatment after detail consultation sessions on an expert doctors recommendation. You two can also contact them for help.
Sincerely, Naiymer xoxo
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Hi There. How are you doing? Hope you are doing fine. We are doing good. I read your post. I hope all goes well for you. It is really sad to see people going through such difficulties. Life is unpredictable. IVFs are risky at this age. Surrogacy would be the right option for you. It is a blessing for infertile couples. I suggest you go for surrogacy. I hope all goes well for you. Take care. God bless.
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Hello you. I am so sorry to hear about you. I can feel your pain. But I think you must not give up. There must be some other option for it. I hope you will find something good. Visit some expert for your situation. My best wishes are with you.
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Hey Julia, I hope you are well. I am really sorry to read about your failed cycle. I can understand how hard this must be for you. However, my suggestion to you would be to not lose hope. I would advice you to switch your clinic. Doctors also have a huge impact on the process. If the doctor is expereinced and has a high success rate then things would end up well as well. Therefore, research more about the clinic. It is important to put your money in the right place. Therefore, the clinic you should be elected very carefully. Look at their services and various programs as well. Good luck to you. I hope everything works out for you.
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I am extremely sorry to hear about your failed IVF cycle. My honest advice to you would be to change your clinic. Visit a clinic with a high success rate. Make sure the doctors are experienced and knowledgeable. Don't give up hope! Best of luck to you. I am always here to help. Sending baby dust your way.
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Hey, Julia, I am extremely sorry to hear about your failed cycles. I am sure this must be extremely hard for you. However, don't worry things will get better. Don't lose hope! IVF is a bit unpredictable and therefore, you will never know if it will work. However, for the process, it is very important to visit a clinic that is operating at a high success rate. A friend of mine visited a clinic for 5 of her IVF cycles and all five of them failed. However, when she changed her doctor in her second cycle thing worked for her. I myself am an avid believer of this. Research is very important for the progress of the process. The clinic I myself am visiting is doing a really good job and the reason behind that is good doctors and the staff. They offer amazing services and programs as well. I am in the middle of the process. Honestly, speaking I have never been this satisfied. Good luck to you.
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Hey, Julia, I am really sorry to hear about your failed cycle. I can understand that can be very disheartening. However, I would say that don't lose hope. IVF is unpredictable and things can improve as well. My advice to you would be to maybe give IVF another try. How many eggs were you able to produce during this cycle? What did doctors say was the reason that things didn't work for you? An important thing for IVF is that you visit a doctor that has a high success rate. He/She should be experienced and should know what they are doing. I would really suggest you switch the clinic. IVF, of course, is unpredictable as well, however, the chances increase if the doctor knows how to carry the process out. Good luck to you. If you want help let me know. I didn't have any help when I was deciding upon a clinic, therefore, I like to help everyone Sending baby dust your way. Sending baby dust your way.
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Hello. How are you doing? Sorry to know about this. This happens to so many people and is actually quite common. Maybe IVF isn't for you. IVF doesn't confirm pregnancy. People who are about to start this procedure should prepare themselves for any possibility. If you want you can go for it again. Just for your satisfaction. Nobody knows it might work this time. Just be hopeful. You can stop here too if you feel like it. You can meet with your doctor and discuss the options you are left with. There are other ways to have a baby too. I hope this was helpful. Don't give up yet.

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